How can I better myself with these things.... (more)?!
Question: First off, I'm really sensitive, and I would like to change that. Secondly, I don't know how to let go of things... I'll not mention them, but they'll ALWAYS be in my head. Thirdly, and probably most importantly, how can I learn to open up more? Sometimes I'm very calcus to prevent from getting hurt, but this pushes people away from me (boyfriend, mom) and I don't like doing it... but there's like a person inside me that won't let me be vulnerable when I should be maybe. How can I help change this? Without therapy! I was in therapy for 3 years, and I do not want to go back!
Thank you for any help.
Answers: First off, I'm really sensitive, and I would like to change that. Secondly, I don't know how to let go of things... I'll not mention them, but they'll ALWAYS be in my head. Thirdly, and probably most importantly, how can I learn to open up more? Sometimes I'm very calcus to prevent from getting hurt, but this pushes people away from me (boyfriend, mom) and I don't like doing it... but there's like a person inside me that won't let me be vulnerable when I should be maybe. How can I help change this? Without therapy! I was in therapy for 3 years, and I do not want to go back!
Thank you for any help.
Don't really know the answer because it's pretty complex. Obviously 3 years of therapy didn't do it. But I will say I have bipolar disorder and had multiple therapists and multiple diagnoses and it was only when I went on the proper medications that I no longer obsessed about things. In fact, I can tell when I need a medication adjustment when thoughts start swirling around in my head and they won't go away.
I had many therapists with many theories and most of them put the blame smack on me, but only when I got the bipolar stuff under control was I really able to get the personality stuff adjusted. I couldn't really do it when I was all over the place mood-wise. Good luck
just love urself the way you are- then be conscious of when ur being too sensitive and stop by lettingur mind go to a good movie, a favorite book a celebrity a song anything! then start slowly with opening up little tidbits about ur life to people- like maybe what u dreamt last night and then eventually u'll be able to truly say what u have to :) good luck, and remember it takes time!