How is the best way to get over the fear of abandonment?!
Question: You need to develop a belief that you are desirable partner, that you are a good friend, a valuable worker if you work, and similar sorts of belief. Fear of abandonment frequently stems from low self-esteem. You should also develop the ability to do things on your own. You might also check out books on the subject from your local library. If you really think this issue is troubling you, you might consider talking to a therapist about the issue.
Good luck,
Dana (M.S. Counseling)
Answers: You need to develop a belief that you are desirable partner, that you are a good friend, a valuable worker if you work, and similar sorts of belief. Fear of abandonment frequently stems from low self-esteem. You should also develop the ability to do things on your own. You might also check out books on the subject from your local library. If you really think this issue is troubling you, you might consider talking to a therapist about the issue.
Good luck,
Dana (M.S. Counseling)
Become a better you,talk to other, take long walks...pray remember God is always there for you. Seek out your friends. Look around you and realize there is always someone to reach out to. Including me.
Recognize that you can do fine alone. Recognize that you want somebody, not that you NEED somebody.
Therapy.
You should definitely talk to someone about this. My sister has serious abandonment issues. For a while, I felt like I was a horrible sister because if I didn't spend every second with her, she'd say I didn't love her or care.
Not only does abandonment issues hurt you, but they also affect ones around you. Good luck.
Dear Sage,
The answer you got from Dana is on the money. Follow it.
Follow what dana said its the best option and from me ....
Just trust yourself and be sure that if someone abandoned u then he doesnt deserve to be with you ...you should look at those whom u can abadon ie best friends, family ,kidz etc
take care
Realize that everyone loses people, that you are not alone. Therapy is wonderful and so are groups that feel the same fears. Keeping a journal helps because you can write down memories that you might be afraid you'll forget. Make good friends, but also have things you love to do alone, for instance garden, read, knit, cook. It takes time, but it might have taken you time to get there. Best of Luck and Hugs.