Ladies and men... I need your help?!
Question: I am a grown woman now.
When I was an adolescent(age 15 then), I had a boyfriend(age 16 then). So one night I spent the night at his house, I was sleeping (pretending actually) at the time when all of a sudden one of his sister's friends (age 17) walked in. I felt him sit down the bed and I heard her voice. He said "I feel bad for being a little too friendly with you" to her. She said "you shouldn't be". So then I hear her ask him If he would give her a back rub, he went ahead and did that. I heard him tell her "You have some sexy underwear" while pulling on her thong.
I woke up and he looked hesitant and stayed on her for about 10 seconds. Then he got off. It's 5 years later, he says he wants me back and wants to marry me. I told him I won't have sex with him until I'm married, he agrees to it. I sound naive, but really I am not, but I am BEING naive in this situation, because I care for him still and might still be foolishly into him.
Men what does his actions indicate ?
Answers: I am a grown woman now.
When I was an adolescent(age 15 then), I had a boyfriend(age 16 then). So one night I spent the night at his house, I was sleeping (pretending actually) at the time when all of a sudden one of his sister's friends (age 17) walked in. I felt him sit down the bed and I heard her voice. He said "I feel bad for being a little too friendly with you" to her. She said "you shouldn't be". So then I hear her ask him If he would give her a back rub, he went ahead and did that. I heard him tell her "You have some sexy underwear" while pulling on her thong.
I woke up and he looked hesitant and stayed on her for about 10 seconds. Then he got off. It's 5 years later, he says he wants me back and wants to marry me. I told him I won't have sex with him until I'm married, he agrees to it. I sound naive, but really I am not, but I am BEING naive in this situation, because I care for him still and might still be foolishly into him.
Men what does his actions indicate ?
I don't think you should take him back. Move on and find someone that wants to be with you and not other people. It has been a long time since the incident, but i still say you need to get out and find someone else. It doesn't matter if that girl is a hoe or not, he should not have done that, especially while you were right there. I say try someone new.
No, it means he is a H O!!!
hello sweet home alabama
i think his actions indicate that what he did in the past was just a teenage action. Now that i believe he is older he thinks different. Remember what he did in the past was because he was still young. Give him a chance to show you he loves you. Forget about what happened to the girl and him.
Move on to being happy if you love the guy
if he truly loves you then he will wait for you.
He agreed not to have sex because he is getting it elseware. Don't be naive and don't get hurt again.
i think the guys not really worth it and if your only 20 your hardly a "grown woman" I'm 28 and i still say I'm a young adult. wait to get married and waiting to have sex is great too. Marriage should be done after you secured you position in life ie. done with school have a job where you want to be before you 10 year reunion. and if a guy just sees a girl as a " H O" then he just wants to get laid. If he liked her then he was emotionally attracted to her. seems like if he was dating you and dangerously flirting to be seductive then he is a bag of douche
He may have liked her, or he may have just been having urges. Either way, what he did is an act of betrayal.
If you still love him and wish to be with him, put him through some tests WITHOUT him knowing. Small things. Set him up and see how he reacts to certain situations. Also make him wait a loooong time before he can sleep with you, so you can find out if he wants you for you, or for your body.
Personally, I don't like the guy if he can do such things. But 5 years has passed, and if you choose to forgive him, he may have changed. In the end, the choice is yours, however.