Masturbation phobia?!
Question: I suffer on a daily basis because I am completely terrified and repulsed by masturbation. I don't know what to do. I have nearly left my boyfriend because he sometimes talks about doing it and whenever I see a guy I can't stop thinking about it. I've tried killing myself to stop the thoughts about it. Sometimes I have fits where I laugh, then cry, then laugh, then cry, all the while talking to myself.
I don't know what to do. Telling me "masturbation is completely normal" won't help because I don't believe that it is. What should I do? It's killing me.
Answers: I suffer on a daily basis because I am completely terrified and repulsed by masturbation. I don't know what to do. I have nearly left my boyfriend because he sometimes talks about doing it and whenever I see a guy I can't stop thinking about it. I've tried killing myself to stop the thoughts about it. Sometimes I have fits where I laugh, then cry, then laugh, then cry, all the while talking to myself.
I don't know what to do. Telling me "masturbation is completely normal" won't help because I don't believe that it is. What should I do? It's killing me.
There are a lot of things that I may agree with. I don't make a big deal of it in my head. I just accept it. Doesn't mean that I agree with it. Nor do I judge those who do it. I do believe that whatever I do is ok as long as I am not harming myself or others. Ask yourself this question. What is more harmful. Masterbating or commiting suicide? Masterbation is not the issue here. It is your level of acceptance. Now bear with me. I am not picking on you nor am I judging you. I had to learn acceptance through a series of neardeath hardship and a divorice at the same time. I was the worst at acceptance. Try this, it will work over time. Whenever you are upset, read this, believe it and feel it. Acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing,or situation, some fact of my life unacceptable to me. I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is suppossed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in Gods world by mistake. That is a quote from a spiritual book. Not religious. So try this. it will take time. Just like anything, the more we practice something, the better we get at it. P. S. if masterbation is not normal, then 90% or more of society is not normal. I also had a girlfriend who thought it was gross. No biggie. I also had 6 ithers who loved it. To each thier own. Best wishes
See a therapist or counsellor.
Your problem has nothing to do with masturbation. You have a severe emotional and personal disorder, a sort of phobia and compulsion which is focused on masturbation (for God knows what reason).
If it wasn't that it would be cats or clowns or something. You need professional help. I'm assuming you already have that, but since you say you tried killing yourself you obviously have a major problem you have to solve, with medication, therapy or boht.
Seek therapy. One part of your mind is attracted to it, but you were probably taught from a young age that it is bad, and have learned to repress those feelings, leading to internal conflict. So, if it isn't normal, why do many other species of primate masturbate, and around 90% of male humans, and a somewhat lesser percentage of females? Your belief system is based on erroneous information. Do you ever attain orgasm? See http://www.askemilyanything.com