For those of you with a mother addicted to Coke or other drugs how do you cope w!


Question: My mother used to be a huge alcoholic, but she stopped that when I was 12 . After that she was hooked on pain medication like Dorvacet and now Vicodin. Those pills never made her seem high though so I let my guard down and started treating her like my mother again. I am now 17. Yesterday night we went with her boyfriend to eat at a restaurant and she said she had to go to the bathroom. She went but I had to go too so about a minute later I followed. I got in the restroom and heard a sniffing noise. I thought she was crying so I asked if she was Ok. She got mad at me and said to leave her alone. I went into the next stall, got on the toilet, and peeked over. I saw her doing cocaine and I got really scared. It felt like my heart would stop. I ran out and went to the car because I couldn't stand to see her face. All the memories of the past came rushing back and I started crying really hard. I keep on forgiving her but she always lets me down? Has anything like this ever happened to you?


Answers: My mother used to be a huge alcoholic, but she stopped that when I was 12 . After that she was hooked on pain medication like Dorvacet and now Vicodin. Those pills never made her seem high though so I let my guard down and started treating her like my mother again. I am now 17. Yesterday night we went with her boyfriend to eat at a restaurant and she said she had to go to the bathroom. She went but I had to go too so about a minute later I followed. I got in the restroom and heard a sniffing noise. I thought she was crying so I asked if she was Ok. She got mad at me and said to leave her alone. I went into the next stall, got on the toilet, and peeked over. I saw her doing cocaine and I got really scared. It felt like my heart would stop. I ran out and went to the car because I couldn't stand to see her face. All the memories of the past came rushing back and I started crying really hard. I keep on forgiving her but she always lets me down? Has anything like this ever happened to you?

I completely understand what you are going through, My mother was the same way. She is a spoiled brat that doesn't care about anyones feelings but her own. I went through a phase of "cutting". Not because I wanted to die but because it made me feel better to see my blood... I had grown so callous and the blood reminded me that I was human. I don't know my father (and I can tell your dad isn't in the picture either), so my Uncle noticed the cuts one day and him and the rest of my family had me thrown in the NIX psychiatric ward. It didn't really help except I felt better being around people who were going through problems like me. I made better friends there than I did anywhere else. But the staff was untrusting, the psychs didn't really listen or care, and it was a dead place. Everything was routine and I soon felt like really killing myself. I suggest looking into some good psychiatrists who own a private practice and CAN help you. They will be there to listen to you and help you push out all the things you have been hiding. Don't become a recluse or anything like that because its not good...

Also, I think maybe some time away from your mother will do you good. It may sound selfish to leave her but it's not. She is the selfish one. You need to sort out YOUR life so that you can be healthy and productive. If you have a relative or a friend who lives pretty far away then ask if you can stay with them for a couple of months. I left my mother in Texas and went to live with a relative is S. Dakota. It was one o the best times in my life. I forgot almost completely about my mother and was able to refresh myself and think about what I was going to do.

When I was away from that ball and chain, I actually felt free. And I started to love myself again. For once, I was number one in my life, not her.
I went for a year without talking to her. I moved out of the house and left everything behind. She didn't try to contact me so I felt I had done her a favor. When I found out I would be moving to Japan I went to see her to say goodbye. She looked healthy enough and we talked for a long time. She said sorry, I said sorry, and we agreed to keep in touch while I was away. After things like this happen to you and I it takes a long time to recover mentally. Don't rush it. Focus on yourself for now and ways of finding peace. Well, this is the first time I have ever mentioned this on the net, but I feel better. It's like you are giving a piece of your inner hate to the computer, lol. Anyways, good luck sweetie. Just stay away from your mother for a while and give yourself time to cool off. If you need anymore advice just email me. Its on my Y/A page.

Talking to the great people at the National Institute on Drug Abuse might help. They may be able to help you find support groups or other resources. http://www.nida.nih.gov/ Good luck!





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