I think i messed up, but i dont know what to do?!
Question: I was always the good girl, i havent ever done anything bad i was the one my parents could trust.... i met this guy online and we talked for well over a year.. i guess having a friend to talk to was always nice.. hes 25.. im 16... he lived 2 towns away.. like a hour.. and well we went and saw a movie.. which i brought a friend with me.. and he seemed to nice.. then he said his cousin was having a birthday party and asked if i wanted to go.. i went not thinking much about it.. i havent ever even drank.. until i was there.. i made the stupid choice to drink.. i got drunk off of almost nothing. i dont remember anything.. but i found pictures on my phone of things that shouldnt have happened and he wont talk to me about that night.. im just not sure if i should let it go. or tell my parents what happened.... but i cant get it off my mind...... and i dont think i will ever trust anyone ever again...
Answers: I was always the good girl, i havent ever done anything bad i was the one my parents could trust.... i met this guy online and we talked for well over a year.. i guess having a friend to talk to was always nice.. hes 25.. im 16... he lived 2 towns away.. like a hour.. and well we went and saw a movie.. which i brought a friend with me.. and he seemed to nice.. then he said his cousin was having a birthday party and asked if i wanted to go.. i went not thinking much about it.. i havent ever even drank.. until i was there.. i made the stupid choice to drink.. i got drunk off of almost nothing. i dont remember anything.. but i found pictures on my phone of things that shouldnt have happened and he wont talk to me about that night.. im just not sure if i should let it go. or tell my parents what happened.... but i cant get it off my mind...... and i dont think i will ever trust anyone ever again...
I am so sorry that this happened to you. What this man did is illegal and not only should you tell your parents you should also call the police. I'm not sure by your description what all he may have done but possibly you should look in to some sort of counseling. A lot of counseling is free. The rape crisis center offers counseling as does Catholic Family Charities. You do not have to be Catholic to go there. The National hot line number for Rape Crisis is 800-656-4673. Being 16 is hard (I remember). I'm a mom of three grown kids now and although it may seem to you like your parents wouldn't understand I'm sure that they love you and only want what is best for you. Please talk to them and don't just let this go. What this man did was wrong. Good luck!!
He's just a guy going after young girls to brag about it. Just don't see him again, and try to stay with people of your own age.
You should alert the authorities that you may have been raped. First of all, if you don't remember anything, it could be a brownout from alcohol, or it could be date-rape drugs (If this happened recently, they can test your system for date-rape drugs). He is 25 and you are 16 so regardless of what the circumstances are, you've been statutorily raped (Unless the age of consent in your country is 16, I think in most countries it's 18). There is something very not right with what he did. I suggest you tell your parents that you were taken advantage of. Or talk to a counselor.
I'm sure he called it a b-day party,but it wasn't really.he lured you from the Internet and got what he wanted from you.to keep things unchaotic with your parents just dont say anything,i think you have learned your lesson.
Please talk to your parents -- if you were the one your parents 'could trust', don't stop being her now! You can pretty much tell them just what you've said here and allow them to help you to make a decision about what should happen next. Please don't go through this alone! You mention having brought another friend along when you went to the movies with him -- was that the same night and did your friend go too? Talk to your friend and maybe you can even have her be with you when you talk to your parents. Preface your talk with your folks with the fact that you feel you have made a mistake and regret it -- but that you never want to lose their trust in you and you need their help. This is going to be okay -- just don't suffer with this in silence. If you keep this to yourself I believe your parents would be more upset than they will be at your lapse in good judgment on this one occasion. Good luck -- I'll keep you in my prayers. You're still the 'good girl'. Don't let one 'bad guy' cloud your world about everyone -- just develop more skepticism where you need to protect yourself!
If you have no memory after drinking a small amount, it is possible your drink was drugged.
I really think you should tell your parents, or some other trusted adult (school counsellor?).
You do need to consider health issues both physical and emotional after an experience like this. Just trying to forget it will not help in the long run
You should tell you parents, and then not do anything stupid like that again. you are a lucky girl ,you made it home. don't you watch the news? next time you might not be so lucky.and just think of what that would do to your parents.
please stick with guys your own age and don't meet anyone else from the internet.
To me he sounds to be a cheat. Stay away from his company.
I think you should let it go. I don't know your parents, but I have a feeling that if you tell them it may just cause more problems. Just deal with it yourself. If you don't like holding it in, let it all out to your good friends, which I'm sure you may have already done. Try to learn from your mistake, if you feel you've committed one, and that'll rid of you of your guilt. The way you asked your question already shows that you've learned your lesson, so don't worry about it anymore. What's done is done - it's over. Enjoy the new year! I'm sure you'll be a little more responsible next time a similar situation occurs. Take it easy!
Also, if anything 'serious' happen at the party, it would be wise to get yourself 'checked' for 'things' periodically, you know what I'm saying? Err, you don't want to end up pregnant, to put it blatantly. Haha, sorry if I got the wrong idea. But yeah, umm, you know what, this is the net so I shouldn't feel awkward. Okay, if you miss your next period, take a urine pregnancy test like 2 or 3 days after.
Alright, well, I hope that helped some. And yeah, once again, sorry if I got the wrong idea. K, time to sleep for me! Good night. I hope you have a great life. Take care!
well... if you think something happened with this older guy.. do tell your parents.. he took advantage of you. being 16 in all.. dont let him get away with this. ok so your parents may be upset, in the end you will feel so much better. really please dont let this go..
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uh o this isn't good he could of slipped you something if you feel comfortable tell your parents u can't trust someone on line its too easy for them to be who they want to be ............. i would not be in contact with him and if you don't want to tell your folks you should get tested for diseases make sure your ok. chalk it up we all do dumb things and at your age this kind of stuff happens