Life advice...? Im ready to give up!?!
Question: ill try to make a long story short..my life took a downward spiral after my gf of a couple years dumped me..i planned to marry her..after she dumped me i tried to kill myself & was hospitalized multiple times on suicide watch after that( Im 19)...we fought some &she went out of state to a different college and after coming back one weekend after a fight she dumped me...after that i soon found out i had other health problems(not psychological) & was unable to return to college..my health problems are much better & ill b returning to college in the summer..but i still struggle everyday not to commit suicide..i have dated many girls before her & tried dating after the break up but i still cant get over her..i know she doesnt want me back and has a new bf now..i used to have it all..i was a teen bodybuilder..had my gf..and a straight A college student..now im single and have lost around 68 pounds in seven weeks & not returning to school until august..i just dont want to live if i cant have
Answers: ill try to make a long story short..my life took a downward spiral after my gf of a couple years dumped me..i planned to marry her..after she dumped me i tried to kill myself & was hospitalized multiple times on suicide watch after that( Im 19)...we fought some &she went out of state to a different college and after coming back one weekend after a fight she dumped me...after that i soon found out i had other health problems(not psychological) & was unable to return to college..my health problems are much better & ill b returning to college in the summer..but i still struggle everyday not to commit suicide..i have dated many girls before her & tried dating after the break up but i still cant get over her..i know she doesnt want me back and has a new bf now..i used to have it all..i was a teen bodybuilder..had my gf..and a straight A college student..now im single and have lost around 68 pounds in seven weeks & not returning to school until august..i just dont want to live if i cant have
I know its hard and right now you think she is the only one for you but we all go through that till we find someone else that wins are heart.
I did for sure. Had 2 exs who I thought were the one and when we broke up I couldnt think of anything else. Then I met my husband and couldnt imigane not being with him.
You need to get out there and really date. Join match or something and see whats out there. Start going back to the gym get in shape get a haircut get some new clothes and shoes get a better job all things that can start to make you feel good and then once you do this you will have a more positive outlook on things and that will show to girls around you. And even to your ex. Nobody wants to be with someone who is all depressed and suicidal. Once she sees your doing great she may reconsider and if not you may find someone you like just as much.
Leave it all in the past dont tell new girls about her or anything start new and see what happens.
Once you start school again you may make some new friends to keep your mind of her also Hope this helps you
i answered this question the other day its ok. go on a dating website and learn to love your self first and then if its meant to be it will. your not a bum you still have college ahead of you and their you will meet new ppl. hang in there and dont give up
I wish I could ease your pain, and I would do whatever I could to help you if I knew how. Please don't give up on life though. You have so much ahead. Try to find a support group or an activity that can take your mind off of her. Sooner or later, another girl will come along that will be right for you. I know you don't believe that now, but it is the truth.
Okay, I'm not going to suggest counseling or meds. But let me tell you something. You are way too young to be letting these kinds of things get to you like this. I've had a rough way to go at many points in my life and have been in the same situations. I've thought about suicide, even tried it once. Now, I'm on meds which do help. And I see a counselor that I like. It took many tries with various meds to get me to this point. You do need to be on some kind of medication. Okay, I lied. But it's true. You also need the help of someone you like and feel like you can trust. Believe me, you CAN get better but you have to WANT to. I sincerely hope that you take my advice and do something about this. Don't end your life. What does that prove? Nothing. Best wishes.
Mike
do you really think dying is going to fix or change anything??? NO SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER!!!!!!!!!!!!! you gotta stick in there just wait, if she didnt feel any pain after she heaard about you trying to kill yourself and didnt even say anything? shes not worth it i know you loved her but life goes on. just stay single until you get your life back on track! when the time comes shell find you or youll find her! just hang in there and DO NOT commit suicide its not going to make anything better and it will just hurt your family! hang in there buddy!!!
firstly if i lost 68lbs in seven weeks id be delighted, now get a grip and think of all us trying to lose weight