Any advice?!
Question: Okay, to cut a long story short, my friend has been drinking alcohol almost everyday for about a month now. This is due to depression and a lot of problems in her life. She has now told me she wants to smoke weed. I can't see her situation getting any better, despite me trying to help her as much as I can. I have bought her two books about alcohol problems, but I doubt she will read them properly. If she starts smoking weed, I don't see it improving anything. She said there is 'nothing wrong with weed', but I know there is. What do I say to try and prevent her from going ahead and smoking weed? Or will whatever I say not matter?
Please don't say theres nothing wrong with weed, because there is.
Answers: Okay, to cut a long story short, my friend has been drinking alcohol almost everyday for about a month now. This is due to depression and a lot of problems in her life. She has now told me she wants to smoke weed. I can't see her situation getting any better, despite me trying to help her as much as I can. I have bought her two books about alcohol problems, but I doubt she will read them properly. If she starts smoking weed, I don't see it improving anything. She said there is 'nothing wrong with weed', but I know there is. What do I say to try and prevent her from going ahead and smoking weed? Or will whatever I say not matter?
Please don't say theres nothing wrong with weed, because there is.
Your friend has to want to help herself in order for anyone can help her! I also think you should not drink with her because that is sending the message that if you also do it, it must be okay. You should tell your friend your thoughts about the weed, but it may do no good, in the end she will just do what she wants to do. I guess the only thing that you can really do is continue to be a friend and be there if she is ready to be helped! Good luck and I hope your friend will get through this.
1st she has to want help herself and if she doesnt want to there isnt a whole lot you can do ..... you can trying talking to her family see if they can talk her into rehab...........just be her friend and dont give up trying good luck!
convince she can get through it if you stick through it together.
Talk to her about it, and the consequences, and tell her that she is gonna **** up her life.
It sounds like it's time for a serious chat. Sit down, and tell her that you're concerned. Tell her that you care about her, and that you're worried about her making some mistakes and messing up her life. Ask her if there's anything you can do to help her, or anybody she wants you to talk to. This talk is step 1, then depending on her reaction and if she gets deeper into depression and stuff, you should tell someone. Your parents, her parents, teachers, a pastor...you could even write an anonymous note and leave it somewhere safe for them to find. (Like in a teacher's mailbox, or on her parent's car.) I don't think you need to tell an adult just yet (unless she wants you too) but you need to talk to her. Be open, honest, and caring. Don't attack her, and most importantly, LISTEN to her reply.
drink & smoke with her , its enjoyable
i apologize for this advice but it's what i did & life is great
You should start small with her. tell her that if she holds off on the weed, you'll take her somewhere special. talk to her, don't just be there to drink with her. it could be hard to turn around her depression, but you need to make her realize that there is something wrong with her, and that what she's doing is not going to help.
Start small, pizza with a friend, a walk in the park. Not getting smashed. The small things that you do may have the bigger effects. Pick something she likes, take her to get it, or visit there or something similar. To stop her problems, you need to stop the depression.
best of luck!
If you are Teenagers the only way to help her is to quit hanging with her, tell her if she chooses pot over you then you have to go. I would maybe talk to her parents as I agree with you, This can be a bad problem and it's not that your a tattletale You care about a friend. They need to handle this with care, Teenagers tend to rebel against their parents in these cases.
You are a really great friend. Maybe you should send an anonymous letter to her parents type it so they dont know it is you. You should let them handle it so you can stop worrying. Explain to them what she has been doing in a way that makes understand that there is a problem, and not just to get her in trouble.