How do I learn to boost my confidence again?!
Question: I just left a one year relationship. The relationship changed me in many ways. The main thing it changed was my confidence. I was always confident before and I no longer have any confidence left. I am not going to blame it on my ex, but I do think he was dragging me down some. I have several hobbies but I no longer even think I am good at them. I don't want to go to vet school anymore because I don't think I am smart enough. I don't think I'll ever be good enough for any relationship again. Now I look at someone and I think "I could never have a relationship with them, they are too good for me!" I no longer think I look good in anything. Sometimes I spend all day in bed because I don't want my sisters friends to see me. I feel like everyone is a step ahead of me.
How do I boost my confidence. I have low self esteem and I am afraid of a lot of things that I was never afraid of before.
Please don't be mean, I am contemplating on seeing a counselor about this situation.
Thank you.
Answers: I just left a one year relationship. The relationship changed me in many ways. The main thing it changed was my confidence. I was always confident before and I no longer have any confidence left. I am not going to blame it on my ex, but I do think he was dragging me down some. I have several hobbies but I no longer even think I am good at them. I don't want to go to vet school anymore because I don't think I am smart enough. I don't think I'll ever be good enough for any relationship again. Now I look at someone and I think "I could never have a relationship with them, they are too good for me!" I no longer think I look good in anything. Sometimes I spend all day in bed because I don't want my sisters friends to see me. I feel like everyone is a step ahead of me.
How do I boost my confidence. I have low self esteem and I am afraid of a lot of things that I was never afraid of before.
Please don't be mean, I am contemplating on seeing a counselor about this situation.
Thank you.
I feel your pain, been there myself. But here's the thing, things WILL get better and with time, you will move on from the 'blues'. Breakups are harsh, but everyone has gone through one, so you are not alone.
Your confidence is low because you were most probably in a negative relationship with a negative partner. Because you loved him/her, you took what they said to you and did to you, to heart. You internalized everything. And because you were involved in the relationship for a year, you grew to believe everything that your partner said to you. In essence, he/she drained you like an emotional vampire and now you are feeling empty and low. Understandable.
You will be afraid until you decide not to be afraid. Sometimes, we need to lay low for a while just to recompose ourselves. But eventually, you are going to need to get back on your feet and keep on trucking...I know, easier said than done. But you can do it!
Life is too short to wallow....so grieve as long as you need to grieve, cry your tears, but realize that you will need to move on eventually. Ending a relationship is not the end of the world (though it may seem like it right now). There are so many other wonderful fish in the sea, and one day you will find yours.
Just take things one day at a time, try little things to boost your self-esteem, have the courage to prove yourself wrong. You can still do everything you used to do before. Don't allow the voices in your head to tell you any different. Prove them wrong.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!
spend time with the people that makes you feel good
go to the balling ally with me and my girl you'll win we are real bad we went with freinds and lost real bad.
1-screw the piece of ____ 2- if he picked you, and bad mouthed you, what does that say about him. 3-you just had a boyfriend, why do you have low-self esteem. he obviously wasnt good enough for you cause he doesnt know what he lost. and i am sure you must be good at your hobbies. why wouldn't you be. I don't know what to tell you how to fix it, but dont let a guy/girl make your ego go down. or anything of yours go down. cause it is yours not him. remember that. also screw that piece of _____ and seriously there is always someone better than you, and of course there is always someone worse than you.