How can i be more confident and sociable with people?!
Question: When im talking to someone other than my immediate friends my mind just goes blank and i cant think of anything to say. Im constantly thinkin that im going to say something stupid. (i guess i care too much about what people think and how they percieve me) I dont make much eye contact with people when im talking to them and my body language gives off the impression that im arrogant which is certainly not the case. Any suggestions? Regards
Answers: When im talking to someone other than my immediate friends my mind just goes blank and i cant think of anything to say. Im constantly thinkin that im going to say something stupid. (i guess i care too much about what people think and how they percieve me) I dont make much eye contact with people when im talking to them and my body language gives off the impression that im arrogant which is certainly not the case. Any suggestions? Regards
if you think you might need help, don't be scared to go to a professional, more people than you think do it!
I'm very shy and have always had a problem with warming up to people. then i moved to a different country and even though I speak the language very well, i still make mistakes but people don't pay much attention and think I'm a native. then, when I make mistakes they treat me like the dumbest person in the world... even though I'm the one that speaks a second language good enough to fool them...
anyway, what helped a lot with the shyness and overcoming was when I got a job where i have to deal with the public a lot. its hard at first, but you learn how to speak with people and be less self conscious. after some time it really helped me.
good luck!
Pretty much the same story with me, just that there are also some subjects I could talk about, but I always get the feeling they don't care, more like I bore them, so I just shut up. But with girls... my mind goes completely blank. I have other trouble though and well I guess they are connected to each other; the best answer I got was to go to a psychiatrist..
I say " fake it until u make it" that means pretend to be outgoing, fun, funny, or find a funny story and repeat it. Perhaps, u shouldn't care so much of what other ppl think about u, because in reality they don't. Practice on family and at stores, coffee shops, book stores whereever then maybe u will become the person u want to be "confident and social", good luck, u can do it!