Friend cutting please help?!
Question: My best friend is cutting herself and I'm so scared. I don't want her to kill herself I would miss her. She just says she gets so upset and cuts and pops pills. I love her and would never forgive myself if she died. I told her not 2 kill herself and she said she won't. I don't know what 2 do. I know alot about cutting because I used to cut myself but I don't anymore. I told her she can always talk 2 me because I have been there. What do I do? I can't tell her family she will never talk 2 me ever again if I do. I know cutting is not about killing urself it's about getting the pain to leave. PLEASE HELP ME
Answers: My best friend is cutting herself and I'm so scared. I don't want her to kill herself I would miss her. She just says she gets so upset and cuts and pops pills. I love her and would never forgive myself if she died. I told her not 2 kill herself and she said she won't. I don't know what 2 do. I know alot about cutting because I used to cut myself but I don't anymore. I told her she can always talk 2 me because I have been there. What do I do? I can't tell her family she will never talk 2 me ever again if I do. I know cutting is not about killing urself it's about getting the pain to leave. PLEASE HELP ME
Maybe you can tell a principal in your school, or some other figure of authority. She could just be doing it for attention, but she could be very serious. Please tell someone. Tell them that is is VERY important to keep your identity a secret, and that you only tried to help your friend. If and when she tells you that someone talked to her about it, look surprised and act as if you know nothing about it. I know lying to your friends is wrong, but this is for her own good. You said you are worried about her and that you dont want her to kill herself.
If she is being abused or something tell the police. Tell them to keep your identity a secret, and they will. This way she will stop cutting. Just do what you think is right for your friend. Good luck! ?
i would say that the best way for her to FOR SURE not cut its to spend a TON of time with her. build up good memories. make sure that she knows that you love her.
and, if she spends all her time with you, she cant be cutting at the same time. and, if you make her happy, she shouldnt want to cut.
i hope that she finds a better way to express herself. :)
best of luck.
Tell her that it is pathetic to cut yourself.
It doesn't do anything!!
yiou need to speak to some one asap , get help for your friend , she must want it to confide in you
there is probaly something wrong.
like something bad happened and shes sad.
try to consult an adult, or try getting her caught WITHOUT her knowing you did it
my friend cut..
he went to counseling.
he doesn't do it anymore.
counseling perhaps??
or just sit down and talk to her.
get her help! tell her parents. tell her teachers some one anyone.....i kno these 2 girls whose best friend was cutting and a week after they found out she committed suicide....make her see life is good.
well i no there is a extra special place in chicago for people who do that
If you told her family, you'd be doing what was best for her. Would you rather have her not speaking to you because she's upset with you, or because she's not alive? I have been a cutter for 11 years. She needs her family to know. There are even meds out there which could help specifically for that, I took naltrexone specifically to reduce the cutting urge...even though I am not an advocate for meds, this one could be helpful to some.
And to the person who said it's pathetic...you're pathetic.
I know this could make or break your friendship but you NEED to tell her to get help and if it doesn't work, you need to get help to her. Props for stopping though!
Time to get help, regardless of whether your friend wants to admit it or not. Someone in authority needs to know....A Teacher, a counselor, parents, doctor, etc. Your friend is crying out for help and you might be the only one to save your friend.
Do you really think your going to find the answers in here???
Start by taking away the knife, thats all you can do.
Go to a doctor and get her some help or tell someone that is a teacher or someone you trust and tell them whats going on and they should be able to help you out.
I've had friends who did this too. You might tell your school counselor. She won't tell your friend who reported her.
I'm not being mean but usually people like this do it for attention. One of my best friends always says she's attempting suicide, she's cutting and popping pills. She does it, but she doesn't cut deep and she says she takes more pills than she does.. It's just an attention seek. Try take her out to meet some new people that absolutely adore her and see how that works out.
my friend is a cutter and she hasnt stopped she has been put on pills and everthing else does her family know? most people dont tell their families she has to want help to reach out and get help
what got you to stop? maybe it will work for her too. just don't pressure her, it will upset her and possibley make it worse, she needs to stop on her own time. let her know your there for her and give her some suggestions, but thats about it, don't threaten to tell someone, don't try to make her do anything she's not ready for
I know you said you don't want to tell her family but sometimes if you can get through to her you have to. I think you are doing a great job of telling her she can talk to you. keep it up, and stay positive! :)
Maybe you should let her take her course.
You went through it and survived.
Just trust that she will "follow in your footsteps".
She said she won't try to kill herself so...
My friend does the same thing, and I don't worry much.
I just let him do it because he isn't suicidal and just let it take it's course.
Calm down....
Hard not to worry I know, but try.
Why do you feel as if it is YOUR responsibility to fix your friend? You need to do the right thing, which is tell her parents. Maybe you can be with them when they approach her about it. Then, they can get her the help that she needs.
She may be mad at first, but I would rather my friend be mad and not talk to me for a while, rather than her die because I was too scared to say anything....Plus, can you imagine what her family is going to feel if they knew you what was going on, but refused to tell them so they could help her.
wow. you should talk to your friend.. or tell her parents without out letting them tell her YOU told her.. i do that alot.. it gets the point across without you having to really be any part of it.. your friend will understand and love you in the long run.. atleast she wont kill herself accidentally
im sorry that your in this position, i can honestly say that im not sure how you personally can help. but i think you should tell someone like a psychologist not her parents because the psychologist is there to help and is bond to confidential.
If you really care about her life then tell her parents!!! If she lets your go as a friend, you'll probably get her back when and after she understands her problem. (Which is not you) Besides would you rather her not be able to get well cause well, she'd just be dead!!!
You really should tell someone about it. My friend used to cut himself, and I would always talk to him about it and he said the same thing that your friend did- that they would never commit suicide. A few weeks later I found out that he was in the hospital because of an unsuccessful suicide attempt(drug overdose). If he was successful at ending his life, I don't know what I would do. I wouldn't want that to happen to you, so please do the right thing and tell someone about it.
Sweetie, beacause you've been there you know. If she has that much pain in her she needs SOMEBODY mature to talk to. Please tell somebody older than you, with a little more living than you to talk to her. It doesn't have to be her parents. YOU CANNOT CARRY THIS ALONE.
sweetie just stopping like you did is not the normal pattern most of the time the pain gets bad enough where they do attempt suicide ... she needs help... tell someone... if not her parents, anonymously report to the school counselor or something but above all tell someone
Listen, this happened to me. It is very very serious. You HAVE to tell her parents or an adult that cares about her. She will hate you for a while. But after it's all said and done, you saved her life. I promise you, me and MY friend are better than ever now, and all we have to show from that ordeal r a few of her scars and. . . shes alive=]!!
I know you are trying to protect your friendship, but, unfortunately, if she kills herself with this behaivor, you won't get to talk to her again then either. It's not always easy to be the bad guy when it means that someone you care about will be mad at you or remove you from their life. But, if you truly care about her, then you will be willing to sacrifice your own feelings to get her the help she needs.
If you just can't bring yourself to tell her parents, maybe there is someone else you can tell. A teacher, pastor, etc.? Someone you know she'll respect and who will be tactful enough not to tell her where they got their information (I'm sure you're not the only one who knows, even if she thinks you are).
So I would say, give up the friendship if you have to to save a life. (Hopefully she'll realize someday how much of a friend you really are.)
you should talk to her and let her know how dangers from personal experiences, and you should also talk to maybe a school counselor.
I find cutting to be one of the most disturbing _addictions_ or illnesses one can deal with. Obviously something is going on in her head. Maybe she's had some sexual abuse or not enough love from her parents. Whatever the reason it stems from somewhere, and that is where the recovery process needs to begin. Offer to go to a therapist or counselor w/ her. It would be a good idea for you to go because you've been there and it would show your friend you care and are concerned. She needs to talk about her issues, talking about it helps tremendously. She needs to let that pain go, and she needs to know she is LOVED. That is the most important part. If it gets too serious someone will need to know. She's hurting inside and needs help. Talk her into getting treatment. Maybe you can both go through it together even though your not cutting anymore. Or talk to her about what made you stop, maybe that will help her. I wish you luck!