People with depression...?!


Question: do you ever feel that you don't actually want to get better?
ok, i don't know how to explain this...
i've been diagnosed with depression...i have a lot of suicidal thoughts...i have recently started getting help for it, but not really through my own will (though i know that really i need it) - my parents took me to the doc.
my dad keeps saying that i'm keeping myself depressed, he says i'm choosing to feel like this and that i just need to stop being so negative about everything. but i just can't do that.
the psychiatrist told me that it's just the 'depressive brain', and that the negative thoughts and beliefs aren't real, and that i just need to choose not to believe them. but i think they are real. they are real to me, and i can't see how they're not real.
and i've thought of suicide so much, that i'm almost decided on the fact that that is how i'm going to die.in some ways i don't want to get better, i just want to kill myself.


Answers: do you ever feel that you don't actually want to get better?
ok, i don't know how to explain this...
i've been diagnosed with depression...i have a lot of suicidal thoughts...i have recently started getting help for it, but not really through my own will (though i know that really i need it) - my parents took me to the doc.
my dad keeps saying that i'm keeping myself depressed, he says i'm choosing to feel like this and that i just need to stop being so negative about everything. but i just can't do that.
the psychiatrist told me that it's just the 'depressive brain', and that the negative thoughts and beliefs aren't real, and that i just need to choose not to believe them. but i think they are real. they are real to me, and i can't see how they're not real.
and i've thought of suicide so much, that i'm almost decided on the fact that that is how i'm going to die.in some ways i don't want to get better, i just want to kill myself.

Hello there... shockingly enough I know exactly how you feel... you just need to throw some positive thoughts in that brain of yours... I dealt with depression for a long time... doctors and family members can really only help you so far the rest is up to you... you just have to have more faith in yourself... everyone has a reason for being here whether it's for good or bad (hopefully more good) but thats actually what helped me out.. I found something that made me very happy and it was helping out animals in shelters... just to see the happy little tails wagging and hearing the purrs made me feel so much better... a lot of times people don't realize how fortunate they are until they see something or someone less fortunate... it isn't going to be an easy battle but you have to be strong and it's something you have to do... and with the suicide deal... think of it this way think of all the positive things you can accomplish before it's your time to die all the love you can share and pass on with people around you... you can make a change and even though it might not be a ground breaking change to someone or something else it could be the world... thats why I went with the shelters those animals don't have the love and affection that every day pets have so even if it's once a week thats still one more day you could be making that animal happy... ya know? I know how it feels to not want to get better I still get in my depression states sometimes but you have to find something that makes you truely happy inside... you should try writing your feelings down or drawing or try doing volunteer work... I know it doesn't work for everyone but you just have to find your thing... Another thing is don't let people get to you... there are a lot of angry people in this world but there are also a lot of very good people so you should keep yourself around so that adds one more good person... I don't think you should take your own life... where's the excitement in that??? I've decide I'm going out death by dinosaur... lol I'm actually serious... but for what it's worth once you get over this bump and you get a taste of how wondeful and how exciting life can be you'll look back and think to yourself... how could I have ever though so negatively before... Again I've been there and it's not an easy thing to get rid if and I still get in the mood sometimes but for me also just going outside and observing how beautiful everything around me is and how fortunate I am to be able to see, smell and hear everything around me is it makes me appreciate my life that much more... now how your dr. said you have to take these thoughts and not believe in them is very true and you can do it just try replacing them with something positive... like for example... say you're thinking about taking your life... instead of thinking of ways of doing that think of ways to better your life... go outside and take a deep breath and look around you... take in nature and everything else around you feel the breeze on your face... don't forget laughter and smiling are contageous probably one of the most contageous things out there so see if spreading a couple of those around helps you out... I know it helped me... just that I was able to make someone that was so angry forget what they were so angry about and smile or laugh even just for a minute meant a lot to me... I knew how I felt when I was like that and would've loved someone to come up to me and spread the smiles but sometimes you have to be the first to make a move ya know? Good luck and I'll have my fingers crossed and my prayers for you... Life is way too precious a gift to let your brain get to you... again once you get past this bump it gets a lot easier because you'll know how to get rid ofg those thoughts and you'll wonder why you ever thought like this... all my love goes out to you hun ;)

I want to get better I just don't know how to. I'm sick of living like this and no doctor has been able to help me so far.
I really hope you get well soon but can't give a reasonable answer myself.

I understand what you're trying to say. Hang in there.

Well yeah thats right, I know what you mean, you just keep thinking like that because its into your head, like drugs or alcohol can be. But you gotta change whatevers bothering you, dont take any ****, and do some of the things you did before you were depressed..... thats what I did

It is a mind thing and a chemical thing. First, you have to think positive. Choose to say the glass is "half full". Decide you want to be helped and want help. That's quite possibly the biggest step you could take!

Has there been an event that has happened that has made you feel like this or have you always felt depressed?

Please dont do anything rash like kill yourself - things are never that bad. I had really bad post natal depression, but a trip to my GP and a few pills later, I feel great. I really hope you pick yourself up and get all the help you need. Life really is worth living. xxx

i know what your gowig through ive been deppresed for the last six years of my life. what ever you do do not start taking antideppresantes becasue that will only make things worse trust me i know.
dont let other people tell you that you need to change your attitude thats a load of bull.

i totally understand what you mean.....i feel that way sometimes too....but i think that your dad doesn't know what it is exactly that you are feeling so he doesn't know how to deal with it....he might think you are making it up and causing yourself to feel the way you do but really you can't help it because it's phycological...try to feel better and don't think about suicide...find someone or something that makes you happy and when you get down call them or do it....if that doesn't work there is always medicine. and if you truely want to be depressed the be that way...you wont be the only one to suffer...you family and friends will to so remember that next time you think you want to be sad!

i am on the other side after 5years of therapy. i hate to make it sound so simple, because it isnt. what they are both saying is true in part. a lot of whether something is good or bad is how you look at it. depressed people have this bad way of seeing all the bad around them, while they totally overlook all the good. in a lot of cases things arent as bad as they seem when you are depressed and your life isnt actually as bad as you think. the problem is that whatever advent started you down this path, and now you are stuck there. healing takes a long time. you have to look inside, fix somethng, look again, fix something else. i have heard it said healing comes in layers. you fix what hits you first, and many times it reveals a deeper problem. on the bright side, if you complete this journey it will change your entire outlook on life.

I completely understand what you are saying. Depression is hard but so is the thought of putting all of the work into getting better especially when you realize that your thought processes arent getting any better and sometimes suicide seems like it would be so much easier. But I have decided that I just wont do it. I have gone so far as to take a semester off from school and take off of work for months so that I can take time to heal.

FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT!!! Do NOT be selfish and kill yourself. It won`t last forever (depression). Let others help you to learn to HELP YOURSELF. Maybe you should get a dog to care for and enjoy. Good luck! Hang in there.

hun I know where you are coming from all the way. I have major depression for about 6 years, it has became my life, honstly I'm afried to get better, bc I have been like this for so long. Getting better scarys me. I know the feeling you want to die, sometime i think that would be better. But really it is not, everyone would be really sad that you went that way. It's a hard thing to get over. But hey try this, even if they are not true (as of right now) write down powerful satment like I can get though this. Hang them on your wall. I'm doing that right now, you will read them everday and you will start to belive them. If you need help write some e-mail me and I can give you some me and my theraipst came up with some. I hope this helped hun, hang in there, if you need to talk i'm here for you.

When i suffered with depression somedays i didnt even want to get up, open the curtains or go outside. Its just how it makes you feel inside. My dad didnt understand either, he said it was all in my head and that because i was on medication, i could just stop if i wanted to. But i did try to stop taking my pills but in about 3 days i was crying all the time for no reason and felt terrible. I know how you feel but there is light at the end of the tunnel. After 2 years on med i finally came off then pills on my own too. Good luck hope all is well

I feel just like you it sucks to be me

Depressive disorders are characterized by sadness severe enough or persistent enough to interfere with function and sometimes by decreased interest or pleasure in activities. Exact cause is unknown but probably involves heredity, changes in neurotransmitter levels, altered neuroendocrine function, and psychosocial factors. Diagnosis is based on history. Treatment usually consists of drugs, psychotherapy, or both, and sometimes electroconvulsive therapy.
Please see the web pages for more details on Adolescent depression, Clinical depression and Depression

you are not depressive I mean you know you can get better ,go out think about flowers which you like ,if you think about suicide do some thing you like like play basket ball or exercise do not go towards that thinking try try to ignore it ,talk to your friend on phone ,I know it helps it always help me .please do not think about killing your self ,1st of all it is a big sin 2nd of all it is a crime 3rdly it is immoral no good .your life is too precious to waste ask your mom and dad .PREYING also helps GOD will give you the way go to church or temple or which ever your religion is GOD is there to listen in every language or every way .May ALLAH help you .I will pray for you I hope I have helped you AMEEN.

i suffered depression a few years ago, and took an overdose, i realised after it was the most selfish thing i could have done, i hurt everyone around me and was suffocated by them 4 ages, cause they were scared id try again. i still get down sometimes, you need 2 find someone you trust to talk 2 and get evrything out, its not that you dont want to get better, feeling that was is a part of your depression. its a horrible thing to suffer from, and i believe evryone goes through it at some point. you will gett through it with proper support ( ignore your father he seems very insensitive) and you'll be a stronger person at the end of it. i hope everything works out for you xx

i have suffered and recovered from depression so i do know a little of how your feeling and what people fail to tell you is that EVERYONE has these feelings at some point even the shrink.I'm sorry if this sounds cruel but do you like the attention your depression seems to be getting you and what i mean by that is do you get out of doing the boring mundane stuff because of it because people don't want to push you over the edge...negative thoughts are real but you can choose not to listen to them that might be hard but it can be done..please don't do anything in haste this may sound a bit naff but walking really helped me give it a go you don't know till you try and change your name from pull the trigger to something more positive that might help, good luck mate x

There is no reality, only perception. You do make sense. Parents need to inform themselves on depression & learn how to be helpful. Self affirmation is very important. Look in mirror into your eyes & say about five times " I am a worthy person. I deserve to live happy , joyous & free. ( &/or add your own words). Develop your own personal mantra along these lines. You probably suffer from low self esteem & low self worth. My suggestion may sound hokey but it works for me. Get out & move about...take a walk, hike , exercise at gym or at home...do mantra whilst you do.No energy ? Doing exercise creates energy..especially aerobics. Reach around your back over shoulder & give your self a hearty pat on the back every time you do something good for yourself. Get therapist & ask for help. E-mail for more info.

i know just what u mean "/
i h8 myself & and dnt like bein around ppl
i keep things 2 miself , ive attempted suicide & yh i dont realli wanna get betta "/

Yeah, I can understand you well. I'm in similar position for years.
Not that I've been to doctor, but I've thought about it.
Mine conclusion



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