I feel so depressed with schoolwork and my boyfriend. I can't take it anymor!
Question: I attend university and right now I have far too much schoolwork to handle. I try to manage it, even that means I have to stay up late at night. There is a report I have to hand in at the end of Jan and the teacher require a 400-page one. I admit that I might have been quite lazy at the beginning, but right now I'm working as hard as I can. But no matter how much I try to get the homework done, it seems like it keeps pouring in and I can never finish it. As for the 400-page report, I share it with my boyfriend. I am responsible for 80% of it and the rest falls to him. I know, and I feel, that it is not fair, but I just feel like helping him this much. However, I feel more and more depressed, both mentally and physically. When I'm at home working like crazy, my boyfriend is out there playing basketball. I work 6 hours a day, while he gets tired after an hour or two. I feel so uneasy...and stupid. I break down very easily lately. Please, I need help from you and your advise.
Answers: I attend university and right now I have far too much schoolwork to handle. I try to manage it, even that means I have to stay up late at night. There is a report I have to hand in at the end of Jan and the teacher require a 400-page one. I admit that I might have been quite lazy at the beginning, but right now I'm working as hard as I can. But no matter how much I try to get the homework done, it seems like it keeps pouring in and I can never finish it. As for the 400-page report, I share it with my boyfriend. I am responsible for 80% of it and the rest falls to him. I know, and I feel, that it is not fair, but I just feel like helping him this much. However, I feel more and more depressed, both mentally and physically. When I'm at home working like crazy, my boyfriend is out there playing basketball. I work 6 hours a day, while he gets tired after an hour or two. I feel so uneasy...and stupid. I break down very easily lately. Please, I need help from you and your advise.
Having a relationship during college is just a big distraction, but if you want a bf than you gonna have to take the good with the bad.
But damn a 400pg report what class is that?
tell him he needs to pick up his side or you're going to break up with him or try just having some good sex
This is what life is. If it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger. Just relax, take it easy.
Sounds like he doesn't have much respect for you. Is the relationship with him more important to you then schoolwork and getting your degree? You need to talk to him about this and tell him you just can't handle all the work. Maybe taking some time apart from him will help you get caught up.
break up with your boyfriend it seems like hes not doing any work and hes just messing around.. for the homework part, you should just do homwork for an hour and take a 2o min break
Have u talked with your boyfriend lately?? I think the best thing to do is talk to him. Tell him how your feeling and how you can be the only one doing most of it, that it's stressing you out and hopefully he'll come to his senses and not play basketball all the time and help you out instead.
well its very understandable why your stressed.you need good support and you should find time to relax and take a break for yourself. i try my best to do my work so it is manageable but i realize that kinda won't help right now. u need to take breaks where ever you can afford and start hanging out with friends and family to relax.
good luck with that
Go - quickly! - to your university's student health center. There are lots of resources for young people struggling with what you're struggling with. The university offers counseling, etc and there are study groups you could work with to help with the work. Just go see a professional.
Good luck!! Hang in there!
I am in college as well. I don't have a boyfriend but still, I understand school and relationship stress. I think you need to look at it all from a different perspective. Stop takking life so seriously!!! lol....I'm serious. Sometimes your problems can seem soooo overwhelming but it may not be near as bad as you think. Make a list of everything going good in your life.....I also listen 2 music or workout when I'm feeling down. Being with good friends will help too!!! Don't be afraid to have some fun...I'm sure your college has some fun parties!!!!!!!!!! That always makes me feel better.....
Get rid of da bum.
If your university is like mine, it has a counseling center on campus, either through the health center or separate but still accessible. These people will usually see walk-ins and you can go talk to them about your frustrations with your boyfriend and with school. It may seem like just the same as talking to a good friend, but these people usually have the power to get you extensions on your schoolwork and other great things like that if they feel it will help you.
Good luck, don't give up.
I know how you feel!..I have sorta the same situation. I work 2 jobs (sometimes 18hrs a day) and I pay all the bills because my b/f is currently out of work. It makes me soo mad when he calls me while I'm at work and tells me he's going to a party, or he's going to hang out and drink with some friends!..I think you need to sit down and talk to him about it, tell him exactly how you feel. And if you start to cry, it's okay because he will take you more seriously. Try not to act angry at him, because he might not understand, and getting in an argument isn't something that you need right now... Good luck with your paper, I hope everything goes good ?
Sweetie, your being taken advantage of by your boyfirend. It's time to start thinking a little of yourself, and not just what will make his life easier. I know you like helping him, but you need to take a moment and think about what you want. You have needs and wants too, and it sounds like their not being met. Your needs and wants do not stop just because you entered a relationship.
If he won't take care of you, mentally and physically (they are related) then you have to. Seek a professional for the depression and tell your boyfriend to pick up some of the slack. If he won't then do really want to continue with this relationship? Yes you love him, but is he good for you? What happens down the road when there's a mortgage, kids, car loans, etc.?