Anger problem?!
Question: ive got this anger problem were for example if i have an argument with a girlfriend over msn i will argue back normally but there are things i will hold back but if she really winds me up i will say some really harsh things which i mean but i will say everything at once. I know its good and its hard to explain this anger but basically when all my anger bottles up in one i let alll my anger out. Anyone know that feeling and how to stop it from happening
Answers: ive got this anger problem were for example if i have an argument with a girlfriend over msn i will argue back normally but there are things i will hold back but if she really winds me up i will say some really harsh things which i mean but i will say everything at once. I know its good and its hard to explain this anger but basically when all my anger bottles up in one i let alll my anger out. Anyone know that feeling and how to stop it from happening
Listen up Lee. Have you ever received anything of value for any of these conflicts, verbal, or full contact. Ever get anything of value regardless of if you won or lost.? Too free yourself of these demons, these destroyers, you must do the unthinkable, and learn problem resolution. Lots of ways to skin a cat besides putting it's head in a boot jack and pulling on it's tail. Solutions to violence, anger, ain't easy. It's far easier to just belt them one, or scream until they go away. Not to say that 'anger' doesn't have a place, it can be used on the extremely rude, preferably in a closet, sort of explain things while you've got them by the throat. But these situations are rare. And as far as I know, no male, in all of history has ever, as in 'not once', ever done well with a lady cause he proved her wrong.
The only thing that really makes me angry now is my brother.
Go to the library or bookstore and get some books on Anger Management. Those can be very helpful. Good luck.
I have the same problem sometimes. I tend to be passive-agressive and try to avoid confrontation at all costs, but then it does accumulate. When you say you "bottle" things up, that's not necessarily a bad thing - it's how you decide to vent those feelings that you need to work on. What you need to do is walk away from the situation, count to 10, 100 - whatever it takes and while in another room (or another building alltogether) write down what you were thinking about saying and read it back to yourself. Then try to imagine how those words would make you feel if they were said to you. Hopefully, that will make you realize that you are saying mean things just to push buttons, or because you feel attacked.
Poor knowledge may be behind "angers". A knowledgeable wo/man may not have anger and s/he knows the reason behind what is wrong or right.
This diverse world have even diverse opinions. You are to accept his as reality. Better avoid confrontation with your g/f. Time will come when she will understand the reality. Thanks