What is good motivation to keep living?!
Question: when the world seems so meaningless, goals seem unattainable and I am constantly considering how even if I achieve them they won't be of value to me, I am recovering from anorexia and both recovery/gaining weight and continuing to restrict/obsess seem unappealing. I am 16 and studying a levels.
Answers: when the world seems so meaningless, goals seem unattainable and I am constantly considering how even if I achieve them they won't be of value to me, I am recovering from anorexia and both recovery/gaining weight and continuing to restrict/obsess seem unappealing. I am 16 and studying a levels.
i'm not patronising you but the ages 14 - 21 were the worst of my life and i considered suicide. Life WILL get better as you find your way through this difficult time.
You should be proud of yourself for coming out of anorexia positively, don't give up. You have a chance of a good life, some people don't even make it to 16. You can achieve your goals but you sound like a very sensitive person with some issues about yourself.
I think you should consider taking up a hobby such as joining a local theatre group as it will be healthy and positive for you, and keep a diary about all your feelings. You will look back on all this someday and be thank ful that you kept living and that you got yourself out of the anorexia trap.
don't give up, you are very young and have a long life ahead of you with all sorts of opportunities.
If you need counselling you should get it just to get you through until you're feeling stronger and more positive. I overcame incredible obstacles and built a wonderful life for myself. I am 35 now and thank god for every day now. I could have given up so easily, i'm so glad i didn't
Keep living for your family and friends. You're only 16 and have a whole wonderful life to look forward to.
look in the mirror
Your family, friends, the chance to see what the future has in store for you. Because no matter how bad thigns will get from time to time there is always the future to look forward to.
The world IS meaningless.
Most of your goals (especially if they're your parents' goals)
WILL be unattainable.
So What? Lower your sights and enjoy the ride. You can
have an enjoyable and fun life if you want.
ur reality is what u make it... if u keep telling urself u won't achieve anything then guess what? its the basic laws of attraction... ur mindset will either attract positive or negative things into ur life. also, when opportunity knocks, its ur mindset that either allows u 2 see the opportunity and take advantage of it, or let it pass u by because negative thoughts cloud ur vision.
Reallistic goals . If you have a big Goal like being a champion barrel Racer ( not likely you want to but lets go with). Break it down into steps like.1.Learn how to ride 2.get a horse So on and so forth. Hope this helped keep trying and dont give up
When I was 14-17, I felt the same way constantly. I had to debate almost every day wether or not life was worth continuing, because I couldn't find a reason too. I didn't have aspirations or goals, and I wasn't contented with anything anymore.. but as I got older, that all faded, and I just never think about it anymore. It's a teen thing, believe me.. So many of us go through that, it's ridiculous. It's depressing, but what kept me going was the hope that one day I would stop being depressed and suicidal, because I knew that I enjoyed life once, so it had to be possible to enjoy it again.
think about starving people in 3rd world counties, and then think how lucky u are to be living where u are and have the life u do for many people don't have half the luxury that u have and have to beg for food and don't even have a home.
that should be motivation enough.....
well, there really is no good reason to live, since its all pointless anyways. but..if you really want to live..do it for yourself, not anyone else.
I exist because i think. And i think because i'm alive. So yeah. My motivation to live is just to live. Because there's a good feeling when living i guess. For you i guess it's to find your calling. There is no goal unattainable. Is having fun unattainable? Find a hobby or someone to be around. Being unappealing isnt much too, i'm also unappealing. You focus on alot of material things, so maybe a spiritual backing may be needed. It may be abstract but atleast it helps. I guess saying this brings me into a depression too.. There really isnt any tangible motivation to keep on living, but i think if you keep on living maybe you'll find it. You're 16 you're not going to find much yet. I am 16 too and i also keep on re-evaluating myself. I hardly do anything for school and is bound to be a hobo, what good isthat? But i still want to live so i can make myself out of something. I guess it's just the satisfaction of a goal.
I know i am hardly answering your question... But if you continue living you know? You'll find what you need. If you give upnow. everything up until now is just a waste of time and a waste of effort from the people around you.
Just remember life is a gift and how many people that have been taken from us way to soon , how they cherished every moment of what little life they had left, there are people in this world not given a chose at life or death , Given the chose they would still be here with those that love them so dearly! Prays and hugs sent your way hun! Hang in there!
Because YOU are of value. Many people who you know, and who you do not know yet, either love you.... or will love you when they discover you and your beauty.
MY DEAR THANK GOD THAT YOU SURVIVED ANOREXIA IT IS IN TISELF A BLESSING THAT SHOULD KEEP YOU GOING WHENEVER YOU REMEMBER HOW YOU'VE COME TO SURVIVE...HOWEVER YOU NEED SOME GOOD FRIENDS BY YOUR SIDE TO ALWAYS ADVICE AND ENCOURAGE YOU. AS MUCH, TRY TO EAT VERY WELL AND INVOLVE YOURSELF IN SPORTING ACTIVITIES...REMEMBER YOU ARE VERY YOUNG AND HAVE LOTS MORE TO ACHIEVE AND DO BEFORE YOUR DEPARTURE FROM FROM THIS GLOBE...THANKS AND GOD BLESS
hi Hun, some things do seem to get us down especially in winter, try being with friends and family doing things you enjoy you have your whole life in front of you, maybe you are stressed with your studying plus your illness, try getting into a group with people who are in the same situation you are in, but please talk to someone about your feelings good luck hun
aalleess you talk about 3rd world country's to this young girl and about how well off she is, you don't know her background and anorexia is a terrible thing to go through, have a bit of compassion
When i was 14-20 i was miserable in highschool and felt the same way but thats what makes you truely appreciate things when they get better. all the people who have it easy right now have no motivation to go on to something bigger. and at 16 you can do anything you want to in life and a lot of things change over the next few years,now when i think back to how i felt then and how great im doing now i just smirk, youll be there one day too
there's no sex when you're dead.
Just think this right moment you are able to receive several anwers to your question from net all over this planet, it is not wonderful?
Dont you see the luck you have, no matter you feel miserable now, people in Africa right dont have to eat, are dying bcs diseases, children lost their parents bcs war or Aids, other are victim of abuse children, women all over the planet...and its only an example...
And there you are, a person that can chose be happy or not...
We all can be happy when you decide to be...
Don't give up, so much in this world to learn, to share and enjoy... its only a phase of your life... tell youself how much you are strong!
Trust and love urself, help others , give ur time for someone who really need and help , help ... will see how happy will feel:)
and Take care!
life itself, of course! Just think of what you could've lost if you hadn't seeked for help.Besides your problem isn't something you can't fix. All you have to do is listen to your doctors. So snap out of it, spare the world and yourself (mostly!) the self pity "b...s...", and do something about it. I mean... for Christ's sake you're 16!! you have a whole life ahead of you. I've got myself 2 heart conditions since i was 18, I had a stroke two years ago, and a heart attack last year two days before my 27th birthday, I got a diffibullator(it's like a pace maker) and the doctors said that at some point I'm gonna need a heart transplant. I never gave up on dreaming, I found my Mr Right who worships the ground i walk on, who was there when I needed him the most and we plan on getting married. So if other people's worse problems don't make you feel better, then do what I do... SARCASM!!!!! jocking about my condition, always puts a smile on my face.you should try it too, it's quite refreshing! So i hope i helped/shook you up a little bit and... i wish you good luck...
just don't live for you. when you don't want to live remember others do. so its a good idea to become a nun and /or just live to make the world better. if you start feeling good while your doing it, great/. if you still don't really care to live, make sure you do the dangerous but necessary jobs that sombody has to do. If you just keep living, and you havent' died from some act of God or some accident then youll just have to keep on living. Life sucks a;nd then you die. But how long will you be in pergatory depends on the balance of evil and good. if your last deed was evil your screwed. If your not happy any ways. we need more nuns. I couldn't do it because i;m too wild