I was raped....?!
Question: I was raped when I was 15, and am now 22. I feel like I have gotten over it, but I guess not. I feel this is affecting my sex life now and the way I feel about myself. I am opposed to therapy and stopped taking medications a while back, because they did not help (I took a lot of different ones) and now cannot fit them into my budget. How do I just get over it?!?!?!
Answers: I was raped when I was 15, and am now 22. I feel like I have gotten over it, but I guess not. I feel this is affecting my sex life now and the way I feel about myself. I am opposed to therapy and stopped taking medications a while back, because they did not help (I took a lot of different ones) and now cannot fit them into my budget. How do I just get over it?!?!?!
I am so sorry you have been put through that trama...I can only say even though you were 15 and years have passed, it must seem like just yesterday to you. It seems to me you could be suffering from some Post Tramatic Stress, (understandably so). And if you truly are opposed to therapy perhaps getting some books out of the library on both the topics of rape, and also PTS. They may lend some more solid help for you gaining ground on this terrible event in your life. My heart goes out to you. Rape is the most vicious crime against a human than can be given. Just remember as long as your held up in this, your still a struggling victim. Use the sheer will to pull through it, tough as it is, and turn yourself into a survivor. Perhaps even a local support group would help you also. Hope things get better for you. You are not alone. Take care!
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I was raped too, maybe family will help you family helped me
Professional therapy is your best (and possibly only) answer.
Trust me, it's not that bad. In fact it's actually wonderful and one of the best decisions you can make. There is a saying, which I belive wholeheartedly, which goes "Normal people are the ones in therapy; it's the ones not in therapy that we should worry about."
Maybe you have mild Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. If so you need psychiatric treatment urgently.
Ok; first, I'm sorry this happened to you. Clearly, it's not something that should happen to ANYONE.
However: you don't want to take meds, and you don't want therapy, so exactly what are you expecting to happen by not doing anything? Do you expect this to happen by magic? I'm a bit mystified as to what you expect, and the mechanism by which you expect things to change. Nobody just "gets over it." You have to take SOME kind of action. Until you're willing to do that, NOBODY can help you.
Sorry to hear that has happened to you but--you don't get over it, that's one of those things that's all ways gonna be in the back of your mind or you will think about it when you least expect it so my advise is delve into it, talk about it and solve it, even if you need to talk to a professional or the police but don't ignore it or you'll be asking this same question with in the next 6 months.------keino
The best thing to do is go to a therapist. If you aren't going to take medication you should make sure you are eating right and exercising because if you are healthy you will start to feel better about other things in your life. A therapist will talk to you and it is sometimes better to get opinions from someone educated that you don't know then just talking about it with friends. If you need medicine you need to find a way to afford it because you can't be miserable and something terrible may happen if you keep neglecting yourself of what you need.
Go to Pregnancy crises center they can refer you to a women counselor that have been tru same exact thing,Then you can help other young girls that have same feelings,overcome when you are well
Sorry you had to lose your innocense in such a violent, vile way. But the others are right. There's no magic wand that can erase it and at his point, you should definitely not rely on drugs to numb it away. I understand therapy can be daunting, but it is really the best thing you can do for yourself. Find a support group of women who've gone through similar experiences. Perhaps even your church might have some help. You need to dig in there and air it out. This is the only way you'll overcome this. Please seek help. You are still so young and keeping this inside only gives your rapist even more power over you. Don't let him take away your joy. Sex is a wonderful, life affirming experience when you're with someone you love. Give yourself time to find this. Seek help to learn to trust and forgive again. Best of luck to you.
I think therapy is your best bet. I went and it really helped. I was also told I suffer from post traumatic stress. The thing about this type of situation is that you can go along thinking you gotten over it and then something can trigger you and you feel like you are back to square one.
I went to the local Sexual Assault Centre and was given excellent free counselling with no meds. Meds, in my opinion, are a band aid solution they just numb your emotions and the real problem never gets solved.
I do not believe a person ever really "gets over it" but you learn to deal with it. Be thankful you don't get flashbacks they are scary as h*** even when you know they aren't real.
Best of luck to you, I really hope you get the help you need.