Sorry to say it... advice and goodbye...?!


Question: Okay, I know you all are going to give me a ton of sh it for this, but I quite obviously don't give a damn. I am not asking for sympathy or 'saviors'. I am not going to call a doctor, admit myself to the ER. Been there, done that, and that is not what I want.

Does anyone have any PERSONAL opinions or beliefs that could be of any service to me? I am trying to snap out of this, and it seems pathetic for me to be asking this on Yahoo! Answers, I am sure. But I truly just want people to be honest with me and give me their takes on life. Don't give me a bunch of bullsh it, please. If you have nothing worthy of consideration, keep your damn comments to yourself. This is for people with some degree of intellect- no dumbasses, please.

I am planning, hoping, to finally succeed at offing myself tomorrow. I have a well-thought out and tested plan, and I don't see much room for failure. It really is a relief, to be honest, to know I am so close to finally leaving.

Goddamnit. Okay, shoot


Answers: Okay, I know you all are going to give me a ton of sh it for this, but I quite obviously don't give a damn. I am not asking for sympathy or 'saviors'. I am not going to call a doctor, admit myself to the ER. Been there, done that, and that is not what I want.

Does anyone have any PERSONAL opinions or beliefs that could be of any service to me? I am trying to snap out of this, and it seems pathetic for me to be asking this on Yahoo! Answers, I am sure. But I truly just want people to be honest with me and give me their takes on life. Don't give me a bunch of bullsh it, please. If you have nothing worthy of consideration, keep your damn comments to yourself. This is for people with some degree of intellect- no dumbasses, please.

I am planning, hoping, to finally succeed at offing myself tomorrow. I have a well-thought out and tested plan, and I don't see much room for failure. It really is a relief, to be honest, to know I am so close to finally leaving.

Goddamnit. Okay, shoot

Rocket. Something about what you wrote was striking as I skimmed through a few questions, so I stopped and read this with care. I saw that here is something incredibly real and honest, even though you don't come out and say what you want. So, I stopped and read your profile and some of your answeres to other people. Please stop and read it, too and review some of the other things you've said here.

You've had good times and crushingly bad times and know that your mood will swing again. You give good advice and have touched people here, just by your honesty and compassion.

I've been in some very dark places myself, but have a life I love now. I know a few people, some of the most interesting, joyous and compelling folks - some of the people that make me thrilled to be human, who have shared stories of turmoil and of the times they tried to kill themselves of youthful years they can't quite believe they survived.

Here's one brief story. I was terribly burned in an accident, spending months in a hospital getting surgery and skin grafts and struggling to get my life back. I learned to walk again, to eat (I have to use different muscles to swallow)... and I love being alive. Through this I met someone who was burned when s/he attempted suicide (I'm trying to protect privacy, because some people know me by this name), it wasn't the first attempt. S/he lost the use of fingers, had to undergo many many surgeries and is disfigured. Somehow in the process of the fight to live, in the process of growing up, and also getting medications and therapy that worked a bit better, s/he lost the intensity of the depressions and gained some sense of purpose. S/he regrets the damage the burns caused and the excruciating pain - but is very glad to be alive and I thrilled to have this friend in my life. Who knows what would have happened if s/he'd hung in there a while longer or if s/he'd found another path to thriving and survival.

You've got a lot of wisdom already at a young age, and you have the strength that comes from knowing what its like to have a really bad day. You've become aware of the pain suicides inflict on others. You know that your depressed suicidal times are temporary, even if they have returned too many times.

Send me a message next week, please. I almost never come here.

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I'm sorry that you're life sucks enough that it has gotten to this point. :-(

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sorry i dont have much to say, besides sending you a link to a youtube account with some info that maybe able to help you. i hope it does. just dont give up! no threats here, or this answer/question thing will be deleted. be safe. i hope!

Is your life so bad that you would end it by suicide?

I know you said you dont want to be told not to kill yourself, but in my opinion, no matter how bad life gets, there IS NOTHING ELSE, and theyre nothing worse than that. I think you should give yourself more time, and just think about what more you could do to keep happy or entertained. Call some friends or parents, ask for money, and go on a trip someplace you want to see. Thats what I would do-its worth while and if after you feel the same, then at least you got to do it before you died.

If you DO kill yourself tomorrow then, well, I hope you had a good run..

Don't do it. Everything and I mean everything in life is about your perception. Bear with me, but here is an example of what I mean. If you were walking down a sidewalk on a sunny day in a nice part of town and you felt a tap on the shoulder, you would turn around and see what was up. Now envision the same scenerio, but you are on a sidewalk in a bad part of town and it is getting dark and you get a tap on the shoulder. You would be crapping in your pants. Why ? Because of your perception of the situation. The action was the same, the setting was different and therefore your perception was different. One you were fine and curious, the other you were scared.

Life is the same way, your perception right now is that life sucks. And maybe things aren't that good right now, but like my example above, one thing that you can do to help yourself is to change your setting. If it is so bad that you have gotten to this point, then anything else that you do can't be worse than what you are planning. That being said, find a new job, move, join a few new organizations (gym, book reading club etc ...) change your setting.

There are meds that can help, if you've tried and they didn't work, try different ones, get a different doctor.

Perceptions change, give yourself a chance to change them. Go to Borders tomorrow and buy a book called "Cognative Behavioral Therapy For Dummies", read it and give it a chance, you can change.

Hang in there.

Why are you so mean to your friends. Making them pay with tears for being your friend.

Sounds like you are looking for someone to give you a magic answer, one that will give you a reason to live...but

Life is not easy...nor is it fair.

I truly believe that each person on this earth needs to be needed and loved. If you don't have this then you've probably developed a real self hatred and no one is going to be able to talk you out of anything...let alone provide you with any kind of meaningful answer .

Do you believe in anything greater than yourself?

Yes, like God ... Jehovah? You might consider the comfort in knowing you don't have to feel so alone if you reach out to those who believe ....that life is precious and each one of us has something inside that is very special ....

You know your heart and mind. If you have a plan to take your life than you really must not think very much of yourself. Life is precious...but you have to know that...believe that. You need to be loved...so reach out for and look for something greater than yourself...Learn to live.

God bless...

look it may seem that life just plain out sucks

but you really have to think about what your about to do....

and its not like every one has a perfect life for instance i have a mom who doesnt give a **** about me and is counting the days until i leave her sight.

but (i know this is really gay) but i look on the brightside you know like when she yells at me and calls me a stupid ***** i just smile and walk away

ok so maybe theres so much more to why you want to make this decesion....but come on there must be something worth living for


but i really hope this helps

I read your profile. You seem like such an intelligent, articulate and interesting person. I know people who would give their right arm to have those qualities. Please reconsider. You're only 16....things will improve, I promise.

hey i want to kill mmyself too i was gonna on tuesday night and havent gotting another chance yet so how do u plan on doing i was gonna take a shi t load of sleeping pills and pain killers and just go in the bath room sit in the tub and slit my wrist but i fell asleep i kno how u feel i only wish i was dead but if my friend finds out that i attept again he'll call the cops and they'll take me away and that i cant deal with so yea

im sorry that ur that unhappy and if i could give my life for your happyness i would so i hope u'll be okay

I think you're being a tad bit selfish, sweetie, not to mention a little melodramatic. I'm not trying to be a b itch or give you
s hit, but I honestly think that you need to stop focusing on yourself so much and start thinking about the people who are going to hurt, and are going to spend the rest of their lives doing so, because of what you're about to do.

I read your bio. You are 16? You have a lot of life ahead of you. I understand that you have some medical problems and I do understand that that can be depressing and difficult to live with. I'm not sympathetic, however. I don't feel bad for you, because "Wisdom comes through suffering." I am empathetic, just in case you misinterpret that.

Life is difficult. If it wasn't, it wouldn't be worth it. I have seen a great deal of suffering and pain and just a lot of nasty, horrible s hit. I've woken up and wanted to die. I've thought about, attempted it and regretted it ever since. My father, who I love dearly and is the strongest man I know, sat on the hospital bed and looked at me and broke down. My grandfather committed suicide many years ago, and was "successful", and my grandmother has never been the same since. It is almost as if part of her has died, as well. She never really got over it.

What I'm trying to tell you is to buck up and accept your troubles. If you can't live for yourself, than live for your parents, siblings, friends and grand parents, etc. I want you to picture each and everyone of them and think about how they're going to feel and how their life is going to change and how they will hurt from your death. If, at the end of that reflection, you decide you either don't care or their pain is not enough to deter you from this, then make your deciosion as to whether or not you're going to do this.

Life's a b itch, but it's all we've got. All you can do is accept that and carry on and try to make it better. I pity you, you seem think you have so little to live for and seem to have such a low sense of self-worth. I hope you decide not to do this. I'm sure your family and the people who love would agree with me.

I know you probably don't like anything I've told you, but you asked for my honest opinion and now you've got it.





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