I cut myself when I'm mad and depressed?!
Question: I'm 17 and have been cutting for 4years. I know I'm addicted. When I cut myself I'm only thinking about how much better I will feel. I have a lot of self hate. I told my best friend a few months ago. She told me she has to tell my mom or her mom. I lied and said I don't cut anymore so she did not tell. I don't want to stop but I know I need to. Should I tell her? I really don't want to stop if I tell I know I will have to. I'm just scared.
Answers: I'm 17 and have been cutting for 4years. I know I'm addicted. When I cut myself I'm only thinking about how much better I will feel. I have a lot of self hate. I told my best friend a few months ago. She told me she has to tell my mom or her mom. I lied and said I don't cut anymore so she did not tell. I don't want to stop but I know I need to. Should I tell her? I really don't want to stop if I tell I know I will have to. I'm just scared.
You may be suprised to know that a lot of people cut or they pick at scabs or cause themselves sores....and almost all who do compare it to a letting out and very relieving. Self abuse is very very very very common and takes on many forms besides the the 2 I mentioned. I would like to encourage you not to tell anyone directly close to you, but to go to a school counselor with this issue....the reason for what I say is because loved ones take it personally, a school counselor is much more capable of getting you hooked up with people who would be very interested in meeting you, getting to know you and even show you different ways of letting out without hurting yourself.Which would be nice as you enter adulthood and very nice before you ever have children of your own, so you could know what to tell your own kids should they encure the same dilema.You could tell your parents, it is up to you and hopefully they will be mature about it, but most people are shocked. Cutting is not deemed sociably acceptable.I work in the area of mental health and I will tell you that what you do is called a behavior and if it gets out of control and someone finds you out they can admit you to a facility like the one I work in. While the behavior is addictive. the reality of what you do is the thing that is most scarrey and the consequences could be even more scarrey if you don't gain others insight and others experience with your cutting. I would like to encourage you at the least to talk to peope such as your school counselor who can direct you to the right people who can explore other ways for you to let out pain, anger ect......I listen to heavy metal music that often speaks for the angriness I feel inside that way I don't risk blowing up or breaking my hand by punching walls or another in the mouth.Although this is pretty much frivolus at the first few tries, it gets easier and easier to do with a bit of practice. Another thing you can do is find people who are like minded and like behavior and get to know them. Thers nothing more consoling than to talk to people who at least understand what you do and why.
Yes tell her. You know ur in danger.
tell her you need help
cutting youself doesnt make anything better but worse
tell them
and they will help
my best friend did this for a very long time. i ended up telling her mom and she as able to talk about why she did it and figured out her problem. you really need to tell someone, if not your mom a teacher you trust. trust me, you deserve better!
yes you need help. if you dont stop then one day you can really hurt yourself or worse. if you dont tell someone. then your friend should because cutting is dangerous. please get help. if you dont mind me asking. why do you cut. what is so painful that whatever i hurting you leads you to cut yourself if you wanna tell me. email me please. i do wanna help.
You need help and to talk to a professional. Go to your guidance counselor and ask for help.
See anger management, and self harm, in sections 4, and 16, below* and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm. My standard post on depression follows, but antidepressants are unsuitable for young people. See depression treatments, at ezy-build *(below) in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, as well, at http://www.mercola.com and avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at * http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 HYDROXYVITAMIN D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol/l. It should be above 32 ng/ml. Visit your school counselor.
no i wouldnt tell her i kno how u feel ive been cutting for 3 years but im only 14 and im tring to stop too in the last 2 days i have cut myself 50 times and now im trying to stop so try to use a ruber band and snap it when u want to cut....
there are so many people that cut. i know you don't want to stop but it really is dangerous and you really have to stop. you really should tell someone and you really should see a psychologist. when ur hurting so much emotionally people hurt themselves phsycially to replace the pain. they rather would hurt physcially or it also relieves the emotional pain by cutting yourself as i'm sure you know. i know you're scared but you really need help. try putting a rubberband on your wrist where you cut yourself and flick it hard. you can use it as a substitute instead of cutting yourself.
your friend will feel like an idiot if you dont tell her, but should you really get her heavily involved? tell you mom straight and forget about letting this rule your life.