How do i deal??? His stress is my stress!!?!
Question: It is unfair for you to be responsible for taking on someone else's burden of stress. People handle stressors and life events in different ways and he deals with his stress by projecting it on you- which is not right. You are certainly not invalid and it does not matter whether you have children or not, many people lead very full and busy lives without adding children to the mix. If this is your spouse you're talking about, I suggest taking time to explain your feelings (in a non-threatening or stress inducing way) and try to work out a new way for him to deal with his stress and for you to help him. Together, you could help him by massaging his back or neck where the body holds stress- or if he'd rather be alone, suggest he work out before he comes home from work, or take a shower before dinner. There are many ways to release a little bit of stress before interacting with loved ones- and although at times, it is hard to not project the feelings of frustration- it is not your fault nor your responsibility to deal with them.
Answers: It is unfair for you to be responsible for taking on someone else's burden of stress. People handle stressors and life events in different ways and he deals with his stress by projecting it on you- which is not right. You are certainly not invalid and it does not matter whether you have children or not, many people lead very full and busy lives without adding children to the mix. If this is your spouse you're talking about, I suggest taking time to explain your feelings (in a non-threatening or stress inducing way) and try to work out a new way for him to deal with his stress and for you to help him. Together, you could help him by massaging his back or neck where the body holds stress- or if he'd rather be alone, suggest he work out before he comes home from work, or take a shower before dinner. There are many ways to release a little bit of stress before interacting with loved ones- and although at times, it is hard to not project the feelings of frustration- it is not your fault nor your responsibility to deal with them.
well hes an adult so let him carry his own ,and try real hard not to carry it for him, if you are not married get rid of him love is not a competition battle zone if he wants to play that way let him go at it alone.. if you are married well then I guess I should say try counseling, but I just ended it and we had kids.. you should not ever have to measure up to "WORK" or be measured by work ...
you need a 6 month vacation i suggest the sand box
i feel yah...