Should I just learn to "Play the Game?!
Question: I am 23 years old. I use to be a reckless, free-spirited, easy going, irresponsible, drug addicted, fun person. I have quit drugs and I am in a "healthy" relationship. I am responsible. I pay my bills, I go to work, I play by the rules.
The trouble is I feel bored. and trapped. I feel like I am living this way because its whats expected of me. I just dont feel like this is "ME". A huge part of me wants to just run away someplace and do something "crazy".
Does anyone else ever feel like this?
Answers: I am 23 years old. I use to be a reckless, free-spirited, easy going, irresponsible, drug addicted, fun person. I have quit drugs and I am in a "healthy" relationship. I am responsible. I pay my bills, I go to work, I play by the rules.
The trouble is I feel bored. and trapped. I feel like I am living this way because its whats expected of me. I just dont feel like this is "ME". A huge part of me wants to just run away someplace and do something "crazy".
Does anyone else ever feel like this?
Snap (except the relationship part, that is pending!).
The thing is, when we get older we lose our sense of curiosity and our ability to find things that can keep us occupied for a long period of time. Look inside yourself - what is it that you want from life? What is it that you wanted to be when you grew up, at that time when everything was so new and interesting?
Drugs seemed to take that away from me. In keeping me occupied, they prevented me from functioning in the real world because I was living in a dream. When I awoke, I realised that life is totally different from what I expected, and it bored me.
I have always loved music, and my salvation has been playing an instrument because one day I dared to live my dream. What is your dream? Life does not last, but it can be an epic adventure if you let it, so seize the day and don't let an opportunity slip through your fingers! Do that something crazy if it means that you will better yourself.
It takes a bit of conditioning, but if you try to think like this all the time, every day will become an adventure! I don't remember the last time that I wasn't feeling content. I hope you feel it too soon. Best of luck =oD
I wish i could get my act together, you're so lucky,
YES! I totally feel ya! I still have not figured out exactly what it means though. Perhaps we'll meet at one of those crazy places one day, lol!
I think it's the nature of being a "grown up"? I'm not sure that ever really goes away...
At times but i relieve it by getting blown at times : ) i know you feel me. A litle bit here and there won't hurt. Or just try going clubbing with a couple of friends. The worst that could happen is getting drunk...
Sounds like you are ALMOST grown up.
No, I don't feel that way at all. I would suggest you speak to a counselor for talk therapy to find out why living a healthy life is "boring" to you. My guess is that you just need to get used to what living in a sane way feels like. If you are bored, you need to look for volunteer opportunities, help others who need someone, get active in your community, find a good hobby.
First off, congratulations on getting yourself together.
Love yourself, respect yourself and demand the same from those around you.
Drugs, and being "crazy", sure it was thrilling, but it is not real and lasting.
Get a high from running, working out, bungee jumping, sky diving, playing paintball, mountain biking, skiing, rollerblading, pursuing a passion or dream.
Keep striving to find your delight, find your passion, fulfillment, excitement in good healthy things.
I am not saying it's wrong to feel that way some times. It's what you do with that energy and those urges that allows you to be a better person and get more out of life.
Now then, with all that said, ask yourself if maybe you have a tendency towards bipolar behavior etc. Who knows, dont struggle with something you cant effectively fix without help, when help is out there.
Congratulations and welcome to the human race, keep up the good work and have fun doing so.
John
I feel the same way... maybe it does mean that we are maturing. I'm 24 and feel BORED!!! But going out to bars and all that doesn't help, just makes me feel older. I've had people who are older than me tell me that I am jaded but I think it's something deeper. 'existence....' has a good point, try to learn something new like play guitar, drums, or even the recorder. Or you could try sewing or painting or something to that effect. Also check out a local community college and take a class that sounds interesting, you might make a new friend or two!!
Im eighteen and feel the same. the thing is if I live through it all . Than i'm old without someone to love.I say I just kill myself now and get it over it. I dont even know. God started talking to me about hell in my f-ing head or otherwise I would have givin up.Know I'm too scarec to do naything any more , even think.God told me to be a monk. The T.V. talks to me. People are always in my head.I might as well just watch porn, screw whores ,pop E, and work as a day laborer or landscaper.I just can't bring myself to do it.Do whatever.Or don't . Who knows. some people get tons of women, are complete scumbags and get money and everything they want. some are genuinely pure of heart and everything is taken from them and are miserable.