What shall I do about my hubby I'm positive he is losing his memory big time!
Question: it is worrying me because he works away from home and I feel sure it will not be long before he loses his way compleltey. Also it is starting to cause stress and anger him with me for telling him is forgetfull and me because I feel so frustrated that I cannot help or worse still he won't let me help him..... trying to get him to go and see his GP.
Has anyone else had to deal with this type of issue.?.
Answers: it is worrying me because he works away from home and I feel sure it will not be long before he loses his way compleltey. Also it is starting to cause stress and anger him with me for telling him is forgetfull and me because I feel so frustrated that I cannot help or worse still he won't let me help him..... trying to get him to go and see his GP.
Has anyone else had to deal with this type of issue.?.
He should see a doctor as soon as possible. Many, MANY things could be happening. They could be psychological in nature, you don't state his age but alzheimers is a possible explanation.... or simply a vitamin or mineral deficiency. A girlfriend of mine thought she was losing her mind because she kept forgetting things from one minute to the next. It was driving me crazy too. Turned out she was suffering from a b-12 deficiency. A little blood work, some b-12 injections, problem solved. Neither of you will know for certain what the problem is though until you get him to a DOCTOR!! God bless and good luck.
go to a doctor
SEE A DOC
While he's sleeping, get three REALLY ugly women and a bloke too, to lay next to him. When he wakes up in the morning, I'm sure he will hot-foot it down to the doctors.
This was my teenage son's suggestion, btw.
how old is he? are you worrying because you think this might be the start of dementia in some form? what kinds of things ios he forgetful about? soem forgetfulness is normal as we get older so I think we need more information
I don't mean to worry you as this could be symptomatic of many things but the early onset of Alzheimer's is a real possibility, you really have to be adamant that he speaks to a doctor.
this is a medical issue make an appointment for him ask him to go with you to the dr having already told the dr in advance the issue
He may be suffering from Alzheimers or demenshia. If you can get him to go to the docs soon, there may be help if it is an early stage.. Good luck
caringly and firmly talk with him saying you are going together for him to get checked out. anticipate it might make him angry or unreasonable or whatever, that's par for the course. stay with it, be caring, let him know it is not just about him but you too, be supportive, and be firm that you need this checked out. there's also support groups and ways of dealing, family and friends who are supportive or even deal with the same thing. i regret not insisting that my dad never learn to use a can because he was obstinate, and consequently perhaps he went from his attempts at walking unaided to a wheelchair - it is in his best interests to deal with a problem rather than deny it, it can allow you to address it and bring in resources, rather than feeling out to sea. best wishes to you both!
What a frightening time for you. Tell him that you are worried about his health, not that he is forgetful. Whilst the mind leaps ahead to Altzeimers and such-like, remember that stress can produce memory problems.
Tell him that you'd feel happier if he have a health check up at your Doctor's. You could 'prime' the doc by a phone call, to let him know of your concerns.
Good luck.
He needs to see a doctor as soon as poss. It could simply be that he is suffering from stress and needs a break. If he is getting angry about it, this shows he is worried too. Try to talk to him, explain it would set YOUR mind at rest if he went to the docs.
Good luck xx
Bless his heart, I know this must be frustrating for the both of you. It can be a simple problem or big. Try and get him to go see a doctor. You can have Alzheimers at any age. (I'm sure I didn't spell it right) that is a scary thing. It may be just his diet. He will always think there is nothing wrong with him, so why should he see a doctor if there is nothing wrong? Maybe you can ask him questions and let him answer, then record it and play it back to him! (just a thought) Hang in there!
Maybe the stress and anger you're causing him over this is aiding in his memory loss and inability to concentrate. Everyone forgets stuff now and then. Don't accuse him of being forgetful. Rather tell him, "It would make me feel better if you would go see a doctor to make sure everything is OK because I love and care about you." There could be a million reasons why he's distracted. Talk to him, and make an effort to make his home life on the list of non-distractions.
Is your husband stressed? That can cause problems with memory loss.
I genuinely don't want to put the frighteners on you but he could be in the early stages of Alzheimer's disease. My mum developed it in her forties and I know of someone who was diagnosed with it in their thirties. In the early stages, my mum was forgetful and used to keep telling me the same stories over and over again. She also crashed her car, locked her keys into our house and ran into difficulties thinking of words or being able to follow complex conversations. She used to crack jokes in an attempt to cover up what was happening to her.
Really, you need to get him to see a GP before something bad happens to him.
I'm going through it with my wife at the moment.
It is very frustrating having to try and hint to her she has a problem.
She gets angry if I tell her she has told me something before or she tells me she told me something when she hadn't.
I think she has an idea there is something wrong but doesn't want to face up to it.
I don't know what to do either.
there's normal forgetfulness and there's more dangerous types. you don't say how old he is, and whether he does stuff to himself that may cause dementia (much more than just memory loss). Does he drink? Smoke? He must go to the doctor once in a while, right? when he has an appt, talk with the doctor before he sees your husband and tell him about your concerns.
people can be stubborn about accepting help and don't like to admit to getting older and losing their abilities. Just be as supportive as you can, given the frustration factor. There are tricks that the forgetful can use to help them keep track of things -- writing things down in a little agenda/notepad e.g. Help him put his appointments and other things to remember in there, to keep on him at all times.