Help me !! im depresseed !!?!
Question: i feel sad most of the time and when im alone i always cry and say to myself how much i want to die and how ugly i am. i always fell that my friends are never there for me aswell, i dont want to talk to anyone about it cus i dont want to talk to an adult about it yet i feel my friends arent there for me
im 14
a thing that could have set this of is that i lost my older brother 07.07.07
please help what can i do ???
Answers: i feel sad most of the time and when im alone i always cry and say to myself how much i want to die and how ugly i am. i always fell that my friends are never there for me aswell, i dont want to talk to anyone about it cus i dont want to talk to an adult about it yet i feel my friends arent there for me
im 14
a thing that could have set this of is that i lost my older brother 07.07.07
please help what can i do ???
You really do need to talk to someone about it, and not your friends, someone older who loves you and cares about you. Your mom would be a good idea, but I know that some moms are hard to talk to. It is also just plain hard to talk about bad feelings sometime, but it does help to feel better. When my kids are upset and don't want to talk, I force them to talk to me. They get mad at first, but then open up and always feel better after.
If you really don't feel you can talk to your mom, maybe you can drop by a local church and ask to speak to the pastor. Is there one that seems to be really active in your community and doing lots of good? That would be a good place to start. Pastors always have time to talk when someone needs help (as long as they aren't busy talking to someone else or away from the church at the moment). I don't know what you have in the area, but a Methodist or non-Denominational church would be a good place to start if you don't have a church of your own.
Something else that may help - other than all the other good suggestions you've gotten from others (including Soul Docs homeopathy - which you should also discuss with your mom) - is to watch your input. I've known many people who have lost loved ones and have a hard time getting over it. One thing that is common in all of them is that they seem drawn to depressing, negative stories, songs and poems while they are grieving. It just feeds their depression and sadness. What have you been listening to? Try to make it positive. Yes, death happens and it is horrible, but dwelling on it only accentuates the helpless feelings it caused. If the input is negative, and feeding your depression, then recognize it and stop it.
You might try writing your own poem or story about the positives of your brother to help you grieve productively. Maybe something about all the good times, and what a blessing he was while you had him.
One last thing, from the physiological side. Your diet might be helping to prolong this too. As a young woman, you are going through hormonal changes now too. Try to cut out excess sugars and do no artificial sweeteners and no caffeine. That helps with the hormone and moods, and should keep your body from interfering with your head so much. A good diet never hurts anyone.
I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you find a way to cope with the grieving process and move on.
Go to www.AnxietyRelief1.com and learn about Anxiety Relief Techniques and EFT. You can help yourself feel better almost immediately, and without drugs. Some sadness is perfectly normal after losing your brother. But these methods take away the excess sadness and bad feelings. It will make a huge difference for you.
Bless you.
First of all Im sorry about the loss of your brother, I truely am. Losing someone in your family is hard. I personally havent lost anyone in my family but I know a really good friend who just lost her brother on August 24th of 2007. I actually used to date him a long time ago and he was genuinely a good guy. Losing someone is hard. I remember for a month she wouldnt leave her room, she'd cry all night, call me all night crying hysterically and now she can deal with it. You need to cry... let it out, you need someone to talk to or youre gonna drive yourself crazy. I am positive that your mom would love it if you came to her and explained what is going on... Im sure she misses him as well but she is older, she knows how to cope with things that a fourteen year old isnt capable of doing. Not that youre stupid at all... its something you gain with time, age and experiences. If you really dont wanna talk to your mom... talk to your brother, I promise he'll be listening. I hope you feel better and I hope this helps you!!
Homeopathic Remedies for Anxiety / Panic Attacks / Stress / Depression(Bereavment) / Mood Swings (Totally safe, without any side effects or complications of any sort) :-
ANXIETY / PANIC ATTACKS & STRESS :-
Sudden with restlessness and fear of death, Panic Attacks, Aconite 30X or 200X,1/2 hourly (3 Doses)
Prolonged with periodic and panic attacks Arsenic Alb.200X, 4 hourly (3 Doses)
With fainting spells; profuse sweating; worse in the morning Sulphur 30X or 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)
Makes patient walk fast; due to anticipation Argentum Nit 200X, 3 hourly (3 Doses)
Worse lying in bed and closing the eyes Carbo Veg 30X or 200X, 4 hourly (6 Doses)
Anxiety aggravated by upward or downward motion; going in an elevator; worse till 11 P.M, Borax 200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)
Anxious about business even when seriously ill Bryonia Alba 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)
Full of apprehensions in the evening Causticum 200X, 3 hourly (3 Doses)
Anxiety and fears in the evening with restlessness and palpitation Calcarea Carb.200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)
Anxiety worse while lying still. Sad music ameliorates the complaints Manganum Acet 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)
Anxiety due to fright, fear,exciting news; stage fright; worse while appearing for examination or interview etc Gelsemium 30X or 200X 3 hourly (6 Doses)
Mood Swings, Anxiety due to grief or shock in the subconscious mind Ignatia 200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)
Anxiety; better after eating Anacardium Or 30X, 4 hourly.
DEPRESSION & GRIEF(Bereavement) :-
Severe shock due to sudden death of loved ones; restlessness, anxiety and fear Aconite 200X. 10 min (3 Doses)
Prolonged mournings; cannot overcome the loss of loved ones and/or Mood Swings. Ignatia 1M or 10M, 6 hourly (3 Doses)
When the grief is in the conscious mind; patient weeps; does not like sympathy Natrum Mur.200X or 1M, 6 hourly (3 Doses)
For chronic grief and indignation Staphysagria 200X or 1M, weekly (3 Doses)
Depression with suicidal thoughts feeling of worthlessness, Aurum Met 30X, three times a day half hour before meals.
Take the remedy which is similar to your symptoms. No side effects or complications if taken as directed, please do not exceed the given dosage and under any circumstances do not try to mix any remedies and avoid Chocolates, Mints, Coffee, Red Meat, Alcoholic and Carbonated drinks, Spicy Rich Food while taking any Homeopathic remedies, and keep the medicines away from direct sunlight, heat strong smells and perfumes and do not store them in the fridge.
Curing without any side effects or Complications Thats the Beauty of Homeopathic Medicine
Take Care and God Bless you.
First of all, your friends might be feeling as bad as you do, and at your age, they are not very experienced at fixing these kinds of things, so they don't know how to help you. Also, if you talk this way all the time to your friends, they are going to think of you not just as a depressed person but a depressing person who makes them feel worse, and they will stay even further away from you. You sure don't want that.
Losing a brother has to be really hard, and it wasn't all that long ago - it's no wonder you are depressed! It's natural to greive that kind of loss for a fairly long time. Heck, I accidentally ran over a stray kitten that fell asleep under my car and I had a hard time even getting over that, and I'm 49 years old!
I'm also a substitute teacher and have three kids, so I know about dealing with kids. If you feel as bad as you say, you absolutely have to talk to an adult!!!! Start with your school counsellor - they are trained to deal with kids your age, and they can help you know where to go from there. They can recommend professional help to your parents - you probably need some grief counselling and possibly even medication. If your counsellor talks to your parents for you, it might make it easier for you. Sometimes it's harder to talk to people you are close to because you are afraid they will judge you and you don't want to lose their good opinion.
In the meantime, try doing some volunteer work - that does two things: it helps take your mind off your troubles, and makes you feel better that you are helping others.
And if you need more help, feel free to e-mail me at cmm_home@yahoo.com. Depression is a serious condition, especially if you are talking suicide, and I don't want to leave you with no help. Take some action now, please.
See a doc. Get on anti-depressants.
Why don't you talk to your brother? Just because you can't see him that doesn't mean he is not there! I'm sure he wouldn't want you thinking of yourself as ugly or thinking about dying! I'm sure your friends are there but they just don't understand what you are going through so they don't know what to say. The last thing anyone wants to talk about is death and the loss of someone close to you. Why don't you get something that belong to your brother and wear ir or keep it with you i'm sure it will hurt and make you cry at first but it might help to know that its a little part of him. I'm sure your feeling down and "ugly" because you are in mournig it's hard to feel better when you are completly crushed but just try to talk to him let him know how your day went or write it down. Then when you are comfortable make a change in your life get a new hair cut, something new and pretty. Don't hide in the dark go outside to the park and just walk around.
I hope this helps!
Go to any church you'll like and to our Lord Jesus Christ who is only love,open your heart to him and say to him all your grief,remember what he said;"SUFFER LITTLE CHILDREN TO COME UNTO ME,AND FORBID THEM NOT;FOR OF SUCH IS THE KINGDOM OF GOD.VERILY I SAY UNTO YOU,WHOSOEVER SHALL NOT RECEIVE THE KINGDOM OF GOD AS A LITTLE CHILD SHALL IN NO WISE ENTER THEREIN".Pray to him and ask him to open your mind,to help you to pass through all this sorrow,and you'll see He'll listen to you and He'll take all your grief from you on him releasing you from a such tremendous burden you have,He's carrying all the sufferance of the world,He's the Savior of each one of us.Never get the despair to take control over you,despair it's only a lack of faith,you are vulnerable in despair,but God and His son Jesus Christ are never letting you down especially when you are in great sufferance and you are needing Him most.You can't start praying to him even right now wherever you are,and never stop praying to him,he will sustain you no matter what and forever,as he was with you from the beginning ! I'm praying for you too,since I read your question that moved me so much,and also I'll never stop praying,as I'm sure lots of other people.Have faith,you'll make it.
Eat some Tootsie Rolls!!! That always works for me!