How can I feel pretty?!
Question: Well, I'm dealing with post partum depression, and I feel the grossest I ever have in my life. I'm fatter than ever, but I'm picking on myself for every last thing. I dont look in mirrors anymore, I hardly ever go out in public, as I'm afraid I'll see people I know and they'll think how fat and ugly I've gotten. I am taking medication at the moment for depression, but its not taking away from the fact that I feel absolutely repulsive. What can I do to pretty myself a bit?
I have no money for spa, or I'd be there, believe me.
Answers: Well, I'm dealing with post partum depression, and I feel the grossest I ever have in my life. I'm fatter than ever, but I'm picking on myself for every last thing. I dont look in mirrors anymore, I hardly ever go out in public, as I'm afraid I'll see people I know and they'll think how fat and ugly I've gotten. I am taking medication at the moment for depression, but its not taking away from the fact that I feel absolutely repulsive. What can I do to pretty myself a bit?
I have no money for spa, or I'd be there, believe me.
?First find beauty in you. Without beauty inside the outer beauty will be nothing. ?
Your not fat. Your pretty.
Well if your avatar is truly you, then I'd feel lucky if I looked like you! Getting a new outfit and a new hair cut always lifts a girls spirits! Once your spirits are lifted you will feel like going out, and walking or to the mall. I don't see a thing wrong with your looks! And you are not repulsive! Lots of people have gained weight, the holidays were just here! Your's is baby fat and won't be as hard to shed either.... Get yourself one of those foot massages, if your lucky a spa massage, that'll make you feel like a new woman!
know that you are pretty----I think you are, so have a nice day
In all seriousness... exercise. Not only do you tone up but you get a natural high from the endorphins
Usually, people EXERCISE to burn fat.
you know somethin you should go out to the hair salon and get a new cut that will make you feel like a new woman then get your nails done
you can also go on youtube and they have makeup videos on how to do it .... its really cool
i just know you will feel pretty after this
and just excersise and drink water because that helps the weightloss a lot
GOODLUCK TO YOU and hopefully you can feel like a
BEAUTIFUL SWAN
if thats you in the pic i think you look pretty hot for a mom i dont know what your complainin about
I know what this feels like. You need to wake up every morning, put some nice clothes on, fix your hair, put some makeup on. take the time for yourself to do that
wear make-up do something new with your hair compliment guys( they like that they just don't say it) and just be yourself i guess lol
If you smoke dont do it. Smoke makes chicks look ugly.
pretty comes from inside. i had ppd with my youngest and i went thru the same thing. if you dont have the money to go to the spa, do it at home. take a bubble bath, put on lotion, fix your hair, paint your toe nails, put on makeup. trust me, it will get better. dont think of yourself as fat or ugly. you did all this for your sweet little baby.
Try excercising, you will have more energy and excercising will release endorphins and make you feel better. Also you will begin losing weight and you will look better. Try playing with your hair at home and styling it differently. (when you have the time sense you ahve a baby and all.) I hope this helps. And listen, you are beautiful, you just brought life into this world, in that act you created magic and a miricle. You should be proud.
uhhmmm Try diffren hairstyles
wear makeup like Goldz an d dilverz browns and Sparklez
try going on a fruit and veggie diet
tell yurself yurr pretty everyday!
make better friends
wear brighter clothes
Are you the one in the picture... to tell you the truth, you're pretty. The only way to feel pretty is to think pretty and be sociable. Make new friends... be yourself and stop thinking you're fat... think you're sexy
take bubble baths, watch movies, just treat yourself and relax! If people treat you by how you look they aren't worth talking to. Don't look at all the negative points about yourself! everyone has negative points! Look on the POSITIVE side. ;]
The reason you don't have money for a spa is because your taking medication that doesn't even work.. sorry i just had to point that out. You need to find a good church. God is the only thing that can take away your depression. And i know your probably thinking "oh no.. another one of them" But I'm serious. God has helped many people. Medication is like witchcraft.. some medication is good because you really do need it some is bad because you don't such as.. for depression.. Don't worry about what people think just fix your hair you don't even have to worry about make up.. Wear decent clothes. Just eat whats on the food pyramid. Eat less drink lots of water. Your going to have to get out of the house because you need exercise.. I hope this helped.
I don't know if you work take time off for awhile if work is getting you down.See a doctor to see if something is wrong.
Pretty One, Belive one thing. It is not the outer that is being regularized as PRETTY / BEAUTY. ITS the inner urge that will make you pretty. Its all the DEEDS that will make you pretty.
So be cheerful on the inside, which will eventually reflect yourself, PRETTY (to others) on the outside.
TRY IT.
IT really works. Cheer UP dear.
Treat yourself to some little, inexpensive things, a new hair clip, a new lipstick etc... You don't need to change your looks, just how you are feeling. Maybe tie your hair back and wear a brave daring colour you have never worn before and then sit at a mall and notice all the people that go by that look way worse than you do but are still happy.
If your pic is what is showing than you are very attractive. A few extra kilos won't take your lovely looks away.
If you have no money for a spa, bring the spa to yourself.
Kick the family out of the house for a day and begin by exercising--a lot. Work out all your frustrations and your anger and fears--all those negative thoughts, pretend they're being sweated out of you.
Once you feel exhausted enough, take a relaxing shower or bath. Use the nicest soaps and oils you have and take as much time as you need. As a new mother, you totally deserve that time alone.
Take the time to fix yourself some tiny meals on nice plates, or order in the nicest food you can. Lounge around doing whatever you please.
After your one spa day, remember that you can do little things for yourself everyday to make yourself feel good. Exercise every day, and eat food that fuels you. Give yourself a pedicure once a week. Spritz on your favorite perfume. A little bit can really go a long way.
Good luck!
Start by setting small goals and sticking with them. For example, you should decide that you will go for a walk outside every day for the next few days, only if it is just around the block. The more you get out, the better you will feel and then you will also begin to feel better about how you look. You need to get out every day--you will slowly get back to your pre-baby shape. It is important to know that this is temporary --don't hang out in the blues.
Get A few friends together and have A girls Day , Take A nice Bath with Candles and shave , and do the bath soaps , all the nice things , then do your hair , and nail's and makeup , and get dressed really nice and go out with your friend's I hope this helps.
I feel the same way about myself at times. Within the last year I've gained a ton of weight just due to stress. And I hate going out in pubic. I usually try to avoid places I know my friends will be at. So I know the feeling.
It helps me to dress in something comfortable, whether it be sweat pants or baggy jeans and a hoodie, and just go out and take a walk with a friend. Don't worry about what people think for that moment, just let go and enjoy yourself. It helps. And a little makeup goes a long way for anyone
I like to do a "homemade spa" when I can't afford anything. You can buy facial masks for $1.00 and some change, stay home and pamper yourself.
The brain works amazingly as you can actually shape yourself to what you want to be! Basically I'll give you an example. If you don't want to be sad, all you have to do is when you have a sad thought, consciously tell yourself to not think it, and think a positive thought. (basically, if you're sad, try not to be sad, and it'll work) it sounds stupid, but it really works. if you make small changes, it will slowly turn habitual. (it worked for me, so trust me it works.)
Regarding your looks, I don't think you're really ugly, I don't mean really by not very, but really as in, in reality, you're not ugly. You just think you look monstrous. If you just try to not think you look bad, one step at a time, you'd slowly realize, that looks aren't really whats important, and that there is some one perfect for everyone out there. Just tackle your depression one thought at a time, and soon you'll find yourself in a happier place.
First you need to treat yourself to day of relaxing and beauty. As a new mother, I realize this might be hard to get done, because you are probably really busy. BUT if you can find the time, you should treat yourself to a manicure/pedicure, facial, a new haircut, maybe even new haircolor! You don't need to go out and spend tons of money either. The mani/pedi/facial/hair color you can do yourself at home for cheap!
When my sister gained weight after her pregnancy she mostly felt fat because none of her clothes fit her. Her clothes from prepreggers were too small, and her maternity clothes were too big. If this is your case, you should try and get a new pair of jeans and some tops that fit you nicely. No one feels skinny in clothes that are too small, even if they are 100 pounds!
Whenever I am feeling fat and ugly, I get a tan. Tanning beds are so extremely relaxing, the UV rays release endorphins, and the tan looks awesome. I know, I know, it's not good for your skin. But there's nothing wrong with doing it in moderation.
I hope you feel better, sweetie. I have known many women who feel this way after having a baby. Just remember that things will get better, and remember that YOU are your worst critiq. No one else is thinking bad things about you!
Attitude is everything. If you are not in the mood to think of yourself as pretty it doesn't matter if you are in actuality the most beautiful girl in the world. If you have this attitude that you are hot, you feel hot even if you are gross.
We see it every day and it seems to me that those with a slightly inflated self image are better off than those who are feeling less than they are or even those who are realistic.
Don't ask how to adjust an attitude. But I do know that to change your attitude is to change your world.
Life is alot of times a series of self fulfilling prophecies.
So sorry for what you are going through. That is very difficult dealing with PPD. Please know that it is temporary and you will feel better within the year.
At any rate, try to get some exercise. Exercise releases endorphins that make you feel much better. Besides that, after you wake up in the morning, get dressed and get ready for the day. An uninterrupted, unrushed shower can feel like spa! It is easy to stay in sweats all day after having a baby -after all you're exhausted. Know that you are not alone in this. You just gave birth to life's sweetest miracle! Don't be so hard on yourself. Also remember that the way you feel does not always represent reality. It is just a feeling. Try thinking positively and remember that it is your hormones making you feel bad. Congrats on the baby.
I am also dealing with postpartum depression, and I also feel totally gross and fat!, however I am not on meds. My suggestion would be to just forget about what other people think (trust me it is hard)... just pretend that they arent there. I usually focus on a good feature about myself and emphasize that. I've also done a lot of at home spa things like home manicures and pedis those sort of things...I still haven't figured out how to get rid of the fat feeling.. But if you feel good about lets say your face then just invision yourself a smaller size, maybe work out in the comfort of your own home.
look girl...you need to start from the inside and not worry about the outside because if you don't then it will all be in vain. take a walk around the block a few times or look at lifetime in the am and workout with denise austin. don't worry about the spa...go get yourself manicure or pedicure, a haircut (i am sure they have beauty schools in your area where the services will be free or very very cheap-ask for the best student though!) go to the mall and get a free makeover at the MAC counter. just some ideas... but most importantly LOVE YOURSELF.
Well I always think the best part of any woman is her brain. That only gets better with time. Don't worry about your body now just get better. I've taken meds for depression and they work ok. But for now just look around the internet for work out things you can do at home.
Here are a few I found---
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/...
http://www.freetrainers.com/
And look in your local library for some videos you can checkout for free like these---
http://www.amazon.com/gp/search?ie=UTF8&...
You'll be back in shape soon, hang in there kid!
Your pretty!
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