My wonderful mom just passed away unexpectedly at the young age of 56 years old.!


Question: Can anyone advise me on a book I can read to help me get through this horrible time in my life. I have a family of my own to take care of and I just feel like I am just going through the motions of every day life but I feel like im not really living. Im so sad and depressed and no one seems to understand.


Answers: Can anyone advise me on a book I can read to help me get through this horrible time in my life. I have a family of my own to take care of and I just feel like I am just going through the motions of every day life but I feel like im not really living. Im so sad and depressed and no one seems to understand.

I love this poem. It has helped me cope with family losses as well. There is a book called 90 Seconds in Heaven by Don Piper that helped me a lot too.

God bless you and keep you in your time of grief. Know that you mom is safely on the other side and is not far from you or your family. Pay close attention and she will let you know when she's around.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
(Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!
Mary Frye (1932)

i totally know how you feel its amazingly hard to get over the loss of someone you love and personally i don't think that its possible but you'll get through it. my advice just take it day by day.

Thats so sad. I found that looking through old photos, crying, and displaying them really helps. It takes time and it is normal for you to feel this way. Also, if you can find someone to talk to really helps. Sorry, cant think of any books, but time will heal. Just thought of a couple books, The Gift and The Christmas Box by Richard Paul Evans.

i'm so sorry. make sure you stay active and talk to people. you can to me if you want. if you have aim my screename is TheBTPYoda. i don't know if this book will help you but i just read this book called Learned Optimism. its all about keeping yourself optimistic and not pessimistic and a lot of is also just information on how they did there research on it. sorry again about your mom.

I am sorry for your loss. I pray that God comforts you.

You can perhaps talk to a therapist about how you're feeling, and possibly join a bereavement group. I hope and believe that you will heal from this burdening sorrow.

The title to One booke is Why Bad things happen to Good People... I am so Sorry I lost My B-father at the age of 56 in July 07... and 6 others in 06... I do know how you feel...

So sorry for your mom passing away. There's no way anyone can truly understand what your feeling right now but I believe that the best remedy is being around people who love you.
If you feel you need to escape in a good book then try:
''Chicken Soup for the Soul". There are many to select from and they have always comforted me when i was feeling lonely or depressed. I truly hope that you get through this. I send you my prayers and strength and good vibes.

Have you considered seeing a grief counseler? You're probably feeling so many emotions right now, and talking to an expert can help put your mother's loss in perspective for you, and although I don't believe time heals, I believe they could help you find your inner strength to live on.
Talk to your family, they're your most valuable support group right now and are the only people who can hold you up.
I came across http://www.griefshare.org/
They will help you locate a local support group of people going through a similar experience, if you think having a forum for your emotions will help in any way
Allow yourself to cry and go through the motions... some days will be harder than others but you'll find it in you. Above all, I wish you the best, truly.

hate to tell you this but there is no such book...death is a part of life...you will have to allow yourself to grieve and for the time it takes to do...
focus on your children and remember that YOU are their mom and when you are feeling the blues coming on when they are awake...then play something really silly...like throwing socks at each other...
prayer when you are alone is also helpful...when my mom died I could not get the grief under control and someone wise told me to allow it too...but to do silly things at that time and pray...hey I also told my kids that at times i was sad and we would pray together and hug a lot...it reallly helps...and the children can feel your saddness more than the adults that tell you those stupid statements...like you need to move on...or you need to get over it...dah...that was your very best friend, you will never have another woman that close to you again...so love her now in the grief and let your kids help you...for one day they will have learned to cope as they will have to when its your turn to leave them...

Look for any affirmation books on Loss and Grief. Try the Hazelden website. There is on called the language of letting go that is really good. Sorry about your loss my mother died three years ago from breast cancer I know how it feels. Be kind to yourself and let yourself feel whatever you want. There are 7 stages that you will go through like, anger, bargaining, sadness, etc. The is a berevement group at Sutter Hospital in Sacramento that might be helpful to you. Meets weekly and you can find it in the phonebook. I hope it gets easier for you. Much Love

I think the best thing to do is take care of your family the way your mother would have if she was still with us. I'm sure shes in a better place.I havent read any books on loss but I hope you are O.K.

I am using my husbands on-line name, however the first thing that i wold say unto you is God, I lost my mother at the age of 17, and that was seven years ago, but then I turned to God and he became my consouler, my friend, my safe heaven. God is everything, and the word of God( Bible) will get you through it if you just believe in him. if you need someone to talk to email me at christianwritter@yahoo.com. and i will further give you my number if needed





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