Molestation?!
Question: One day, when I was twelve, someone touched me innappropriately, I didn't mind at first, but a couple of minutes later it felt wrong. After, I felt weird and ashamed because I didn't really do anything at first, I didn't even want the person to touch me like that in the beginning. I still don't feel comfortable around this person anymore...Is this molestation, because I'm really confused? I've been blocking this memory out of my mind because it bothers me and I refuse to believe it happened, but it did.
Answers: One day, when I was twelve, someone touched me innappropriately, I didn't mind at first, but a couple of minutes later it felt wrong. After, I felt weird and ashamed because I didn't really do anything at first, I didn't even want the person to touch me like that in the beginning. I still don't feel comfortable around this person anymore...Is this molestation, because I'm really confused? I've been blocking this memory out of my mind because it bothers me and I refuse to believe it happened, but it did.
Don't ask the guy........that's not cool.........It's not your fault at all & not every inappropriate touch feels bad that's what causes the shame, confusion & guilt. All your feelings are normal for the situation that happened however you do need to talk to someone....because it will help....& once you get it out it loses it's power. It's like a scary movie that you see for the 1st time....it's scary cuz you don't know what's going to happen, the music is scary....it's the not knowing....than you watch the same scary movie 20 times it's no longer scary. Well same with talking to someone once you tell your story....& tell it as many times as you have to it's no longer scary & you start to move forward form that awful thing that happened. You should be able to find your local rape crisis center in the phone book & you can call & talk to someone without giving your name. Or Raain.com (spelled raain or raiin) it will give you a local center or 800 #..........take care & let me know how it goes.
I would say, based on the details that you've given, that this is sexual abuse. I would talk to a counselor about it. It can help you work through it, and also help you figure out if this person is dangerous to others.
yes, it is. you should talk to someone.
ask him about it, see if he denies it. if he does, he probably feels weird about it too
if it was someone your age you should talk to them about it, but if they are alot older report it.
Was it an adult?
yes its molestation n wrong you were 12 if you awnt to discuss more you can hit me up in a e mail i ll be glad to talk
i have been sexually asulted three times
Well if this person touched you in the chest, butt, vaginal area than yes that was molestation. However if he touched you on the back or the belly or any other part i didn't list in the first sentence, than this is sexual harassment. Which is when someone touches you and you feel uncomfortable about it. No one deserves this and i'm sorry you are going through it. I hope you don't see that person everyday, and i hope you will do okay.
yes when one gets those bad feeling it just might be what you think it is talk to parents or counselors so they can help and explain things to you.
if this thought is still tormenting you...then u should get in touch with a good counsellor or a friend with who you can confide and leave it out of Ur mind....which will help u a lot....
Your not confused at all, yes thats molestation! Never Forget. But move on and don,t dwell on it It,s over so don,t think about it, but do stop it from ever happening again. Theres lots of good loving people in the world, so don,t be scared off either, to find them. After all I took the time to help you, with nothing in it for me! Your loving Friend PROLLY :P KISSES
Try to talk to someone like an aunt,friend or teacher (if your still at school)
Don't feel ashamed,its best to talk about it.
When you feel ready and only then PLEASE REPORT it to the police.It may be that you are not the only one they have done this too,it needs to be reported don't go through life letting yourself think I should have reported it sooner.
It could have happened yesterday or years ago it don't matter.
Let me know how you get on,I was abused 31 years ago I reported it.It will never go away but try to get on with your life & dont let it keep you back
GOOD LUCK
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It may be important to mention how old this other person was. If he/she was the same age, then it cant count as molestation. If the person is older than 16, it can.
Whether it is considered by law to be molestation or not, it is obvious that this has impacted your life extremally negatively and it sounds like u are trying to prove to us that it was not ur fault. U need to realise without a doubt in your mind that it is not your fault and u are the victim.
yes, it is molestation. you absolutely need to go talk to a therapist about this right away, otherwise it will only get a lot harder later on in your life. I was molested a lot when I was a child, and I now have most of it blocked out, which only makes everything worse because you cannot deal and get over something when you don't even remember it. and as you said, you already are starting to block it...do not! go get help right away please.
good luck
Yes, you have been violated. Talk to your parents. if they don't believe you talk to the cops or social services in your town.
Get some couseling before this messes up your life.
Be strong
Get help
Yes it was ....sexual abuse!
yes, it is molestation. and you shouldn't be around the person who did this to you. it will be hard enough for you to live and cope with anyway. involving this pig in your life will just be a constant reminder. it is very common for people who have been victimized, especially in this manner, to feel dirty or, like they were asking forit, etc. also, they tend to block it out, just as you are. you need to talk to a psychologist. this will allow you the opportunity to sit down with someone who will be listening to you with non-biased ears b/c they don't know you, and you can also feel comfortable with really opening up and getting it all out, and never have to worry that anything you've said will leave that room. psychologists cannot breach confidentiality, and they take it very seriously too. i know, i was a psych major. but, you definately need someone to help you work through this so that you don't go through the rest of your life blaming yourself. and it's never too late to have this guy brought to justice. he OR she is a sex offender. if it happened to you it has happened and will continue to happen to others. and there is no place in society for pedophiles. also, i know we don't know each other, but, i am very sensitive to these kinds of things, so, keep me updated as to how you're doing and how you've decided to proceed with this, if you want. i accept e-mail
Yep!
Sure is, been there, had that, got the T-shirt as someone once said!