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Question: When I was an adolescent(age 15 then), I had a boyfriend(age 16 then). So one night I spent the night at his house, I was sleeping (pretending actually) at the time when all of a sudden one of his sister's friends (age 17) walked in. I felt him sit down the bed and I heard her voice. He said "I feel bad for being a little too friendly with you" to her. She said "you shouldn't be". So then I hear her ask him If he would give her a back rub, he went ahead and did that. I heard him tell her "You have some sexy underwear" while pulling on her thong.
I woke up and he looked hesitant and stayed on her for about 10 seconds. Then he got off. It's 5 years later, he says he wants me back and wants to marry me. I told him I won't have sex with him until I'm married, he agrees to it. I sound naive, but really I am not, but I am BEING naive in this situation, because I care for him still and might still be foolishly into him.
Men what does his actions indicate ?
Answers: When I was an adolescent(age 15 then), I had a boyfriend(age 16 then). So one night I spent the night at his house, I was sleeping (pretending actually) at the time when all of a sudden one of his sister's friends (age 17) walked in. I felt him sit down the bed and I heard her voice. He said "I feel bad for being a little too friendly with you" to her. She said "you shouldn't be". So then I hear her ask him If he would give her a back rub, he went ahead and did that. I heard him tell her "You have some sexy underwear" while pulling on her thong.
I woke up and he looked hesitant and stayed on her for about 10 seconds. Then he got off. It's 5 years later, he says he wants me back and wants to marry me. I told him I won't have sex with him until I'm married, he agrees to it. I sound naive, but really I am not, but I am BEING naive in this situation, because I care for him still and might still be foolishly into him.
Men what does his actions indicate ?
Certainly what happened wasn't right. And u did the right thing by having doubts about him, and raising a red flag. Yes, it is a red flag, but also consider the age. He was really, really young then and at younger ages hormones drive our behavior more, and we don't have good decision making abilities because of no experience. I am not justifying his wrong behavior, but just giving a little context. And people do evolve. If you are still interested in him, you could date him but go very very slow. U r right, no s** (I think that's a great decision on your part) and focus on friendship, and getting to see his character as of Now, 5 years later. Then you can make an informed decision, as of present times. And see how sincere he is.
But if you are very sure he isn't the one, and you are not feeling it anymore, nor see him worthy of your commitment, then let go.
he was 15 then for f03k sake.....................
Maybe, it was just 'flirting" with an older girl. 16, huh? Isn't that what all boys do? Flirt? First, after all of this time how much do you still know about him? Has he a reputation as a player? How many girlfriends has he had? Trying going out with him if you think you might still have feelings for him but be cautious and watch to see how he reacts around other girls in your presence. If he kids around with everyone including girls then that might be his personality type.Either way, you'll find out after the second or third date.
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