Why cant i look people in the eyes?!
Question: I have a hard time making eye contact with alot of people. I lose concentration and look away. I think i push people away, give off a vibe that i dont want to talk and im wanting to take off asap. Its really bad for me, i dont like people looking into my eyes. I cant really figure this out, any advice?
Answers: I have a hard time making eye contact with alot of people. I lose concentration and look away. I think i push people away, give off a vibe that i dont want to talk and im wanting to take off asap. Its really bad for me, i dont like people looking into my eyes. I cant really figure this out, any advice?
Try gradually working on eye to eye contact. Instead of trying to concentrate on their eyes 100%, just start out by making eye contact for a short amount of time and see if that helps. ALso, when you make eye contact, attempt to smile (if it is the right situation) and you will notice the person who you are talking to will become somewhat more open and easier to make eye contact with.
Everyone has a different personality and different life experiences which contribute to self-esteem and other factors related to eye contact. Just continuosly remind yourself that you are a great person who anyone, in their right mind, would want to talk to and then gradually try to accept that.
good luck!
i have the same problem
you may look at the middle of the eyes.. it works u know!
You are an introvert.
I can't do this either!!
Fear, i guess. But i don't know what i fear..
You're too shy..
Try stare at ppl eyes until they turn away, you will used to it..
that's the same with me: most of the time i dont even look at their face! some ppl say im just shy :(
i find the same thing happens to me with certain people, just try and make eye contact for like 2 seconds, adn next time try 3
i know it sounds stupid but it works, just be really happy and light hearted when talkijng, so they dont think your trying to leave
same problem here, i guess we're shy? and i feel exteremly confident with sexuality but i feel gay when i'm talking to other guys while looking in the eye, anyone else the same?
Force yourself to do it. You make much stronger connections with people and you have a harder time hiding. If that sounds scary then you need to build your confidence and talk to a professional about it. Usually people who do this are scared of revealing themselves through their own eyes.
I always watch their mouth while they're blabbing! LOL Hey, it takes all the seriousness out of having to appear like your making eye contact.
You have low self esteem.
When I was young and inexperience, I wouldn't
look no one in the eye.
When I got mad enough and wouldn't take it any more
now they turn away from me!
It depends on your cultural background. I noticed that I never give constant eye contact when talking to people... I always break it at some point but return. I've only made constant eye contact when in an argument or confronting someone. Additionally, I make less eye contact with a person of authority. I tend to briefly look down and briefly look in the eyes for them to know I'm listening with utmost respect.
Actually, I think it's the same with animals. Never stare a dog straight in his/her eyes because it means you're confronting them. Same goes for cats...they just run away rather than stand ground.
When I was younger, I couldn't look people in the eyes. It just means you lack confidence. The best thing to do is stand tall and be proud of yourself. Practice looking people in the eye. You just have to practice doing this in situations when you are in public. It takes a little while to be more confident, but you just have to learn how to manage your fear of looking people in the eyes.
First of all, u have to relax!
Clear ur mind and just focus into their eyes..just simply look and talk.Maybe u can try with talking and look into their eyes for few seconds, a few times and look away.. then u look again and look away..
When u think a lot u will becomes shy and that makes u look away.
I have the same problem. I feel like my eyes give me away a lot so I don't look people in their eye.
Your missing out on socializing.maybe its because you have low self esteem , but hey I'm no doctor perhaps you should try looking at your self in the mirror and have a conversation with yourself then try having a conversation with someone who is close to you and so on and so on until you feel better talking to strangers.
i'm the same, although i find that it only happens with people i don't know that well, or those who are more 'superior' than myself.
this is a bad habit i do this a lot people tell me its because im real shy but im taking classes right now where im constantly being stared at so its getting some what easier for me if you get used to making eye contact it will be good for job interviews trust me
Females in the past, in general have traditionally been taught to look away from a mans eyes because he may get the wrong impression as to why you're looking at him
If you have problems looking at females too, It could be because you have not developed that maturity and or self confidence to do so, Relax. You're normal. Try this. Begin looking at people in friendly setting such as a public library. Just glance at first and tell yourself well i improved Keep doing it until you can increase your length of tI'me. Each tI'me, say to yourself im getting stronger and im not afraid. I can do this Then try liking at your friends, family ETC. In a short period of time you will achieve your goal I can feel your eyes growing confidence right now as i type. I have confidence in you. You go girl.
Don't worry. It's more common than you think. I'll bet you look someone in the eyes when they ask you a question. Hardly anyone keeps constant eye contact with someone they are talking to. In some cases it actually raises your blood pressure to do this.
Force yourself to look, initially, in the area between the two eyes and the nose. Focus on the middle since the eyes are what put you off (just like I did), and hopefully with time this will familiarise you with the fact that there no big deal.
Now, I look into the person's eyes forcefully, as if I can hear my mum say "look into those eyes or else!"
Well... at times you might rather have some to look you in the eyes when you would ask certain things !?! I mean SOME even claim to be able to tell if some rRr lion !?! &*? lol I mean telling a LIE !?!Even some liars can look you right in the face/eyes & "LIE" !! but to look away during or after saying something gives some the impression that you just might be tellling a LIE !?! "It's basically a no/win situation !! either way !?! I'm sorry this is one I know I do'nt have "Thee,' best answer or advice about!?! Even if you did look someone in the eyes & tells trths,' It's a good chance you wo'nt be believed anyway !?! See what I mean ? . Just keep doing things as you'd do them is the best I could say !! & <G/L>~!!! `'R"r.r`a`wWw'r,r'.-
I think u r shy...or u may suffer from low self esteem....I did this when I was younger....I was shy and sensitive...and it made me feel self conscious to look people directly in the eye...I'm pretty much over it...but still from time to time I catch myself doing it.....
You're an introvert or antisocial, or quite possibly have social anxiety. I'm the same way but for a certain physical reason and I don't want to draw attention to that area.
Anyway, over time I've come up with a way of dealing with it. When I meet someone or say hi to someone I already know I make eye contact at first for a few seconds. Then I keep my body facing them but look away at their feet. But head up, eyes down. And try to have a look of concentration. So my body language is saying I'm paying attention but I don't have to stare into their eyes.
Make eye contact everytime you respond though. It's just part of social interaction.
You might just be a very intelligent person and boring conversation is a turn off for you. I like good conversation but if someone goes on with a "run-on sentence" , I tend to start thinking about something else and lose track of the conversation. Short attention spans sometimes have reason and like one person said, you might be introverted. That's not really a bad thing, but it does affect us socially. You may also be a little shy.
I personally have a problem looking in the eyes of girls that I'm attracted to. I usually look away or look down, and I need to get over that. It's tough when you have certain fears. The weird part is that I haven't ever been without a girlfriend for a long period of time but yet I'm still shy.