Im missing my brothers wedding this weekend b/c of my anxiety...?!
Question: and my fear of driving or traveling in general. Everyone in my family is in a different state & Im stuck here b/c I can't handle being afraid and having an anxiety attack. I cant keep going on like this. I have tried a few different medications but they don't work for me, one made me extremely depressed (I have some depression also) I have tried counseling but It was going nowhere and did nothing for me. Does anyone have some real advice? I am tired of living in fear all the time
Answers: and my fear of driving or traveling in general. Everyone in my family is in a different state & Im stuck here b/c I can't handle being afraid and having an anxiety attack. I cant keep going on like this. I have tried a few different medications but they don't work for me, one made me extremely depressed (I have some depression also) I have tried counseling but It was going nowhere and did nothing for me. Does anyone have some real advice? I am tired of living in fear all the time
Have you tried a nerve med such as Valium?
What about going to an herbal Dr?
You may need to try different meds-sometimes it's trail and error. Try another Dr for counseling, too.
Getting plenty of exercise will release natural endorphins and is proven to help aid in depression and anxiety.
i'm not an expert. let me just put that out there. - what is worse, a) being nervous and anxious for a few hours/days or b) living w/ the guilt of missing the wedding for the rest of your life? - not to mention the fact that his new wife may not be as forgiving as him and may think it has something to do w/ her and not you. - good luck with whatever you decide to do.
either take a bus, or feel worse because you didn't go. you need a different counselor. that is no excuse to miss your brother's wedding.
You can't give up! There has to be someone who can help you. Keep talking to your doctor. Good luck!
I have had anxiety issues for over 20 yrs. Just recently medicated for it.
But before hand I knew (and it sounds like you do too) it was only an axiety attack and could talk myself out of it.
Try to think of how upset your brother would be if you did not show up. I mean you will probably feel worse from missing the event than the anxiety of going.
Tell family you are anxious maybe need someone to drive you.
I used to take benadryl (just one pill) to calm myself down, sort of like a placebo affect.
Living with anxiety sucks. I saw a shrink for the first time today. Counseling wasn't working and the meds my Family Doc put me on helped the anxiety, but i hate some of the side effects.
If you have faith in God try thinking that he would only want good things for you and that he will help you if you ask. Fear not if you believe in God.
Try finding a shrink that will listen to you. Today i was told that i could be ADD too.
Go to the wedding. You know you will live through it!
Take care!
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Your last alternative is psychotherapy, to address its fundamental cause: read section 1, and examine the 1-800-therapist website, and use the locators, and phone book. I used to suffer from panic attacks, until I questioned what had changed recently in my life, to trigger them? I suggest that you learn, then practise the controlled breathing technique, until competent, then employ it, at the very first sign of a panic attack. DEPRESSION: See depression treatments, at ezy-build *(below) in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, as well, at http://www.mercola.com and avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels.
Hi sweetie,
Dont worry about any bs you hear on here. I have anxiety disorder too and my friend does as well, she cant drive because of her panic attacks. It helps her if someone else drives. Maybe it will help for you to find a friend to drive you instead. I also heard this: just because you have a fear of something doesnt mean it will come true, take a deep breath and ask yourself whats the worse that can happen. also watch a movie called 'the secret' it will help alot.
First of all I don't believe that anxiety needs medication. Therapy would definitely be more productive. I get my anxieties about performing in front of large crowds. One thing that helped me that might help you is to lose yourself and remember your purpose. You are supporting your brother and getting to see your family who love you dearly. It's not about your anxiety--it's about family. You are thinking so much about yourself and your personal worries that you aren't really focused on your family. You are letting anxiety win over being with your family. Don't think so much about driving and travel. Find options that make facing this fear easier, such as travelling by someone else driving rather than you taking control of the wheel. And if you trust yourself more then you should be at the wheel because for the most part you can control the outcome. The only way to really conquer it is to DO rather than stand back and stay trapped in a fear that you have not truly dealt with. You have to decide what would make you happier--to stay trapped from the main people you love and perhaps many other oppurtunities in life or to hold on to the anxiety and slowly lose your mind.
Don't pay any mind to people that have no clue of what it feels like to be so scared .I had that problem to,I would not drive just the thought of it i got anxiety.I would be so scared.I didn't even know why I was scared like I was.
But I went to a psychiatrist and he put me on Zoloft and adivan 3 times a day.It really helped.Eventually he took me off the adivan ,because the Zoloft was working.
I know this probably didn't help much.But believe me I know exactly how your feeling