Need to know how to respond when my 7 yr old throws fits when he is disappointed!
Question: I have only seen this outburst 2 times over aprox. a 2 month period. Recently moved to a new school dist. and home.
Eg. After school today, there was 5 inches of fresh snow, so my little guy took his toboggan, and tried to sleigh, after several attempts on his own, I offered to push him on the trail, but he only got half way down the hill. He shouted out 'BORING', slammed his fists in the snow and pulled off his hat and tossed it into the snow. I stood there in shock & disbelief. The best I could come up with... 'we could try again'. He just shouted in Anger & Disappointment. "NO!" I suggested he put on his hat & hood and could make some snow angels. Success!! He was now proud of his accomplishment. (wow... what just happened I thought to myself.)
The previous & 1st time fit was over loosing a boardgame, I did not give it much thought at the time. We just tried again.
Please any advise...I need to know how to respond (better)and help him get through his frustrations.
Answers: I have only seen this outburst 2 times over aprox. a 2 month period. Recently moved to a new school dist. and home.
Eg. After school today, there was 5 inches of fresh snow, so my little guy took his toboggan, and tried to sleigh, after several attempts on his own, I offered to push him on the trail, but he only got half way down the hill. He shouted out 'BORING', slammed his fists in the snow and pulled off his hat and tossed it into the snow. I stood there in shock & disbelief. The best I could come up with... 'we could try again'. He just shouted in Anger & Disappointment. "NO!" I suggested he put on his hat & hood and could make some snow angels. Success!! He was now proud of his accomplishment. (wow... what just happened I thought to myself.)
The previous & 1st time fit was over loosing a boardgame, I did not give it much thought at the time. We just tried again.
Please any advise...I need to know how to respond (better)and help him get through his frustrations.
I was a Foster Parent that worked for the State of Texas. They put me through some training that really helped me to deal with Children with emotional problems. I already raised 3 children of my own, and this training would have helped any parent greatly.
My second child was horribly out of control, we tried to get him on meds when he was 5, but the Doctor refused at that moment, praise God! Shortly after wards, God changed my behaviors, which I thought wasn't bad, but in a quick time, I noticed the results in my Child. He ended up being a very good kid and a successful adult. God taught us how to discipline him in a different way and to set limits and boundaries and stick to them. Children know that we care for them, if we discipline them with fairness and justice. I sent my child to a Christian School where they expected a lot from him and to our surprise, he responded well. I am very proud of him.
Instead of trying to pacify him. Tell him the truth. That these fits of rage are unacceptable and you will not tolerate them. That he is becoming a young man and that you have rules and regulations that he must attain or there will be consequences. Do not change your mind, otherwise you will be having wars of wills with him.
Get him into a little league sport of some kind. Soccer and Baseball tend to be good starter sports. It sounds like he will need to learn how to be humble. He will hopefully learn some determination. Also, working in a team enviornment may help with his social skills.
As far as what you should do when he does this, it wouldn't hurt to lay down some law. The Snow angel thing worked good.
It's kind of hard to figure out but I hope this helps.
Why do you want to ask the mentally ill adults about child care? When an adult is disappointed by false expectations the brain releases depression chemicals into the brain fluid. Try to keep expectations closer to reality. Don't let him expect the wrong things in life. He will be fine. You will have to spend time to see what he is expecting for every time because he cant talk to you. Write a list of his expectations that are right and that are wrong.
Sounds like his completive, if it get worse treat him the same when is was younger.
But you recently moved which means he had to make new friends etc this couldn't have been easy, some children are more social than others, and theres always the possibility of him being the subject of bullying. New kids possible new target.
If it happens again, ignore him, pick up your things and go back inside, don't ever suck up to him. When everything has charmed down, tell him that he can tell you anything and that you wont judge him, But you need to understand why his reacting this way. Tell him its not normal for kids his age to do this. You may also want to teach him how to express himself and never let him feel bad. Always tell him he can tell you anything, regardless of what others have told him.
try not to change too much schools...
also providing him everything he wants or listening too much to him isn't a good idea...
take care
Sounds to me like he's got PERFECTION on his mind, like it must happen right the first time because there is no second time....I wonder if at school other kids are being competitive towards him, social politics starts early these days...also sounds like he's struggling a bit with being 7, saying, "Boring!"....if you say you have never heard this before he might be getting it from other boys at school....just my opinion only, but, another angle maybe to explore.....