I feel like my lifes a total mess..?!
Question: I'm 19. I just left my minimum wage job because of drama with a co-worker. I found out I was pregnant and it was way too much stress for me to bear. I feel really stupid about it now..and I wish I hadnt handled the situation like i did, but at the time, I thought it was the best thing since I was crying and getting depresed a lot. Now my boyfriend wants to work and let me go to school (since I'm already going full-time) and he wants to support me until I feel "better". I feel like my lifes a mess.I dont know, I'm just confused about life and want to get my head straight because I can feel myself breaking down and I'm gonna get depressed...What should I do?
Answers: I'm 19. I just left my minimum wage job because of drama with a co-worker. I found out I was pregnant and it was way too much stress for me to bear. I feel really stupid about it now..and I wish I hadnt handled the situation like i did, but at the time, I thought it was the best thing since I was crying and getting depresed a lot. Now my boyfriend wants to work and let me go to school (since I'm already going full-time) and he wants to support me until I feel "better". I feel like my lifes a mess.I dont know, I'm just confused about life and want to get my head straight because I can feel myself breaking down and I'm gonna get depressed...What should I do?
First of all, realize that your pregnancy hormones are clouding the situation, making you feel depressed. It is very normal to feel irritable and overwhelmed during this time. With that said, I think you did the right thing and rid yourself of a stressful situation by leaving a job if there was drama. I'd take your boyfriend up on his offer and take one day at a time. You can always get another job that's less stress. Or quit school for a semester and work only. You are doing fine, just relax and let things happen as they do.
just calm down and relax
why do u think so?? here is a solution for u
be thankful that your boyfriend wants to take care of you and realize that HE is a man. How many guys offer that to a woman? I don't know many.
Love yourself because he loves you. By him loving you that makes it easier. Start loving yourself. Get that Degree and then take care of him and love him back
Release your fears and give them to him. It seems he is willing to take them.
Go to a doctor, he will be able to help you. It doesn't sound like your life is a mess, just your emotions with the pregnancy. The doctor will probably be able to put you on something to help the depression and anxiety.
Take it one step at a time...1st step...calm down and try to figure things out.
Good Luck,
-Len.
take a day off to yourself.
or have a girls night out.
somthing to let you relax for a while.
everything is gonna get better
Talk to somebody. Take some time off and get your head on straight. Don't rush yourself, just stop and look at something you don't usually get the time to look at. You need to live in the present, and think of the future.
Just relax. You can take this time to rest and chill out at home before the baby arrives. Assuming you're going to have it, go to school and let him work to help support the two of you until you're back on your feet again.
If you are pregnant your hormones are out of kilter. You will have mood swings and you've just got to deal with it. If you have a chance to finish school do so. Don't focus on the negatives in your life, focus on the positives. You have a boyfriend who loves you. There are a lot of single people who wished they had a partner. You just left a job with a lot of drama. Enjoy your time off and get ready for the baby.
Girl, things are what they are at the moment. You're pregnant, and you need to take care of yourself.
If you feel your life is a mess, fix it. It's you're life, and you only have one.
Set short and long term goals (large and small) for yourself, and define a plan to meet them. This will give you both direction and confidence.
Congratulations to you, I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly.
And remember, you can do anything in this life that you want to do.
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your life is not a mess, dear. trust me.
you might think it is, but it really isn't.
listen to your boyfriend. just relax,
do some school work. and everything
will turn out just fine. try talking to
some friends and them maybe
they will help you out. You have a lot
of opportunities open for you and i wish
you the best of luck!
its not that bad compared to others. first take a day off and just relaxx...forget that u were pregnant its over....
try to get into college and do a part time job.....maybe ur bf can support u for four years ......
when ur done with whatever u choose u know u WILL get a good job with internships and there's just so many opportunities out there for people who r educated.......
so i say finish college by taking a loan
study really hard and it will pay off
and then when u get a job u and ur bf can get a nice appartment and live in it
i make it sound ez but it really isn't..............
good luck with ur life
listen a baby is a blessing you are doing a good thing by letting a baby into the world. as for your job it is ok a job is replaceable you can get a nother one and i no it is hard but if u want i acn even help what kind of work do u do? but dont worry everything will be ok. you just need to keep saying that everything is ok and it will all work out in the end my mom always says everyhting happens for a reason dont worry though bays are a blessing a great thing to have it wil all be ok ill even help out
Hi there. Since you are going to school, is there a teacher you trust? a guidance counsellor? You need to talk to someone who is not emotionally involved. Call a crisis line in your area if you don't want to talk to someone face to face - it is confidential and no last names are ever used so you remain anonymous. It is hard to take that first step but once you have reached out for help it will get easier.
Do something now before things get any worse.
the first thing you need to do is to make sure the baby is still okay!!!! then ask yourself what you would do??? my wife is pregnent now and she gets lots of mood swings but l try to help her out when l can??? l hope this helps you out???
please do not commit suicide
have the baby get ur parents help
u can do it
been there...and actually it get's better. the positive is that you are in school already but see if there's a college work study at your school that you could earn a few extra bucks and when that beautiful baby comes you will be even more motivated to do what you have to do to get to where you need to go. oh yeah another positive thing (i hope) is that you have a boyfriend who can help you since this is is baby too. good luck and don't waste anymore time on could've of, should've of, would've of.
Wow. Well sounds tough. If it makes you feel any better being pregnant causes people to cry a lot more. You need lots of rest and sleep. A happy mommy is a happy baby. If your boyfriend is taking care of you let him. You need to simplify as much as possible. Protecting yourself from stress is protecting your little baby.Start thinking of ways that you can gear your life to include a safe and secure family for this one. Don't be too hard on yourself. Everyday is new. Never make a big decision while emotionally stressed.Plus I think you can get government services like medical if you are in school and have low or no income. Be sure you get your Dr. visits.Get Wic. Get everything. You seem like you are trying. BTW I like these guys answers.You men on here rock. Thanks for giving women hope.
Wash the dishes. I'm serious!!! Then, be grateful that you are 19, not 16 and that you have what sounds like a supportive mate. Celebrate your glorious pregnancy and love your child with all your heart.
Keep your chin up, a smile on your face, and a grateful heart and abundance will flood your gate with more goodness than you thought yourself capable of receiving.
Remember honey, you get to choose--and when your child comes you fade in self-importance, in a good way.
Congratulations!
Best wishes!
you think thats bad,
take a leaf out of my book,
(with no mum or dad)
and i lost a brother,
i got took in care at a young age
i got beaten
i handled it well im a solider
You have good reason to be blue. Life with all it's complexities can cause you to be down. Especially with the drastic change that your body is going through. Glad to hear your boy-friend is supportive. Most would not be. Do take advantage of it and you will see your mood improve. Have you gone to the doctor yet and told them how you feel? I kinda think it is normal to be moody when first pregnant. I sure was and so is my daughter. She is due in May and cries often. Remember to eat. Low blood sugar can help make you depressed. I'm sending you a big hug because you sound like you need one. Now go have fun and try to think of a nice name for your baby and just how cute she/he is going to be. Everything is going to be fine. You'll see.
Don't feel stupid about what happened. Those kinda jobs are stressful and some coworkers are hard to deal with You probably handled everything the best you could over the circumstances.
Some pregnancy counselling may be in order here. But for the moment, count your blessings-it sounds like you have a wonderful boyfriend who wants to support you in going to school, and for the time being, you don't have to worry about drama-filled coworkers. That's more than a lot of single pregnant women can say.
Use you time and effort wisely. Turn to your true friends and family for help in this time. Remember that there may be more than one simple answer to any problems or question that one might have. This is what I say: For every problem there is a solution, its just finding it. Don't sell yourself short for you have as many good qualities as anyone else, they just may be hiding under you mood. Use family friends and social groups for support. You are not the only one that has been down that road, and remember what my friend says when I ask him how he is everyday. Worst than most but better than some. Keep positive attitude and rest as required and smile and think about the positive thing at the end of that nine month tunnel. But do keep in mind that you are never alone if you don't want to be. Remember, guys get down in the dumps to.
The first two answers are uncaring and heartless if you ask me. You need to find something in your life that you are truly passionate about. What did you love to do before you got pregnant. Do some soul searching and find what it was that made you the happiest. If it happens to be a subject in school, study it and study it well so that you can get a good paying career in that area of expertise. If it is not a subject in school, look for jobs that revolve around the thing you love to do. Finish getting your education and work your way slowly towards a job you will love. As for your boyfriend, he better as hell stay around far longer then to just make you "feel better". He better give you everything you want; 19 is way too young to have children. Talk to your parents and stay close to them in this time; you will be needing a lot of their help to get you through this, so figure out a way to put aside your differences and build your relationship with them. Do those things and you should start feeling better. This is not an instant process. You have started down a long winding, bumpy road that will seem like it is leading nowhere, for a while, but stick to it and eventually it will smooth out.
I think you are very fortunate that you have such a caring boyfriend! If he is willing to support you while you finish school, do it!
You can make an appointment to see a counselor at school (Ask how at the health center.) Many students feel overwhelmed when they are in school and need to talk to someone. They can help you figure out why you are so depressed. If you want you may be able to get a part-time job at school. Working while going to school is tough (I worked 3 jobs while going to school full time! I do not think I slept for the first year I was in school. The next year was better since I got a scholarship). So if you have the opportunity to just concentrate on school, go for it! You may even get to do some social situations but remember to spend some of that extra time with that loving boyfriend that is supporting you! :)
Good Luck!
Well, my dear, at the age of 19, I don't know how anyone would feel like they are 100% in control of their life. You have quite a bit of stress going on in your life with a baby to think about, too. You need some support from friends, family, and others in a time like this.
The best advice I can say is to stop looking at the long haul and all of its intricacies and take it one day at a time. Focus on the things you can control instead of what is out of your control. Instead of trying to control what you can't, discover how to best cope/adapt to those things.
Find some friends/peers that will help you. Churches are chockfull of these folks. You would be simply amazed.
And take a minute to smile and think of how greatly enriched your life is going to be with the birth of your child.
If your boyfriend wants to help,let him. don't give up the ship! I know it is easier said then done, but don't despair, seek the Lord Jesus Christ. Let Him come into your heart, and He will give you the peace of mind you need! Have faith and believe, He will help you and your boyfriend. Amen!
Do you have a best friend or an older close relative that you can talk to. I know life seems hard right not but, it will get better. I hope you can be strong in what your going through and find someone to talk to. It sounds like your bf is very supporting so, he is the person you should be talking to.
smoke a big fattie and chill out. Things cant get any worse! They can just get better! Hang in there kid!