Family fighting, anxiety acting up. Help please?!
Question: Im staying with my cousin and her husband and there in a huge, huge, fight. My cousins dad (my uncle) just got here and her husbands mom is here. it's just, a mad house! There all yelling, things are being thrown, doors being slammed, and im trying to keep my cool. My heart is pounding so bad I can barely breathe. I get frequent panic attacks, and people raising there voices kinda spike my nerves. What are some things I can do to calm down? I'd try to calm my family down, but I really don't want to get in the middle of it...
Answers: Im staying with my cousin and her husband and there in a huge, huge, fight. My cousins dad (my uncle) just got here and her husbands mom is here. it's just, a mad house! There all yelling, things are being thrown, doors being slammed, and im trying to keep my cool. My heart is pounding so bad I can barely breathe. I get frequent panic attacks, and people raising there voices kinda spike my nerves. What are some things I can do to calm down? I'd try to calm my family down, but I really don't want to get in the middle of it...
leave the house and go for a walk to cool yourself down. if you can't get out of the house then do breathing exercises and listen to some music.
Can you go for a walk?
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just stay calm relax everythign is going to be ok. dont panic and stay calm in your room
go home
tell them that if they don't stop you are gonna become an alcoholic
i'd say get out of the house for a bit if possible. or maybe put on some headphones and listen to calm music.
Relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, can also help. In this exercise, you lie down on a flat surface. Place one hand on your stomach above the navel, and the other hand on your chest. Breathe in slowly until the stomach rises a bit and hold your breath for a second. Then, exhale slowly.
Maybe go out side with some tea or a warm drink with a book and some music and take some deep breathes. Maybe even take a walk or call a friend that helps. good luck.
Don't get involved. I wouldn't be surprised if your family is the source of your anxiety problems.
If you can, you should leave the house and go for a walk. Otherwise, just stay in your room and take care of yourself. If you try and intervene it will only make things worse. Let them argue until they've cooled off. I know how uncomfortable that can be, just keep yourself safe.
First of all you need to get out of there. if your old enough, get a hotel room for the night soak in a bath with some nice music and candles. Spend a little money on a nice dinner and treat yourself. dont let that stuff bother you STAY AWAY FROM THEM !!! for as long as you feel stressed. then when you calm down insert your self among them at small intervals. go home and if they are still at it lock yourself in your room and turn up some music. things will calm down dont worry.
Listen to your I pod( which im sure you have) and take steady deep breaths. It will calm you for a while. Go take a shower or long bath.
you're right: don't get in the middle of it. leave the room, close your door and tune it out. your anxiety is a natural response to stress, and the stress in this home has reached very high levels. don't let these people's lives and problems become your own. you may not have anywhere else to live right now, but try to keep it all at arms length (as it were) emotionally.
remember: it's not your problem, it's not your responsibility to fix it, and you have your own goals and life to keep on track. keep a positive attitude about yourself and where you're going and look forward to a time when you're old enough to take care of yourself and gt out of there.
there may be other choices for you: talk with a school counselor.
ive been in somethin like dat n i tried to clam it down but it made it worse i didnt know wut to do so i juss walked away n broke down cring which i dont normally do but i think u should tell dem how its makin u feel about the whole thing n mayb dey realize dat dey should come it down...i hope i helped but if i didnt srry
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Move out.
Omg, poor you! Try getting out of the house as much as possible. I recommend treating yourself to spa days, makeovers, yoga, meditations, shopping sprees et cetera.Good luck!
View the techniques for control of panic attacks, in section 8, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Begin by holding your breath for 5, or 10 seconds: this will give you the confidence to realise that YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR BREATHING, but not pass out, or die (your autonomic nervous system resumes breathing, if unconscious). Understand panic attacks, and what triggers them, in your life (if it is unresolved anxiety, see section 6). The paper bag method works for most people: try it. If you are fairly suggestible, the following are reliable: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/
Your last alternative is psychotherapy, to address its fundamental cause: read section 1, and examine the 1-800-therapist website, and use the locators, and phone book. I used to suffer from panic attacks, until I questioned what had changed recently in my life, to trigger them? I suggest that you learn, then practise the controlled breathing technique, until competent, then employ it, at the very first sign of a panic attack, which is thought to be related to untreated anxiety. See anxiety treatments, at * ezy-build (below) in section 6. Set yourself a fixed limit for worrying about any particular subject, (say; 15 minutes) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even consider that subject again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life. Use the technique for reprogramming negative thoughts and internal monologue (self talk), on pages 2, and 2L, to help you in this: some people carry a wide rubber band in their pocket: put it on their wrist; stretch, and release, as a means of reinforcing it, and speeding up the process, re-pocketing it afterwards, but I regard this as being purely optional. Practice one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself."
go for a walk and get some air. not too far incase things escalate and someone needs your help. or go to another room.
if you don't want to be in the middle. then what is going on should not phase you. you are in control of YOU. the others loud voices and slamming of doors, can not control you or cause you to panic. only you can cause you to panic.
keep yourself together incase someone NEEDS you. do not allow yourself to fall apart. as long as no one is being beaten, and no one is bleeding. let them verbally hash it out. just ignor it. are there children in the home? if so, go to them, make sure they are kept safe and happy. if they are awake. try reading or singing to them.
if things get to be more than verbal and slamming of doors? call 911.
Go for a walk and then tell them that you need to just go home because you cant stand it anymore and they will get the picture