How do u help some1 who has depression to get back out of it!?!
Question: My bf has depression, hes on meds but he wouldnt take 2a day like his doc recommended, only takes the 1 and at times he 4gets. Right now hes in this mood, where he wants be alone, he thinks he isnt good for me anymore and He isnt what i want, but i know i do want him, but i know this is his depression kicking in right now, hes haven terrible time right now going through seperation battle and custody battle thats going on for way too long, as ex wife draggin it out to make him either quit or go bankrubt which he is nearly there in both, I want him start takin the 2a day and go back to his docs but he wouldnt, when some1 is down how do u help them back up and show them ur supporting them through all of this coz u love them and get them back on track again? any advice or tips be of great help. thanks
Answers: My bf has depression, hes on meds but he wouldnt take 2a day like his doc recommended, only takes the 1 and at times he 4gets. Right now hes in this mood, where he wants be alone, he thinks he isnt good for me anymore and He isnt what i want, but i know i do want him, but i know this is his depression kicking in right now, hes haven terrible time right now going through seperation battle and custody battle thats going on for way too long, as ex wife draggin it out to make him either quit or go bankrubt which he is nearly there in both, I want him start takin the 2a day and go back to his docs but he wouldnt, when some1 is down how do u help them back up and show them ur supporting them through all of this coz u love them and get them back on track again? any advice or tips be of great help. thanks
Hi, it isn't easy and there aren't any guaranteed cures of ways of making him get better.
Try these links to the Mind website
Understanding depression:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Bookl...
How to cope as a carer:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Bookl...
the information is easy to read and understand and should give you some insight into the illness and ways of helping to show your support.
Meds will only help to alleviate the symptoms of depression, they are not a cure. The idea is to allow the person suffering to feel well enough to cope with daily life and to address the issues that are the cause of the depression.
Obviously you can't force him to take the higher dose, and neither can his GP but encouraging him to is a good idea. It would be a good idea for him to go back and discuss things with his GP, as you said, but again, you can't force him to go. Could you offer to go with him if that would make it more bearable for him? His GP is there to offer help and support.
Hope this helps.
unfortunately he has to take his meds properly or it wont happen. he needs to feel ready before coming off them. the only thing you can do is be there for him - he cant simply snap out of it. you might be in for a tough time - i've suffered depression for years, and it's not easy to beat. he really needs to take his meds properly.
I'm 30 and suffer with depression since I was 15. With me it's a chemical imbalance so it's a bit like having astma, if you get my drift.
All these things help me.
Diet, Fitness, Helping people(like this), no hassle from anything(the last thing he needs is to be looking at bills etc) Any hassle at all will make him drop further and furthe into depression.. Gloomy weather is horrid for me aswell.
let him know that whatever his views...you arent giving up on him, so he better get used to you being around. Explain that his doctor is a qualified professional and if he feels he should be taking 2 a day...then thats what he needs to do. It doesnt have to be a longterm arrangement, he can try it out for a few weeks to see if there is any improvement ...it certainly wont make him feel any worse(he sounds as though he is about as low as he can go). He is having a hard time and its good that you are around to give him support...he'd find things a lot harder to deal with on his own. good luck! I really hope things work out for you both.
for one he has to take his meds or it wont help him at all,
he is the only one who can do it, and having you and goods friend there for him will help if he lets you.
just be there and show him that you love him that really all you can do. it will take time it will get better for you he has to help him self first.all the best.
Been like that for 4yrs now. Patience and understanding, are paramount. It,s impossible to describe the inner feelings, to even your closest. Your b/f is, as am I, very lucky to have such a caring partner. Best wishes:
Dear PremaSwaroopa
You find out a yoga centre and practice yoga ,Pranayama,Relaxation tecknics you can over come depression easily.
With prem & Om
Swami Krishnananda.
"Right now hes in this mood, where he wants be alone, he thinks he isnt good for me anymore and He isnt what i want" appears here often, or versions of it, and is a result of the depression. Did he explain why he only takes 1? If it's cost; Walmart have generic antidepressants for $4 per month's supply, in most US states. If it's side effects, there are alternative treatments, and I'm not in favour of antidepressants, generally. My standard post follows: See depression treatments, at ezy-build *(below) in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, as well, at http://www.mercola.com and avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels. Get him some Omega 3, and possibly cod liver oil supplements: these can be taken with antidepressants, but none of the above work quickly, so don't expect instant results. Try to get him to exercise with you, by walking briskly, for 20 - 30 mns.
i feel for him but ultimately he has to take resposibility for his own depression? He really needs to start taking his meds properly, in order for his doctor to review them if necessary? Maybe you are going to have to start practising some tough love, or even phone him daily to remind him to take his meds? You could suggest he goes to Relate? ppl often go alone, and are still helped through talking through things?