What Am I Dealing With?!
Question: My husband is a very hard working and giving man 95% of the time. Then he get in this mood that makes him really angry and mad because everyone else seems to have it better than him. Yesterday, my son got some mud on his shoes and came into the house and my husband has been fuming with anger ever since. He also has problems with getting over a job he once had, but it closed down. I'm not sure if it's an anger/bitterness problem or depression. He does have a lot of responsibility on him, but a really negative outlook on life during these episodes.
Answers: My husband is a very hard working and giving man 95% of the time. Then he get in this mood that makes him really angry and mad because everyone else seems to have it better than him. Yesterday, my son got some mud on his shoes and came into the house and my husband has been fuming with anger ever since. He also has problems with getting over a job he once had, but it closed down. I'm not sure if it's an anger/bitterness problem or depression. He does have a lot of responsibility on him, but a really negative outlook on life during these episodes.
Hi Heavenly Home Girl,
I think failure is the root problem. There is no sense of fulfillment. He is comparing himself with others and their achievements. Perhaps you can help him discover his special talents, abilities and God given gifts. He could be investing his hard work in areas that is not his assignment in life. His passion is the doorway to his success.
Wish you all the best.
I believe your husband is suffering with stress and depression. he needs to stay positive in his thoughts. i have been through this myself, it does clear up in time. i used cognitive therapy. try and get him to see his GP. maybe pick up some leaflets. good luck.
possibly your husband is passive aggressive and holds in his anger when he does vent it comes out at a time that you may think is not so bad but to him it is a breaking point try getting him to talk daily about the things that went wrong that day so he can get it out of his system before he blows up again
He might benefit from seeing a therapist. It sounds like he might need help in releasing his anger and fustrations in a positive setting with good advice. It doesn't mean he's messed up in the head. He can probably benefit by learning how to direct his anger better and keep a positive outlook.
I'm in the same boat - my husband sounds like yours.
I believe it is stress and depression. It sounds like your husband needs to see his doctor and take a well deserved break.
It sounds like your husband is depressed and most males express depression through anger/hostility. If he works hard make sure he feels appreciated, and it's normal for him to be bitter about the old job. You should talk to him and see if he will talk to a therapist about this. Good luck!
Have his blood pressure checked. I know that seems like a really random answer, but my boyfriend did the same thing. He had high blood pressure. he was on blood pressure lowering meds and he calmed down, and stopped over reacting towards everything.