My friends bullimic help?!
Question: my friends bullimic she feels fat when shes not.
her weight is normal
she will neither admit to her disorder or try to stop it.
Answers: my friends bullimic she feels fat when shes not.
her weight is normal
she will neither admit to her disorder or try to stop it.
sweetie i know this will sound harsh but you can not help her unless she admits it to herself, she has to recognise that she has a problem to herself, the best thing you can do is to be there for her, don't make it a big issue as this will only get her defences up against you, you can however let her know that you think she is perfect and beautiful as she is and that you are there for her, she does have a problem if she is making herself sick and does need help but the last thing you need is to alienate yourself by hassling her i have battled bulimia and it took a lot of love and understanding before i would admit there was a problem, even when someone caught me making myself sick i still denied it, my friends who kept on and hassled me i ended up cutting contact ( i have made it up to them since) it was only the patience of my best friend who kept telling me how good i looked and said when i lost too much weight that stopped me on a distructive track, like most sufferers your friend is probably suffering from low self esteem, and this is where you come in build her confidence up and help her learn to love and except herself this is the hard part but if you can acheive this then she will be ready to admit she has a problem and get the help she needs, it is going to be hard on you and at times you will feel like giving up but no matter what she needs your suport if you quit it will just tell her she is not good enough, i wish you the best of luck, stick in there and prove to her she is worthy of a great friend like you, i hope you and your friend win against this awful illness, my thoughts are with you honey good luck.
She really needs to see a professional for help and advice i'm afraid that you probably cant provide her with the help she needs. If nobody else knows please tell her parents or a school nurse or teacher or something, she wont like it but will thank you in the long run.
Good luck to you both.
if your friend doesn't admit to the disorder, then just support her, try to be there for her as much as you can. if she is a minor talk to her parents especially if you are seriously concerned about her. she needs to get help because this is a serious matter. becareful talking to her parents though don't make her feel that you are betraying her. remember be there for her even if she pushes you away because of it, just be there for when she calls you back.
You should get her serious help, and you should also tell her, the dangers of the disorder.
If she still doesn't believe that she has the disorder, then go on the net and find some facts about bulimia.
sneak it into her bag, room and she might be tempted to read it, and even get some professional help.
You have to be there for her.
Tell her how good you think she looks every so often.
There is often deeper reasons behind bulimia, all you can do is tell her how great she is
You could talk about it with her, see why she is doing it, even if she won't admit she has a problem, she might be able to tell u why she makes her self puke.
When we hear our selves say things, it often makes it real. If we just think it, its not yet in the real world, which gives us the excuse to not think about it...
I don't think that scaring her in to stopping will help, if anything it might make things worse. CERTAINLY DO NOT sneak through her things, the invasion of privacy will probably make her question her trust for you.
It would be much better to calmly talk over all the problems over a cup of tea (brilliant British answer to all life's problems, the cup of tea!)
I would not recommend instantly telling a third party such as parents or teachers. First try to talk to her in a calm environment, like I've said. Don't start the conversation at the bus stop!
Tell her how much you care about her and that you really want to be there for her. Don't threaten to tell people, as by talking to you will be the first small steps towards getting help.
If you are truly a good friend, you will help.
Like I say, be a good friend, always be there for her, that's really what she needs and that will mean *A LOT* to her
bullimic?No such thing.You must be from another country who needs help with his/her english well at least you tried.It's a start i suppose.
Depending on how bad it has gotten she may not be ready to seek help... Now I know this sounds extreme but an intervention may be the only way to make her see sense! It's very important that your friend gets help sooner rather than later because she is at risk of a lot of long term health problems besides being malnourished... Health problems like; mouth and stomach ulcers, teeth decaying, heart problems, even bone disfigurement due to lacking in calcium... If her bulimia goes on for too long she could even die or suffer from heart failure! So just try to be a friend to her first and see if she will open up, without making it too obvious of course!... But if there's no sign of her coming out about it or even wanting help then you may have to organize an intervention!
as a fellow bulimic, (to recover shortly I hope) you cannot change what your friend does, you can be there for her which will mean alot and will help her when she choses to make the change, but until then it needs to be her decision or she will just end up relapsing far faster.
Maybe go onto the www.b-eat.co.uk website, they have advice on there and a message board you can ask questions on.