I think I love my counselor?!
Question: let me start off saying HE WAS NOT TOUCHED ME IN ANYWAY. He is just really nice and funny. He just understands me and everything I say. He is really helping me understand myself and learn to love myself. He has been threw a lot like me. Is this weird? I WOULD NEVER TRY ANYTHING WITH HIM. Please tell me I'm not being a freak?
Answers: let me start off saying HE WAS NOT TOUCHED ME IN ANYWAY. He is just really nice and funny. He just understands me and everything I say. He is really helping me understand myself and learn to love myself. He has been threw a lot like me. Is this weird? I WOULD NEVER TRY ANYTHING WITH HIM. Please tell me I'm not being a freak?
This is normal, it is a form of transference. In order for any councilor to really help you, there has to be a bond like this so that you can learn to trust and really tell him what is going on with you.
Your not freak at all ... rest assured it is part of your therapy and when it comes time for your sessions to slow down, he will help you to understand you attachment to him and will then help you with the tools to put your attachment in perspective.
Do you feel this is something you can discuss with him openly? Again, he will know exactly how to treat this. It happens all the time. If you can't discuss this with him, then don't do it, again, it is just part of the process.
Ohh and the answer is NOT to just cancel all further appoinments and go to a female councilor, that will only cause your treatment to go backwards.. Don't treat that as an option.
Check out the link below, it seems to have heaps of really good information about what transferance is and how to deal with it.
Don't fight this .. you will find everything will come full circle.
Goodluck!!!!
well, thats nice............you love him
i think that you may have developed an emotional attachment to this guy cause he has helped you so much.
It would not be good for you to continue this attraction, and especially not to do anything. You need to be working on you right now. You don't need a guy in your life to be all you can be. Try to build up your self esteem by looking at yourself for YOUR good qualities, not someone else, for how they make you feel.
There wont always be someone else there, so you need to learn how to make yourself feel loved.
That's so normal don't even freak out about it. Many people go threw this when they seek help.
Yeah, it's normal to fall for someone who is attentive and does wonders for your confidence. But don't become too attached or dependant. He might be married or seeing someone.
I would have thought, as a female, you would have been refered to a female counsellor just to avoid this situation.
This is a doctor/patient relationship and its best left that way. I was helped by a teacher with a psychology degree and I almost fell in love with him but he was in love with all his female students. So be ware.