How can i believe in myself without letting my parents negative attitude get to !
Question: I never really thought about how my parents are straight up dream killers. I mean in every aspect. I'm 18 and i have my own job so if i want something then i pay for everything.
That way they can't say "No I am not paying for that". I thought i'd just share with my mother what my plans are. She is so unbelievably unsupportive. I want to believe in myself so much but sometimes it's hard when my parents don't think i have the ability or power to be anything. This has been this way my entire life. It's more my mother than my dad. Should i just keep everything to myself. p.s my dad isn't much help either. It's just a punch in the face sometimes. The more i think about it the more i hate my mother.
Answers: I never really thought about how my parents are straight up dream killers. I mean in every aspect. I'm 18 and i have my own job so if i want something then i pay for everything.
That way they can't say "No I am not paying for that". I thought i'd just share with my mother what my plans are. She is so unbelievably unsupportive. I want to believe in myself so much but sometimes it's hard when my parents don't think i have the ability or power to be anything. This has been this way my entire life. It's more my mother than my dad. Should i just keep everything to myself. p.s my dad isn't much help either. It's just a punch in the face sometimes. The more i think about it the more i hate my mother.
Sometimes parents are toxic. Sad, but true. Hopefully you have a friend or other relative(s) who can be more supportive. If not, just keep those dreams to yourself and be your own support system. You sound like a smart person with a good head on their shoulders. Be responsible and do what you need to do to make those dreams a reality--and believe in yourself. Perhaps your parents are shooting down your dreams to try to keep you close to home for their own selfish desires or don't even realize they're doing it. You can do whatever you set out to if you work hard and believe in yourself though. Best of luck! (Avoid that negative energy!)
You have three choices:
1) You can let it drag you down. Not a good plan.
2) You can confront her and explain that it is unacceptable behavior. - She is doing it most likely because she is miserable with her own life. She will either back down and stop it or continue the behavior. Either way you have nothing to lose.
3) You can just ignore her and just keep doing what you are doing. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. I assume you are out of HS.
College sounds like a good place for you. If you cannot afford it on your own, go to a school you want to attend the talk to them about financial aid.
REMEMBER: The only one that can hold you back is you.
Good Luck and email me with any questions.
mm thats familiar..
just ignore the negative criticism and go into more details in your dreams
you could start talking to friends about it
or just zone out and think about your dreams
Your mom could be jealous without even realizing it. Her life is already what she has made it, but you are just starting out with new hopes and dreams. That is something she'll never get to do again, or do over to correct the mistakes she mght have made. And, if your mom is just an unhappy person, it is really hard for her to show joy to anyone. You can't help that. Just keep pluing away.
I think they can't imagine you doing something so incredible without the support of them, or maybe they question what an amazing lady you have turned out to be and how did you get there, I understand what your saying, and I'll never understand that kind of parent, the cool thing though is that you can talk to them, I realize it's hard with the way they are reacting but it's cool you all can be civil.
I would just follow your dreams hunny, let them be blown away when they see how amazing someone can be with the drive like you have. You sound very motivated and thats a VERY GOOD THING! Don't let them bring you down, you need to look out for you because they won't be there forever.
Keep up the high spirits you have now and GO FOR IT.
yoour question is too vauge.....as Id love to hear what your paretns are tellign you ....i wish i had listned to them more when i was yoru age.. hte big job i had then doenms cutit when your are 40
First of all, do not hate your parents. They wish your to have the best, and they treat the best way that they can think of. It is not easy to be parents. Believe that they have the best intention, and love them.
Secondly, I think people often learn from their parents or people that they are close to without much analysis. Sometimes, those influence may not be very good. In order for one to be a good parent, they need to learn how to be a good parent. If they are lucky, they could learn from their own parents. If not, they will have to make their effort to learn from others, from books, and also to infuse themselfs with the love from God (because God is source of love). Anyway, regardless your current situation, if you want, you could always have a better life, a wonderful life.
From what you said, your mon does not believe you. I do not know the reasons. But I belive that if your mom see that you have done things consistently that lead to a positive result, she will believe you. She will not kill your dreams. However, you also need to understand that to encourage people is also a skill that people need to learn. So do not let your mom or another other people to let your down if you believe what you do is right.
I think able to pay everything is great. However, education is very important. I think that at your age right now, it is very important that you go to college to get the higher edcation. Then, you will have more opportunity in the future. With education, you could see further that you could not see now.
Below are few things that I think it is important for one's life. The early the person know, the better:
1) Seeking God, to have God (beleive Jesus Christ) in your life. one practicall aspect is that God will give you wisdom to see what is important in your life. God will give your wisdom to deal with people and matter in your life. God will give you the Spirit of power, and courage....
2) Keep an open mind, to learn from other, observe, to learn the positive behavior and things that other people do in life.
Keep a seeking heart, to learn from your experience, but do not learn ill treatment from others. You need to know what kind of behave is kind, and unkind, so as you move along in life, your heart will not be harden by the negative experience that you have, rather, you will have a sensitive, loving and caring heart.
3) Education
4) Be kind and be nice to others.
5) Control your anger and temper.
Life is not easy to go through without God. With God in your life, you will have the enjoyment regardless what sistuation you are in. I hope you actively seeking God if you do not have God in your life yet.
Take care, I wish you the best in life