My Friend Committed Suicide.?!
Question: I lost my friend October 19th 2007. He hung himself in his garage and its been almost 3 months already and i still can't get over it. Everytime I start having fun he comes into my mind and i back off. Are there anyways to cope easier with this and put my mind at ease?
Answers: I lost my friend October 19th 2007. He hung himself in his garage and its been almost 3 months already and i still can't get over it. Everytime I start having fun he comes into my mind and i back off. Are there anyways to cope easier with this and put my mind at ease?
Jesus ******* christ- to the "hahaha" asshole:
F U C K Y O U!
Go burn in ******* hell, you insensitive ************* piece of ****.
Better yet, go drink some bleach (preferably in a dark, damp hole in the ground in which you will be devoured by worms and bacteria, rotting away to bone.)
F uck. I can't believe you'd say something like that!
As for the question:
Know that your friend made a choice, and it is something that he felt was the right one. Something in his personality, his character, his life, anything- prevented him from seeing any benevolence in life. I am sure he loved you, his family, his other friends. I am sure he loved them more than anything, but the distortion our minds experience in suicidal and/or depressive states drowns us in guilt, feelings of inferiority, worthlessness. He though he doing the best thing for you and everyone.
Don't have his misery manifest into your own. Learn from his decisions that life is to be lived. You are here once and only once in the living flesh, and to take advantage of your opportunities and to grasp it with all your strength is the best you can make of your friend's death- show that it taught you something.
I am sorry. It is hard for me to write this, as I have come very close to checking out many times. It is hard for us to consider the true consequences of our actions sometimes. Sorry.
i think its just going to take time. most importantly you have to know that it wasn't your fault. unfortunately these things happen. just do your best to keep yourself busy so you don't have long stretches when you have time to think about all negative things. anything activity that you like to do you should do on your free time. hang in there. and ignore that loser hahahah that gave u an answer.
pray for her and dont push urself too much to forget that...try to work more and concentrate to works...and hate committing suicide....
You are probably still going through the stages of grief, to which, there is often guilt that the friends and family feel; blaming themselves for not having recognised the signs, and done something about it. Go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter. Call: (U.S.A.) 1800 445 4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email jo@samaritans.org Chatrooms and forums: http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/gri... and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/ and http://messageboards.ivillage.com/ Other websites: http://www.griefnet.org/ and http://www.helpguide.org/ and http://www.mental-health-abc.com/ and http://www.boblivingstone.com/?q=node30 Understand that there are often several stages of grief.
The stages are:
Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening."
Anger: "Why ME? It's not fair?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."
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