Why do I feel so lonely?!
Question: I feel like even though I have a lot of loved ones around, I am invisible and they can't hear me even when I talk loudly, so I don't even try talking. I just sit there quietly and keep to myself. And as I look around at everyone I feel like none of them understand how it feels to be lonely. And even though I feel lonely, I don't really want to hang out with anyone. And I want to change, but I don't have the determination to do it...it's like I feel hopeless. What should I do? And please don't tell me to see a doctor.
Answers: I feel like even though I have a lot of loved ones around, I am invisible and they can't hear me even when I talk loudly, so I don't even try talking. I just sit there quietly and keep to myself. And as I look around at everyone I feel like none of them understand how it feels to be lonely. And even though I feel lonely, I don't really want to hang out with anyone. And I want to change, but I don't have the determination to do it...it's like I feel hopeless. What should I do? And please don't tell me to see a doctor.
Teach yourself to be strong, to not NEED people. Then when you don't NEED them, reach out to them and give them some of yourself.
You might be manic-depressive.
To me it sounds like depression, but I'm no doctor, and since you don't want to see one, I suggest talking to someone who is a great listener and doesn't interupt you, and tell them whats going on in your life, and how you feel about certain things.
I get lonely sometimes too, I recently got a dog who is a very loyal companion...
GL
see a doctor ....just kidding :) it may be because you make something that they didn t like ask them by writting a letter it would work and don t forget that you are great.
You don't necessarily have to go to a doctor, but you need to talk to someone.
I felt exactly how you felt and I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I even have a poem I wrote from around that time that says almost all of those things in it. About being trapped in a bubble where everyone can see me and hear me, but to me everything's muted and the bubble keeps me from interacting with life the way I used to. I know it sounds really corny, but these were my honest and candid feelings at the time.
The only thing that really helped was speaking to a counselor. She helped me figure out why I felt that way and what I could do for myself. Most of all, I felt like I had someone to listen to me who wouldn't judge me, because I didn't feel like I had that at the time.
Please talk to someone. Greeniyd47@yahoo.com if you'd like to chat more. I've been there. I'm really sorry you feel that way.
If you don't have a pet I really suggest you get one, It helps you from being lonely
realize and accept the idea that being alone is wonderful and peaceful and very free from obligations and expectations of others. you are much better off being a loner than chained to a relationship that controls your life and feelings. change the way you feel to not feeling lonely. come and go as you please. do what ever you like. no one to hinder you.
relationships are over rated. few people can really maintain a lasting relationship. look at all the divorces. live you life for you.
I am not religious, but if you look at all the religious figures, Jesus, Mohammad, Buddha. they were all loners with no real personal relationships. keep your own company. treat your self well. be your own best friend.
you sound like me...
i feel like there no reason to even move off the bed in the morning. i have a great girl, parents, a few friends, but its like talking to them never does any good and none of them understand, or even want to understand cuz theyve heard it before.
i think if you can, you should try to find something youre passionate about and just go and do it. do something totally different. join a group going to peru for a year or something.
ive sort of thought that maybe if i went and lived somewhere really poor or crappy where people have nothing, it might make my everyday life seem more precious, or at least give me some real purpose.
like maybe, if you look at it like this: if i get up this morning, i might be sad/lonely/useless or however you feel, but at least today i can go and do something for someone else, and make their lives a little brighter. who knows, maybe after you do that long enough, getting up in the morning to help someone else might be all you need to feel whole again
I have had a lot of these feelings too. To overcome mine, I found things I have an interest in doing, painting, making music, exercising, etc. Since I have done that and learned to make myself happy and not depend on anyone else to do that, I feel much better. I still need some improvement, but I'm getting there. Once you find things that make you happy and feel like you accomplished something, you'll be headed towards a great start. Another thing you may want to do, is set small goals for yourself, ones you know you will have to work on, but you will accomplish them! I hope you found a reason to smile today!
If you have grown silent and quiet among people, chances are that the people around you have grown use to your quietness without realizing that you need their help and support.
The longer you seek solace in silence the harder it will be for you to break out of that, hence your growing lack of determination to do so. The up side if you like is that you remain discontent with this, that you want more.
Since you do not wish to seek professional support you are going to have to reach out to someone you feel close to. A friend, partner, family member or parent. You are going to have to summon the courage to tell them how you feel. That you are loosing yourself in silence and withdrawal while at the same time you want to cry out in pain you might not understand.
If those options are not available then search the web for a local phone support service. You can remain anonymous in most cases should you choose so. Lay it all out for them, tell them how you got here. Tell them when you started to loose your motivation for engagement in life. Was it school or work or socializing or study or whatever.
While you don't want to see a doctor, I think ultimately you will see its the correct thing to do. It seems you might be depressed and you may need professional support, not necessarily medications, to work you way through it.
It does not have to be your usual doctor if you don't want it to be. Maybe there are alternatives in your local area.
But do something today to start getting things the way you want them to be in your life. Depression is not a weakness and does not need some major or negative event to cause it.
I wish you well.
Be safe, be sage
Everybody feels like this but you need to know how to deal with this. see a phycologist for mental tools.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting to talk to anyone and keeping to your self now and then. And quiet honestly, does any of us really understand someone else? But if you are at the point this is upsetting you, then I would suggest seeking help from a spiritual person you trust. Prayer is what makes me feel better, because I know Jesus loved me before I cared for myself. I know He loves me more than I or anyone else will ever care for me. But sometimes I forget that, and my Pastor has to remind me. Great thing about Pastors are they free, and they care about you, not the money you represent.
you just have to have a positive attitude,if you can't talk to someone and be cheery,force yourself.and then maybe things will be better for you and they will lighten up to u
Sometimes i feel the same way..like the song Untitled by Simple Plan..feeling detached and isolated..i just sleep it out and read books i.e The Bible or read poems..or you can go to depression.org or schizhophrenia.com and read other peoples stories..maybe you will feel better once you are not alone and that other people are going through the same thing..take care