Emotionally exhausted!?!
Question: I am fed up. Drained really. I feel like I keep going up and down, and it happens without warning. One day Im up, the next day im down. And I feel like I cant breathe sometimes.
I try to do things for myself, go out with a friend, take time out for myself, get massages, and its still there. It feels like there's a big stone on my heart. (no, im NOT suffering from chest pain, its more emotional)
1. SICK of waiting around for my bf to get his LIFE together, get a full time job, stand up to his mother, move out of his parents house. Im not even happy when I go over there anymore, bc his moms always lurking around, she never leaves, unless its with her dad - can you believe the woman doesnt know how to drive?!
2. TIRED of the family drama, im leaving that one alone. They can do what they want, I'll see them on holidays.
3. FEDUP of living with 3 other people and feeling so alone. my roomates treat me like strangers!
I just feel like im doing all of this stuff alone, thats all..
Answers: I am fed up. Drained really. I feel like I keep going up and down, and it happens without warning. One day Im up, the next day im down. And I feel like I cant breathe sometimes.
I try to do things for myself, go out with a friend, take time out for myself, get massages, and its still there. It feels like there's a big stone on my heart. (no, im NOT suffering from chest pain, its more emotional)
1. SICK of waiting around for my bf to get his LIFE together, get a full time job, stand up to his mother, move out of his parents house. Im not even happy when I go over there anymore, bc his moms always lurking around, she never leaves, unless its with her dad - can you believe the woman doesnt know how to drive?!
2. TIRED of the family drama, im leaving that one alone. They can do what they want, I'll see them on holidays.
3. FEDUP of living with 3 other people and feeling so alone. my roomates treat me like strangers!
I just feel like im doing all of this stuff alone, thats all..
Hi hon...
first of all, why are you with a guy whose actions and interpersonal relationships disgust you? this doesn't make any sense. unless you're trying to torture yourself.
maybe consider unloading him. and taking time out for YOU for a while -- to get your life together before you dive into another relationship.. and next time, dump whoever it is at the first sign of no job, codependency and other insanity.
it's true we are in this ALONE pretty much.. i'm talking about life. it's nice to have friends, but sometimes they just can't be there. so we really need to find what makes us content as individuals.
for me, i have my dog (we walk three times a day) and i am a part time artist, which i enjoy very much. i have one friend who likes to hike, so we do that together occasionally. other things i've done during my lifetime are helping to volunteer for animal shelters, visiting nursing homes and helpng with activities, enjoy scrapbooking, etc.
I have things which i like to do, which keeps my life rather "full". sometimes we need to look inside and see what might make us happy and content, then do them.
I do almost everything alone. It's not so bad.
I'm sure that if you take the time to make your life full, someone nice and worthy of your love will come along when you least expect it.
Right now, you're settling for someone who doesn't deserve you.
Move out, Leave the bf and get a life for yourself and healthy people around you.
Trust me
Have you ever looked up Borderline Personality Disorder?
Bit of a misnomer, some want to re-name it 'Emotional Regulation Disorder'.
Your description of sudden 'out of the blue' mood swings, relationship problems, feeling alone (even when around people) and 'not relation' to others seem to fit.
Have a look into it..
Aside from that, life IS exhausting. Especially when we feel like others have all the control over it.
You're really stressed and I see why. If you can, I would suggest seeing if you can find somewhere else to live that will make you feel comfortable. Also, if you are getting nowhere with your boyfriend, maybe you should end the relationship or take a break from it to find out what you want to do.
Regardless, I don't think that feeling of despair will last forever but for your sake, you should put your needs first even though you care about these people. Just remember that this is your life.
if your sick of waiting for your bf get his life together forget it he has not done it so far you accept the fact that he got to help mom or you move on get your life in order tired of family drama then leave holidays alone as well get all way out or not at all or there will always be drama
room mate treat you like a stranger everybody probably doing and going there own way you start doing things to different different people
your doing all ---------------- stuff alone well basic you are realizing that there got to be some changes
now how are you going to change things think on it
You must be older than me.
I'm only 15.
but i hope it helps when i say i feel exactly like you do.
that feeling of having a stone in your heart, it's perfect to describe how i feel.
I just don't really know why i feel like that.
I go through many strong mood swings as well.
Though many people would like to tell me it's just from being a teenager, i want to disagree and say it's from some disorder i can't control.
I wish it was, because then I'd have an explanation to my madness.
Maybe you can talk to a doctor or therapist and they can help you deal with everything.
Good luck to the both of us.
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OH I am so sorry to hear that ..need a friend IM me......
You're fed up because you need to stand up to people I understand how you feel because I am the same way
I feel for ya girl!
I hope you can talk to your bf about his situation ...or get rid of him....sounds like hes draining you emotionally too!