Please help i think my brothers an alcoholic.?!
Question: My brother has just turned 21 and im 17, everyday he drinks, whether its 2 beers or 20 beers or one glass of wine or 3 bottles. it doesnt matter what alcohol there is lying around, he drinks it, even if i buy myself a bottle of wine (which is very seldom, once every couple of months) and i say thats mine, its like he cant stop himself and by the next morning its gone, i hide it in the back of my wrdrobe and when ihe found this hididng place and i questioned him he pretended he didnt know what i was talking about. he sleeps all day and is up al night. hes a heavy cannabis user aswell. hes lost all meaning to life he only goes to work when he feels like it, steels money from out savings box and denys that he drinks. we all know he has a problem but its like were all afraid to say something to him
some one please help. what should i do, i cant talk to him but its making me depressed and i dont think we should even be dealing with this at suh a young age
Answers: My brother has just turned 21 and im 17, everyday he drinks, whether its 2 beers or 20 beers or one glass of wine or 3 bottles. it doesnt matter what alcohol there is lying around, he drinks it, even if i buy myself a bottle of wine (which is very seldom, once every couple of months) and i say thats mine, its like he cant stop himself and by the next morning its gone, i hide it in the back of my wrdrobe and when ihe found this hididng place and i questioned him he pretended he didnt know what i was talking about. he sleeps all day and is up al night. hes a heavy cannabis user aswell. hes lost all meaning to life he only goes to work when he feels like it, steels money from out savings box and denys that he drinks. we all know he has a problem but its like were all afraid to say something to him
some one please help. what should i do, i cant talk to him but its making me depressed and i dont think we should even be dealing with this at suh a young age
If your brother is truly an alcoholic, then the best thing you can do is distance yourself so that you're not caught in HIS self-destruction. You cannot help him until he WANTS help. Get yourself to an Al-anon meeting. This will be explained to you in detail and give you an insight on him you don't have now. Don't give up. It may look and feel hopeless, but it's not. You need to protect yourself emotionally until he hits bottom and asks for help. THEN you can be there if you wish. Best of luck.
Tough love my friend. Your brother should be earning his own living. He is 21! In my opinion, if you are not going to college, 18 is the time to become your own man and move out of mommy and daddy's domain. It does sound like he has some substance abuse problems, but I think it might be due to the fact that he is being enabled.