How do improve your self worth (healing grief work)?!
Question: I have started some healing of past grief from childhood. I realise, I am not always in a mood to sob about issues from the past, which I find needs to be done to make the power of the wounds smaller and smaller.
How do you nurture and love yourself?
Has anyone here done anything like that? I feel I won't be ready for a long term commited relationship until I have developed some level of respect and love for my being. And I find I can only do that by owning the little child I was. I love kids. But I find I didn't love the younger me as much (because of family issues).
Do you have any suggestions?
Answers: I have started some healing of past grief from childhood. I realise, I am not always in a mood to sob about issues from the past, which I find needs to be done to make the power of the wounds smaller and smaller.
How do you nurture and love yourself?
Has anyone here done anything like that? I feel I won't be ready for a long term commited relationship until I have developed some level of respect and love for my being. And I find I can only do that by owning the little child I was. I love kids. But I find I didn't love the younger me as much (because of family issues).
Do you have any suggestions?
loving your self is the best gift you can give your self
More then likley your emotional state is due to family and how you were treated now you know that and you have to break away from that prison and leave it in the past
It is somtimes hard to move forward and it is somthing we have to do.
love your self for who you are and the strength that you have now and the mind that you have now Relationships can wait
being happy with who you are is very important
We do not choose the family we are born into and some people are just not made to be parents but that is no fault of ours we did not choose these People, you have to remember
who you are what you would like to accomplish in this short dance of life and start to dance
close the chapter and open a new one
One that lets you be who you are with out any regret or anger of the past as it has made you grow
If kids come in your future just remember don't do i the way your parents did it to you raise them with the love and respect you nevr had a chance to have,
Step forward and keep walking that way and you will find your happiness
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I have had some major trauma in my life as well. I would suggest therapy using EMDR to help you work on that. I actually have some PTSD that I carried unkowingly for many years.
To help build up yourself I would suggest surrounding yourself with good people, going to school, taking up a hobby, and doing activities that are healthy for you. Isolating yourself is the worst. Getting my college degree was a major accomplishment for me and it really helped see that I am not that scared girl anymore.
Do something you can be proud of every job has level of satisfaction at one stage or another or just go out and do something you've never done before like sky diving don't just say na just do it you'll have the time of your life.
It's better then missing out.
Stop thinking about the younger you. Focus on you going forward. The way I learned to love myself was I decided to take up hobbies that I really enjoyed and I became good at them, which gave me confidence. Then I went back to school and gained even more confidence in myself and I'm proud of myself. Now I feel like I can do anything. The past is the past, it is out of your control, but the future is in your control.
The younger you and the you that you are today are the same person.....the only advice i can give you is to always be positive, on anything you do, always be positive....also, you have to be strong and always believe in yourself, just think that there are other people in this world that are going through worse things than you....trust me, it helps...........oh, and another thing, dont even consider Scientology, thats crazy crap.
find ownesly who is at fault then review why, why may not come easy to you, but do not stop moving foward. search for forgiveness and teach other about it, make sure the process give you empowerment! seen other avoid this do to you assistance will help you to heal!
Go to the greates healer of all, Jesus. He will take your hand and guide you thru your pain and heal your wounds. He will hug you dearly close to his heart with a love you have never experienced before. He shed his blood in exchange for your tears, His heart bled in exchange for your hurt and He died so that you can live an abundant life. Try praying to Him, He is waiting with opened arms. Receive his sacrifice, receive his love and welcome the beautiful, happy life He has in store for you. I will pray for you with love.
You need to empower yourself. Do things the make you feel successful or something that gives you the rewarding feeling, or congratulations. Accept your past. You have done whatever it is that you did and you cannot change it, let it instead change yourself. Or maybe something has happened to you. If so, remember that we are not omniscient and all controlling. It was out of your hand. It happened. I have done soo many things that I have regret soo badly for doing. But I pick up and move on, just forge ahead. I have cried, for a guy I admit to crying more times that any else will reveal. It hurts to bring it back, yes. But look at your options and choose the best one. You are not alone. You are loved; love yourself for being who you are and being loved by others. And be sure to love others and nurture them to, because going at it alone is the hardest.
Visualize yourself in a rocking chair. You have a warm blanket on your lap. You are in a safe place. Now visualize your younger self going to the comfortable, safe, you, in that rocking chair. The younger you gets in your lap and puts its head on your shoulder. put your arms around that child and say there, there, you are safe. You take care of you.
Good for you. Im proud of you.