Would you give up if you were me ?!
Question: life has been truly terrible towards to me, i was sexually abused, been bullied throughout secondary school...been homeless...been in a psychiatric hospital...been mugged, attacked, assaulted by street hoodlams......because of my problems ive never had the oppurtunity to work get employments.....because of my borderline personality disorder, low self esteem....aggression...ive never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend.....never made any friends in life neither.
i exist alone in a one bedroom flat on sickness pay....i feel ruined, tarnished, branded forever.
im white but
everybody has played their part in ruining my life, black, white, asian ive all had bad experiences with.....ive been the innocent victim of assaults, muggings, from thuggish criminals accross the board.
its no wonder as an adult i cope with so much rage.
i have a criminal record for assault, carrying a knife when i lived in a rough area.
my only goal & hope now is to move back to europe, build a new life
Answers: life has been truly terrible towards to me, i was sexually abused, been bullied throughout secondary school...been homeless...been in a psychiatric hospital...been mugged, attacked, assaulted by street hoodlams......because of my problems ive never had the oppurtunity to work get employments.....because of my borderline personality disorder, low self esteem....aggression...ive never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend.....never made any friends in life neither.
i exist alone in a one bedroom flat on sickness pay....i feel ruined, tarnished, branded forever.
im white but
everybody has played their part in ruining my life, black, white, asian ive all had bad experiences with.....ive been the innocent victim of assaults, muggings, from thuggish criminals accross the board.
its no wonder as an adult i cope with so much rage.
i have a criminal record for assault, carrying a knife when i lived in a rough area.
my only goal & hope now is to move back to europe, build a new life
I feel for you.
But the big Clinch is
NEVER GIVE UP
I had a simmilar experience in my life but I never gave up and I am now happier then I ever imagined possible.
Never give up mate, there is allways a better way believe me.
those things happend in the passed,
life is what you make it,
I say go with your heart, move ..
Australia is nice i'm from there :)
but trust me you can have a great live so long as you never give up, don't let things get to you, keep trying to achieve till u get some where,
see people commit suicide over this thing.
does that fix the problem?
no its giveing up meaning there weak and heartless.
You can get a job so long as you try,
Don't laze around on ur pc like we all are when u can be out getting a job, getting a girl,
getting a life.
oh and the gf thing, there is someone out there for everyone, it just allways takes time
serious dude the big clinch is,
never give up,
u havent yet after all that, so why give up now?
ur an obvious fighter, so keep on fighting
u have what it takes to make something great of yourself
you can do it
Good luck!
Never give up, never surrender
dont blame every one and learn to forgive
yeah i'd just lay down if i were you. why bother trying ?
i'm sorry you have to live with that, i give you props though. Many wouldn't be able to handle what you say you've been through.
This is the second time Ive seen this question...
I remember you saying in your last post I saw that you couldnt go back to Europe because of your past
There are support services - ring up one of those chrisis lines and they will point you in the right direction
i think you should start fresh some where, dont give up, happiness comes in small doses, just give it sometime
NEVER GIVE UP AND WHEN U DO THINK OF ONE THING GOOD MIGHT BE I HAD A LOVELY WALK TODAY SO PEACEFUL. Move to a different country and start fresh and get the help you deseve. Sorry I couldnt help more
Find religion. It will change your life. Go to the nearest church and talk to the priest or pastor. Churches have support groups or organization that will help you cope with whatever you're going through. They will understand and take you in without question. They will help you help yourself and lead you on a path to help others. Helping others will give your life new meaning.
That's a hard answer to give. I've not been in u'r situation and don't know how to answer but i would not ever give up. Change is possible and maybe u should find a religion and pray on it everyday, middle of the day and night, for your God to give you strength, motivation, and power of forgiveness for people who have hurt you. If you don't forgive, you will be forever burdened.
we all have baggage. stop living in the past. you can't change it.
cmon...put on your big boy pants and get over it.
I know of a start.Try finding something you like to do.You can make friends that enjoy doing that also.Life is tough but, if you see throught he fog the sun always shines.You can start things going by reading about this disorder,start reading about things you like doing.You can do this,give it a try.
Never give up, Face the world... Face forward, never look back.
All this and a computer to boot!!!
try to get some education my friend, or religion, try to distract your mind from going to crap places, think about art, philosophy, read books , sitting around and brooding too much will only make things worse. i hope things get better for you.
You have a great treasure. You know the dangerous places in life. Be safe . It is time to drop the medication before it is too late. Keep notes on your life from now on there is a way out.
I thought I have problems... Never give up, it means the end, then you wont see anything that could happen further.. Few times I almost decided to give up and go back, cause now I'm trying to build a new life, its difficult, but world isnt just cruel,there are thing you can still enjoy and stop looking at your past if you cant find anything beautiful there. I would try to find myself if I were you, for example try myself as a musician, painter, poet, writer, or study a profession, might be that it could make you happy. Doing this way I found some things that I love and that express myself and make me happy. Of course I had friends to help me, and its a pitty you dont have them, but may be if you start changing your life this way you will meet them on your way to happiness.
Good luck!
Nothing is going to save you but yourself. Believe me. I have not been in exactly your shoes, but I have been in some dark places, just like you. Not just physically, but in my mind. I know that I used to think of myself as irreprobly damaged, and that all I had to look forward to was a life of toil and heartache. Darlin' the only reason I didn't end up as my darkest thoughts would have led me, is two things. My belief in God, (and I am not going to preach to you, as I don't know if you are open to God, and I myself am not a "preachy" Christian.) and through my belief in the devine, belief in my own worth and ability. I would love to share my painful story with you, if you'd like. It has a relatively happy ending. Its not as if all my troubles have vanished, but my coping abilities are much better. Find healing. Seek first God, (or whatever you believe) and rightiousness, and all blessings will be unto you. And write me if you like.
Never give up!Never!..you are stronger than you think! You made it this far.use your anger for good, take that negative energy and use it for strength to do good. If you keep seeing yourself as a victim the world will only see you as a victim. Stand up tall with your chin up.They are no better than you are, use your anger and rage and change it to a shield of strength... also it can never hurt to pray for strength from Jesus when we are troubled
built a new life now not when you are in Europe or anywhere, and remember it is a process not an instantaneous thing.
Never give up, never give in, go fight, win! Don't end your life if that's what you are thinking about. Life is the most valuable gift God gave you. If you aren't with him, find him. God will help you if you ask for it. Pray!
First of all, you have to realise and admit that there is a way out of this, and it is worth the effort to get out. If you have BPD, then you have ups and downs, not just downs. You can acknowledge that, even if you don't feel at all 'up' right now. The first thing you must do, is find a good psychiatrist. It takes a bit of research, and some financial maneuvering, and insurance red tape, but you can do it. In Europe, they have free health care, right? But don't wait. Get it done. And don't quit therapy once you start. Even if you do quit, go back to it when you feel up to it. It's the way forward.
Beware of the cycle of negative thinking. Look at your question; it's a list of negative things in your life. You must understand that a major symptom of BPD is cyclical negative thinking. You must be able to realise where BPD takes over, and logic is lost. The secret is in the trigger.
When you begin an episode of depression or rage, it is usually started by some external trigger, right? like you have an argument with someone, or even something small, like bad luck sets you off. After that, you start to feel horrible about the incident, you blame the other person, you blame yourself, you feel worthless, and your mind takes off in a downward spiral of hopeless, helpless, despair. What you would learn to do in psychotherapy, is to separate the emotion from the logic. You may still feel the same pain, but you know it's the BPD, not YOU. It's the BPD not the argument, it's the BPD, not your luck. The world is not against you, it's a chemical imbalance that makes you suffer. You learn to begin to challenge your own negative thinking. You realise it's not your fault at all. You develop techniques to catch the negative cycle early, and fight it off, or just continue with your day, despite some emotional discomfort, but not letting your thoughts get twisted. Ideally, you'll have a medication to help you through the pain. This could be an anti-depressant, an anti-psychotic, or anxiety medication prescribed by your psychiatrist.
Admitting the problem is the first step, you've done that, and for many people that's the hardest. Next is psychotherapy.
And don't ever even consider giving up -as in suicide. The minute that thought gets into your head, you call 911. Yes, call and get yourself hospitalized. You'll feel a lot better. It's the right thing for you to do. Forget the job, the responsibilities, the pressure. Make the call if your life is in danger.
Moving somewhere else won't change anything. I have tried this but I now understand that wherever you go your condition goes with you. It may seem like the world is conspiring against you but most people that live in the same world as you manage OK.
Exert some pressure on your GP to identify some proper therapy for you. You have to find some way to LIVE in the world not merely exist in it's margins. Don't believe that you can't be helped, you can. But you have to find some real motivation to begin moving towrds creating a tolerable existance for yourself.
I have had periods when I have been unable to hold down a job but I have done voluntary work instead to ensure that I maintain positive contact with people. I found that the volunteer coordinators were very sympathetic and allowed me to carry out tasks that didn't have too much responsibilty attached to them.
You have a right to be angry but don't let your anger govern your life. You can control it but you have to want to try.
I hope that you can find some way of getting to grips with your situation. Remember that the world isn't against you, the reality is that the world just doesn't really care. You have to care about yourself for others to care about you. Sounds like you're angry with yourself. It starts with you.
Take care and try and love yourself a little bit.
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don't ever give up! i have had similar difficulties and have been fighting for metal health for a few decades and things can get better ,but i couldn't have done it on my own . having faith in GOD if you are a believer is a great start .also coun seling with the right person very important someone you trust which might take awhile (i was there also) and might not be the first person you see but you need to connect with someone .take care and DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!