I don't know how to love myself?!
Question: Can't tell you how long i've been feeling like this to be honest.
I just don't like the way that I look and don't know how to love myself for who I am. I see other girls that are prettier and think they are better and think why would anyone wanna know me for me. I'm always caring what people think of me.
I hate the way i'm so quiet and shy and it makes me upset. I don't have anyone I can talk to. I can't talk to my friends because they don't understand. I tried talking to my mom she is no help. I don't know what to do?
Answers: Can't tell you how long i've been feeling like this to be honest.
I just don't like the way that I look and don't know how to love myself for who I am. I see other girls that are prettier and think they are better and think why would anyone wanna know me for me. I'm always caring what people think of me.
I hate the way i'm so quiet and shy and it makes me upset. I don't have anyone I can talk to. I can't talk to my friends because they don't understand. I tried talking to my mom she is no help. I don't know what to do?
That's just a myth !
Humans by nature do for themselves and aquire for themselves and assure things for themselves.
Look around does the world suffer from everybody doing everything for others? For having others best interests in mind? The answer is obviously, NO!
I can remember when everyone all around, first started hurling that whole psych pitch at me, about supposedly needing to love yourself first. All the while they were all hate'n and abusing and stealing every chance they got like you wouldn't believe. Not to mention playing a game of lieing, consealing a secret everyone knew of anyway, just cuz it was illegal. None of these things are exactly what one would call love!
This is indicative of one of two things, if the psych bull were real, then they hadn't learned it and applied it, therefor everyone of them would still be hate'n themselves, according to this mere theory.
Or, the other possibility indicated, and this is the factual one, that they were behaving the way the world has always behaved, whether or not their actions were justified is irrelevant in the context of this conversation, the point is, is that humans always look after # 1 first and it's always been so.
So, what does this mean? that by default, humans, generaly speaking, hate themselves? If you believe this, don't forget that would mean it has always been so. Until, of course, the advent of psych., the 20th century, not really widely applied until about the 50's, even then it was just the begining. Are we to believe that before that, the world had always been "whacked"?
The world throughout history, with all of it's wonders and amazing accomplishments and all of the colorful history has always been just what it is, "Life", the way it's always "normaly" been!
Besides, mankind and his civilizations didn't exactly have all that of a wonderfuly loving 20th century, it wasn't any less barbaric than any other period of history !
You sound like your probably a teenager, the things your going through are normal for people your age, even if your just recently out of your teenage years, it's still not uncommon.
I know it's particularly difficult for females to be what is not generaly considered "fair" in appearance, but just remember that most people are in the not "beautiful" category, and just think, it's even more difficult for someone like me, I was a damn handsome young man dammit! But see as the years go by, none of us exactly go around getting better looking.
Just think I'm gonna have to get used to something that I've never been used to, and when your old, that's not exactly the best time to start getting used to something.
Good thing for me I was born with a pair of Calvin Klein underwear and exceedingly good looks, it should take till I'm 125 yrs. before I become, in my appearance, something less than worthy of arrogance !
Don't feel bad, in actuality, I've been able to get about 2 or 3 dates in my entire life, so that means my appearance is something that all the girls have been "brainwashed" about, or a nice witch from the north made me into a toad. She was nice to them like that, and saved them from all the trouble, as you can immagine, just from the way i answer a simple question!
"Girls" like to do "all" the talking !
Which reminds me, you said your very shy, so was I, even past my teenage years, now I'm isolated by the opposite thing, people can't get me to shut up!
Now, as you can see, I can't stop writing, because it's talking, without talking!...........or something like that.......etc. etc. etc.
1.Quit hating yourself first.
2.Accept what you cannot change.
Don't be upset with being an introvert. Society rewards extroverts and punnishes introverts, but you were born an introvert.
Start loving others
I feel the same way you do. I look nothing like the girls in school. I have tan skin dark hair and eyes. Half the girls in my school look like if they went in the sun they would die. Any way take yourself out to feel better. Change ur hair color. Just do something different.
Why do you think they are better than you? Why do you think they are prettier than you? Do you ever stop to think those same girls may feel the same about you?
True friends are people that do understand you and, probably, you have not met the right friends yet. You are you and your life is precious. Look around at others and wonder if they are thinking that they wished they were as pretty or clever as you.
I used to be like that then i just started to look in the mirror and tell myself the truth: I am beautiful for the person that i am inside and out. At first I would still doubt myself but now i love myself I can look in the mirror and truly believe that I am a beautiful person cause I learned that we are all beautiful if we are just honest and true to our self
I'm on the same boat.
All you have to do is look at your life.
As an outsider.
What's wrong with it? Anything patricularly destressing?
Do something that feels food.
Go for a 3 hour walk. Swim at the beach. Wake up at 5 am just to jump into a pool of icey water. Have a banana split.
Basically...
This helps me.
do you want to be happy with everything? Yes?
Then simply BE happy! Because you want to be! You don't need a reason. You don't need to be thinner, or prettier, or have more friends... You just take what you want. Happiness. Feel it, want it, keep it. You dont need to prove anyting to anyone. Dont let anyone use you.
Just be happy because you want to.
I tell you now start by looking at your self in the mirror.... find at least one thing you like.. for eg: do you have nice eyes? maybe your hair? maybe you have naturally shaped eyebrows... maybe your skin is of nice complextion..and besides a nice light eyeliner and some eyebrows hat have been shaped.' either pluck them or get em waxed cost ya like $8 or something...hold you head high and be positive because you dont know what the future holds... belive in karma okay its so true what goes around comes around... dont let other ppl get to you I hated myself for years I thought I was fat and ugly my nick names at school where babooshka or bush pig ..I now suffer anxiety attacks in public places' I start freaking thinking my bum looks huge or my love handles are hanging out or like when i been in the checkout line waiting I feel like people are thinking about what i am buying as if too good for me? or who is she to have that its just silly thoughts but its from the trauma i now have cause of my upbringing..Put it this way when i was younger I let other peoples words get to me for toolong now as much as Ive changed and I am a positive person it still effects me..Now I have learnt to love the things about me that are nice like for instance I have olive skin so I tan and not burn ...and I have a nice smile I have all my teeth lol ' not that Im boasting but something we have is a smile and a smile with effort says a thousend words.. people find it hard to be nasty to you if your nice to them look them in the eyes dont bow down to them and be confident, dont give your self time to be shy just say hi:)