How do you make yourself feel more self confident?!
Question: I went through a depression stage and now im very very insecure i cant even look people in the eye i dont really no and im very very nervous when i go out with my boyfriend that people judge me because i get insecure and stop talking and dont look people in the eye. i used to never be this way and after i got control im always put myself down because i think and act and do things diffrent
Answers: I went through a depression stage and now im very very insecure i cant even look people in the eye i dont really no and im very very nervous when i go out with my boyfriend that people judge me because i get insecure and stop talking and dont look people in the eye. i used to never be this way and after i got control im always put myself down because i think and act and do things diffrent
Well, you're already ahead of me when in comes to self confidence. The fact that you have a boyfriend and go out in public shows you're on your way to recovery. My best advice is baby steps. There was a time when I wouldn't leave my dad's house for about 3 years straight (depression). Four years later, I am living on my own and have a good job. Although, my boss constantly comments on my lack of self confidence and self esteem. Now, I'm working on having friends. Good luck. I really feel for you.
you don't need to be more self confident. depression happens. medication helps you worry less. talk to a doctor. putting yourself down is harmful.
Hi--10 steps to increasing confidence:
1. Begin a journal. Ask yourself what is making you feel like you cannot get to the point in life you want to reach. Write any thoughts that come to mine. Also, write down what self-confidence means to you.
2. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. Write down 10 positive things about yourself. Go through your journal and look at all the positive things about yourself. Concentrate on your strengths. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-esteem and self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for everything positive you have written about yourself. Remember, you are somebody special.
3. Accept yourself and learn to love yourself for whom you are a person. Everyone has his or her own unique qualities and characteristics. We are all born differently for a reason. Do not compare yourself to others.
4. Understand yourself mentally, physically and spiritually. Take some time to relax by yourself in a quiet room... Rest on your back with head and neck comfortably supported.
5. Be ready. Self-confidence comes a lot easier to the person who is sure their ready.
6. Strengthen your inner self. Write down in your journal what you will be able to do once you acquire the confidence you need.
7. Begin changing what you do not like about yourself. Confidence comes from within. You need to concentrate on the positive things about yourself.
8. Notice the change in our self-esteem and self-confidence. Reward yourself each time you do something that makes you feel proud...go out some place or take it easy for the day.
9. Learn how to give and take. Confidence is being able to find a balance between giving help to people and excepting when we need help.
10. Have a tremendous amount of pride in yourself. Remember, you are number one!
I was like you, but to put it simply just don't get worried about what people think about you, act however feels naturally and try to lighten up, acting too serious will make people more judgmental and less open to you
I take off my shirt and flex in the mirror while reciting
" I am the warrior, I am the warrior "
I have depresion but i find start by smiling
i smile at everone i see and say good morning or whatever - some say good morning back - others give me a funny look
does it matter.... no - i'l probably never see them again - but just smiling makes them feel better and makes me feel briliant
Then i tryed imagening myself as royalty...
stand tall and walk nice- you feel more confident and just smiling at people makes people notice you as a nice person.
eye contact can be hard. but just force your self to do it. - it will be weird to start - if you strugle ... take a slightly longer blink - but persiver
the more you avoid something - the scarier it seems next time
Thats basicaly the rule doctors told me
THE MORE YOU AVOID SOMETHING - THE SCARIER IT WILL BE
that doesnt mean jump in at the deepend but try your best to face your inhibitions
im now almost completly over depression - no drugs - just by cognitive techniques
I know what you mean, I can feel that way as well sometimes, like if I do not feel like I am attractive one day, then I would not like to look people in the eye, and when I walk some into some place where there is a lot of people I tend to think they are talking about me and I get real tense. But, then the next day I can feel gorgeous and walk around with my head high and I get all the attention that I want that makes me feel great inside. Anyway getting back to the point, it seems like you suffer with low self-esteem. I think you should pray about this situation and ask God to grant you the serenity
to accept the things you cannot change;
the courage to change the things you can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.
And always remember that even the prettiest people and the famous people have there down days as much as we do. Honey we all have our flaws, but don't let your flaws get in the way of you not being able to exhale as a person. You deserve happiness. Depression is something that we all go thru, we are human beings........ but when it becomes a daily ritual........ to wake up and be depressed it can be a clinical problem.