Obsessed with Beauty?!
Question: I am obsessed with being perfect. I think I need help but I don't know what to do. I know it sounds stupid, & I don't know how common this is, but I am 5'3" weigh 110, am skinny (well, that's what I'm told), but I always think that I can be better, I feel that my face is a little chubby (my cheeks) I guess because I am just 16 yet that my face has some baby fat or something but I hate it, I get SO self-conscious sometimes & think about it often. I think I have big thighs & want to get rid of a little lower tummy I have. I don't even know if I need 2 fix these things...I get so worked up about eating right n stuff that I start to binge @ night sometimes...everyone tells me I'm beautiful. I always look in any mirror or anywhere I can c my reflection. Sometimes if I'm around my best friend & she looks like really good that day I am so jealous even though I look really good, it's hard to explain but that's how I feel a lot during school. Do I possible have BDD? I just want to be perfect
Answers: I am obsessed with being perfect. I think I need help but I don't know what to do. I know it sounds stupid, & I don't know how common this is, but I am 5'3" weigh 110, am skinny (well, that's what I'm told), but I always think that I can be better, I feel that my face is a little chubby (my cheeks) I guess because I am just 16 yet that my face has some baby fat or something but I hate it, I get SO self-conscious sometimes & think about it often. I think I have big thighs & want to get rid of a little lower tummy I have. I don't even know if I need 2 fix these things...I get so worked up about eating right n stuff that I start to binge @ night sometimes...everyone tells me I'm beautiful. I always look in any mirror or anywhere I can c my reflection. Sometimes if I'm around my best friend & she looks like really good that day I am so jealous even though I look really good, it's hard to explain but that's how I feel a lot during school. Do I possible have BDD? I just want to be perfect
I am the same way. I am always looking for a beautiful girl in the mirror but all i see is the same boring girl. My family an everyone tell me i am pretty but be4 I just could see it. I that we look at ourselves so much we get bored and want more. When we see another pretty person we think she looks prettier just because she looks different. we get all mixed up.
P.S don't loose anymore weight i calculated it and you are underweight. exercise just eat lots of nutritious foods
NO ONES PERFECT HONEY, the sooner you realize that the sooner you will get over yourself
HI--It's possible you could have Body Dysmorphic Disorder. (BDD).Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) is characterized by an excessive preoccupation with a real or imagined defect in your physical appearance.
People with body dysmorphic disorder have a distorted or exaggerated view of how they look and are obsessed with actual physical characteristics or perceived flaws, such as a certain facial feature or imperfections of the skin. They often think of themselves as ugly or disfigured. People with body dysmorphic disorder often have problems controlling negative thoughts about their appearance, even when reassured by others that they look fine and that the minor or perceived flaws aren't noticeable or excessive.
Treatment for body dysmorphic disorder may involve a combined approach involving medication and talk therapy (psychotherapy). Antidepressant medications used along with cognitive behavior therapy can help people with body dysmorphic disorder manage the obsession and anxiety about their appearance, increase confidence in how they look, and obtain normalcy in their social and work lives.
The signs and symptoms of body dysmorphic disorder include:
Frequently comparing appearance with that of others
Repeatedly checking the appearance of the specific body part in mirrors or other reflective surfaces
Refusing to have pictures taken
Wearing excessive clothing, makeup and hats to camouflage the perceived flaw
Using hands or posture to hide the imagined defect
Frequently touching the perceived flaw
Picking at one's skin
Frequently measuring the imagined or exaggerated defect
Elaborate grooming rituals
Excessive researching about the perceived defective body part
Seeking surgery or other medical treatment despite contrary opinions or medical recommendations
Seeking reassurance about the perceived defect or trying to convince others that it's abnormal or excessive
Avoiding social situations in which the perceived flaw might be noticed
Feeling anxious and self-conscious around others (social phobia) because of the imagined defect
People with severe body dysmorphic disorder may drop out of school, quit their jobs or avoid leaving their homes. In the most severe cases, people with BDD may consider or attempt suicide.
Certain physical obsessions are common in a person with body dysmorphic disorder. These include:
Overall size, shape or symmetry of a certain facial feature, such as size or shape of nose
Moles or freckles perceived as too large or noticeable
Acne and blemishes
Minor scars or skin abrasions
Too much facial or body hair
Baldness
Breast size
Muscles perceived as too small
Size or shape of genitalia
***Shame and embarrassment may keep you from seeking treatment for body dysmorphic disorder. But even if your anxiety and rituals are deeply ingrained, treatments can help. If you suspect you have BDD, see your doctor or a mental health professional.***
It sounds to me like you are simply a perfectionist! :)
It's okay...just don't get hard on yourself! Look in the mirror and make a list of the good features about you!
We are already perfect in God's eye. So who are you trying to impress???