How can I gain self esteem and self confidence?!
Question: I am convinced that I am the ugliest/fattest/stupidest person on the earth. I got picked on really bad in school and it has really gotten to me. I know I should not care what others think but I do.
How do I love myself? Don't say talk 2 a doctor because I don't want to.
Answers: I am convinced that I am the ugliest/fattest/stupidest person on the earth. I got picked on really bad in school and it has really gotten to me. I know I should not care what others think but I do.
How do I love myself? Don't say talk 2 a doctor because I don't want to.
dont waste your money on Dr's. First all dont be negative. ugliEST, fattEST- the power of words are amazing- you need to chill out. Focus on whats good about you, can you crack a good joke, do you have nice eyes, do you dress well? focus on that, in addition take one thing at a time you dont like about yourself- start swinging your arm instead of crossing them, you;ll look more welcoming, and so on.
Lets face it we care about what others think, but care about what you think the most. Yeah people say im pudgy, OK- but damn my *** looks good in the jeans I wear! look at the glass half full a little more often, and for God's sakes take a compliment, it doesn't help when you mope when you actually got something going
by the way if people say youre pretty there is a basis from that, because if you were really the UGLIEST girl I dont think people would bring up the subject because it would be too obvious of a blatant lie if they said you were pretty. My final food for thought:
I have seen women that could be super models that are so dull that they fade in a crowd, I have seen average Joe's out shine any person in the same room and that makes every man turn their head....
what makes the difference?- which one decides not stress about it and makes sure every person sees every good attribute. - that's the key
convince your self otherwise pretty girl.
why do you beat yourself up about this and no, im not going to tell you to see a doc, but some form of cousilling would help as untold damage may have been done by being picked on when younger.have a positive outlook instead of being so negative.
life is short smile,buy some new clothes and dont care about people that put you down as they must be jealous.
love yourself Hun
There are some great excercises out there that really work,like there is one kinda like this:say a positive statement to yourself in a mirror everyday and you do start to feel better.
You need to go out and do some volunteer work. Go work in a hospital, a nursing home, homeless shelter, or a school. Do something for others.
In this way, you'll get perspective on what you actually have - health, education, food, and shelter. You will also see how you are contributing to someone else's life. You won't be solely focused on yourself all the time, like you are now. Right now, you are being very selfish. People out there are hungry, sick and need help in tutoring. I think if you dedicate yourelf to going out and helping others, you will see yourself as worthy of friendship and loving.