Why am I like this and can I get better?!
Question: Well, I'm a teenage girl so there's one problem... Anyway, I get very stressed out over school and it makes me overly sensitive. My dad is kinda mean and doesn't understand I have problems with school and he seems to always bust on me. He called me stupid the other day and I couldn't stop crying. My mom understands but she doesn't want to get caught in the middle. I always get overly upset at things now and I think about suicide. I know it'd cause too much attention and I just don't know what to do. I'm so scared of failing my history class and I don't know what to do. I study and work really hard but it's like no matter how hard I do I can't pass a simple test. I'm too scared to see a therapist because I know if I talk about it I'll start crying. Could someone give me advice? This is serious.
Answers: Well, I'm a teenage girl so there's one problem... Anyway, I get very stressed out over school and it makes me overly sensitive. My dad is kinda mean and doesn't understand I have problems with school and he seems to always bust on me. He called me stupid the other day and I couldn't stop crying. My mom understands but she doesn't want to get caught in the middle. I always get overly upset at things now and I think about suicide. I know it'd cause too much attention and I just don't know what to do. I'm so scared of failing my history class and I don't know what to do. I study and work really hard but it's like no matter how hard I do I can't pass a simple test. I'm too scared to see a therapist because I know if I talk about it I'll start crying. Could someone give me advice? This is serious.
I'm not a counsellor, but I have experienced severe depression. You need to take a breather, and I don't mean a few minutes alone in your room. Get away for the day, if you can. This won't solve your problems, but you need a break from the stresses in your life.
Your dad is wrong to treat you the way he does, but too soon, your teenage years will be over, this stress crisis will be gone and you'll be hanging out at your parents' once in a while, having fun.
The test seems too hard, causing another stress and too much worry. 10 years down the road, no one will care if you passed this test or not. If you need the credit to pass, ask your school counsellor if you can drop this class and pick up another, or transfer to another history course. In High School, I knew I would fail history so I took a course on my own for the credit and passed.
I know this sadness is deep and very serious and it feels like there's little to no hope. But no matter how bad you feel, remember its only a temporary situation. Maybe you'll always struggle with some school subject, but school doesn't last forever. Maybe you'll always be treated mean by your dad, but you won't live under his roof forever. One day you'll be an adult with a great life of your own. The sky is the limit! You have no idea what you might be able to do with your life.
Please read this verse from the Bible. When I was at my most depressed and contemplating things I shouldn't have been, God sent this verse my way...not once, but several times in one day, through several different sources, none knowing my emotional state at the time. Please read this and hang on to hope. Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you." declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future." And also, please seek out a good counsellor to talk to. It really is worth the effort.
...and there's nothing wrong with crying. I lived my life thinking I was a wimp if I cried. Now I know better. Crying also helps release some of the stress.
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The most important thing is communication. You need to talk to your parents about how you feel. All kids go through this at some point. You are not alone I am sure you all can work together to work on your problems.
there is this thing called the "tune out button" and when someone is talking or saying rude and Degrading things to you , you simply turn it on by thing about something else,perhaps singing a song or something, until they are done with their nonsense. its easy to be stressed, everyone get stressed over school, just try your hardest, study and seek help. A Therapist is there for help, so if you think your problem is serious enough, go for it. good luck.
Don't be afraid to talk about it and cry about it too. Talk to your history teacher, maybe he can have another student tutor you or maybe he can give you more time to prepare for the test. Talk to your mom and ask her to help you get help, you want to do better in school but there is something else going on. Don't think about suicide, that's not the answer. Good luck to you and I'll keep you in my prayers.
hi,, im the guy underneath u !!! please dont think about what u can do??? please go see a doc. and tell him/her what is going on withyou????
That used to happen to my sister all the time. I think that is just part of being a teenage girl. There isn't really cure. It eventually stops being so emotional. Part of my sisters problem atleast was that she had high aspirations and it was really hard to get there i.e. getting the grades etc. Getting more organized really helps. It gives you the illusion of being more in control which really works :).
p.s. Getting a boyfriend will definitely not help.