Why do people always tell me im being emotionally abused?!


Question: Just because my parents shout at me and tell me bad things about the other parent and call me fat and tell me i need to lose weight etc. also they say i cut myself because of this but only to make myself feel better, is it really emotional abuse? and what can i do about it?


Answers: Just because my parents shout at me and tell me bad things about the other parent and call me fat and tell me i need to lose weight etc. also they say i cut myself because of this but only to make myself feel better, is it really emotional abuse? and what can i do about it?

The truth is, our parents are supposed to love us, and be supportive of us. They shouldn't make us feel bad about ourselves. If your parents do yell a lot, and speak badly about each other often (even if they are divorced), and call you fat, they are not giving you the loving environment you need. This is a form of emotional abuse. First, your parents are trying to turn you against the other parent when they talk about each other, and that isn't fair to you, because you should be allowed to love both of your parents if you want to--or at least to make your own decisions about them. Secondly, your parents by shouting a lot, and calling you fat are making you feel bad about yourself, rather than feel good. You will ultimately be getting mixed messages about yourself, and probably begin questioning whether your parents really love you or whether you are good enough for them. That is what happens in an abusive environment. I don't like to talk about it, but my home environment growing up was emotionally abusive as well. I didn't recognise it for what it was at the time either. And now, as an adult, sometimes I still have trouble believing anybody could ever really love me, and I wonder if I can ever really trust another human being fully. I think the most important thing for you to realize is that this IS NOT YOUR FAULT. For whatever reason, your parents are being selfish, and they do perhaps do not realize what they are doing, and probably are not capable of truling loving another person. It is NOT because you aren't lovable. It is just that you were unlucky enough to be born into this situation, this family. But you can change things. You CAN take control of your own life. It may be difficult, but you can do it. You can decide to be happier. You can decide not to listen/(believe) to the things they say about you. Probably the best thing you can do is tell someone about it. Talk to someone about it. A guidance counselor or doctor. Counseling will probably help, it will help you sort through your feelings. And if you are also depressed, maybe you will eventually be pointed in the right direction to get help for that too. Counseling will also help you to set goals for your life, too. What do you want to do with your life--When you "grow up" and move OUT of your parent's house? That will be a big step for you. It will help make you happier, but if you don't start dealing with your feelings now, you will take them with you as an adult. You won't just move out & suddenly be happy. Think about seeing a counselor--setting goals for yourself, and talking about what you want for your life, as well as sorting out your feelings will help, I think. I hope this helps. Good luck!

move out, get help.

it is a mental abuse.....if you keep hearing these stuff from your parents , you're gonna start believing it when it's not true...tell someone you trust like your teachers or other family relations~~
you have to! your parents are abusing you and it's not good

I think its both emotional and mental abuse. Get help now

yes it is emotional abuse. i suggest you ignore your parents bc you deserve better and you are better. you do what makes you happy not what they say. but you should not cut yourself. it is very dangerous.

It is emotional abuse. There are better ways to help a child lose weight-like cooking healthier meals, encouraging activity. Parents also should not discuss their problems involving the other parent with the kids!
Are you getting any kind of help? Emotionally healthy people don't cut themselves! What you can do is talk to your counselor at school; if you don't know who that is, ask a teacher.





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