How do you deal with people who violate/disrespect your triggers to anxiety & an!
Question: (Don't know if I phrased that correctly). I have 1 friend. Her coworkers KNOW that sex & porn trigger off my OCD unwanted, intrusive sex thoughts. When I go to her house, they're always doing something sexual in front of me, on PURPOSE, just to trigger off my unwanted thoughts, & then once I get angry, they LAUGH! My friend even told the guys not to do that. She's the only friend I have. If I don't have her, I don't have anybody.
My brothers (I made a New Yrs. Resolution not to interact with them anymore) asked to come by my house on Christmas Eve. I wouldn't have let them over, but I did, since it was a holiday. & they started smacking loud on their food, on purpose, just to trigger off an anxiety attack, & when I got upset & put in my earplugs, they laughed. I was afraid to put them out because before, when I had my car, I tried to put them out, & they refused, & the cops had to get involved. I was afraid they'd get violent with me. I can't even spend HOLIDAYS with my family!
Answers: (Don't know if I phrased that correctly). I have 1 friend. Her coworkers KNOW that sex & porn trigger off my OCD unwanted, intrusive sex thoughts. When I go to her house, they're always doing something sexual in front of me, on PURPOSE, just to trigger off my unwanted thoughts, & then once I get angry, they LAUGH! My friend even told the guys not to do that. She's the only friend I have. If I don't have her, I don't have anybody.
My brothers (I made a New Yrs. Resolution not to interact with them anymore) asked to come by my house on Christmas Eve. I wouldn't have let them over, but I did, since it was a holiday. & they started smacking loud on their food, on purpose, just to trigger off an anxiety attack, & when I got upset & put in my earplugs, they laughed. I was afraid to put them out because before, when I had my car, I tried to put them out, & they refused, & the cops had to get involved. I was afraid they'd get violent with me. I can't even spend HOLIDAYS with my family!
I'm so sorry to hear that the people in your life have been so cruel. I try to avoid all people that get on my nerves because I know it's not good for me to get agitated. If I were in your position I would cut off all contact with these people. If your friend's co-workers can't control themselves around you then just tell her not to invite them over whenever you're around....she cares about you and she'll probably do whatever she can to take care of you.
I hope you're able to forget the aggravating events that are causing you to have an anxiety attack. I don't think I've ever had an anxiety attack but I do know what it's like to lose control of your feelings and it sucks.
Please take care of yourself.
You all ready know the answer to your question. You need to keep yourself away from these known triggers and find some friends that are more caring.
i try to leave.....
or blot out the noise....sometimes i can do that....but leave is more likely
From now on refuse ANY sort of contact with these people! (Even if your family requests it) And if something like this occurs again file a report with your local police and talk to a lawyer about a potential law suit or restraining order.
You have the right to have your fears (as much as they may suck) and to spend time with your family and friends. And if your friend gets upset because you take legal action then shes obviously not very supportive or loyal and no one needs someone like that in their lives.
Its unpleasant but having no friends might be better than having one crappy friend.
-Good luck.
Hi--I try to make it look like it dosent bother me, like they are being foolish. Or if it really upsets me, I usually get away from the situation. (Fight or Flight Response)
I'm sorry you don't have more loving people in your life please try to stop seeing these people and find more loving and understanding people. i wish you well
you know the answer dude.given the fact that she know that you have OCD and yet she didnt even bother to care for you worse she always make fun of you if she's really a friend she will be concerned about your condition and will never mess up with you
Avoid such people, as much as reasonably possible: find new friends. Consider volunteering, as a way to do this: see below*.View section 7, on OCD, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and also view section 6, since it's thought to be an anxiety related disorder. Practice one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I suffer from OCD, I deeply and completely accept myself." PANIC ATTACKS: View the techniques for control of panic attacks, in section 8, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Begin by holding your breath for 5, or 10 seconds: this will give you the confidence to realise that YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR BREATHING, but not pass out, or die (your autonomic nervous system resumes breathing, if unconscious). Understand panic attacks, and what triggers them, in your life (if it is unresolved anxiety, see section 6). The paper bag method works for most people: try it. If you are fairly suggestible, the following are reliable: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/
Your last alternative is psychotherapy, to address its fundamental cause: read section 1, and examine the 1-800-therapist website, and use the locators, and phone book. I used to suffer from panic attacks, until I questioned what had changed recently in my life, to trigger them? I suggest that you learn, then practise the controlled breathing technique, until competent, then employ it, at the very first sign of a panic attack. Anger management is addressed in section 4. You originally set those triggers: you can reprogram them. Seek therapy. *Consider volunteering, even from home, at first, as a means of changing your focus from yourself, and ceasing useless introspection. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I ..(insert activity here).." Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, and many people make friends from good people, who will be accepting of your disorder, and not have fun, at your expense.
The only thing you can do is to try to avoid these cruel people. I am os sorry that happened to you.
I'm sorry to say this, because I can see you are in pain. Please get some real help. Your triggers are your problem. Your behavior is your problem. You can control your behavior, nobody elses. People are annoying everywhere you go. You need to learn new behaviors. You can't make anyone else behave differently. You can avoid them, but that won't change the fact that you are out of control emotionally and need to learn how to change that. If you can't learn to control yourself, your life will be a series of arrests and commitments, drug therapy, and excuses.