Feeling low and depressed?!
Question: im 18, in college (UK) im really bored with my life, i have nothing to do, no real friends to make me laugh or go out, im finding it hard to even explain this. I come back from college everyday feeling low because i have no social life.All i do is try doing my college work which kills time but apart from that im not happy. I only like weekends for rest but i dont look forward to weekends because i have nothing to do. I really do feel my life should come to an end because ive never been happy and when i do feel ive found happiness it doesnt last long. I suffer from other peoples happiness. I feel jealous other people my age are enjoying themselves and im left out. People my age should look forward to clubbing etc because in time they will not have time to do these sort of things once married. Deep down i know when i will look back at my life in a later age i will realise i did not make the most of my teen life because im a total loser. I just dont know
Answers: im 18, in college (UK) im really bored with my life, i have nothing to do, no real friends to make me laugh or go out, im finding it hard to even explain this. I come back from college everyday feeling low because i have no social life.All i do is try doing my college work which kills time but apart from that im not happy. I only like weekends for rest but i dont look forward to weekends because i have nothing to do. I really do feel my life should come to an end because ive never been happy and when i do feel ive found happiness it doesnt last long. I suffer from other peoples happiness. I feel jealous other people my age are enjoying themselves and im left out. People my age should look forward to clubbing etc because in time they will not have time to do these sort of things once married. Deep down i know when i will look back at my life in a later age i will realise i did not make the most of my teen life because im a total loser. I just dont know
Hey don't worry too much about deliberately rebelling 'cos everyone else is. I know how you feel, believe me - I had pretty much no social life up until my 3rd year of uni. I think my rebellion was just being me and not forcing myself to do things I wasn't that interested in just because they were fashionable. Also, comparing yourself to "people your age" will make you old before your time. The fact that others who were born around the same time as you are doing a particular thing doesn't make it mandatory, or specific to a particular age group. I know 50 year olds who go clubbing and 18 year olds who sit at home listening to the Archers on the weekend!
If you're interested in finding people who share the same intrerests as you, why not have a look and see if there are any clubs or societies at your college that you could join? If you have trouble talking to people you don't know, perhaps having something to talk about might give you somewere to start. Who knows, you could end up becoming a party animal!
Whatever you do, try to go into situations with a little optimism, or at least hope. If you're always expecting the worst you'll never be disappointed, but think positive and just maybe something will go right. The only way you'll waste the time you have is in telling yourself you're wasting it, or that you're a loser. You've got half a century at least until you're "officially" old, so why decide now how you'll feel in the dusk of your days? Oh yeah, and when you "find happiness", don't sit around expecting and waiting for it to find someone else, assume it's picked you for a good reason and hold onto it gently but securely instead of squashing it like a bug that's about to bite you.
On the depression side of things, have you contacted the Depression Alliance? You'd be amazed how many people feel the same things you do, and the Depression Alliance website has contacts and advice to help you. Depression is often made worse by the lack of light in winter, which may be why you're feeling particularly low at the moment, so I'd suggest getting a "daylight" bulb for the light in your room - makeup artists use them as they're tinted to mimic natural light- and if it's on when you're in the room you might feel a little better, not to mention it's cheaper than a light box.
If all else fails, close the window, pick up the phone and call the Samaritans. Talking to someone REALLY HELPS, and they won't mind if you scream like a banshee, sob like a baby, or swear like a pirate's parrot.
Maybe all of us severely depressed people should form a club and do radical things to shock ourselves back into "normal" (and by that I mean functional).
I mean it we could try to save Britney Spears or try to stop Global Warming, build orphanages in South Africa ...you know really DO something.
College is a lot of work, how much free time do you have? You are not a loser. If you need things to do, go to the gym, join a campus club, go to the Baptist Student Union, just make some new contacts and try to get busy. If you are feeling sorry for yourself, find someone YOU can help and do things for them. That usually gets the focus off yourself. Good luck.
Well teen life usually sucks for most people. However what is important here is why you dont feel good. I would start talking with a school counselor or someone that can help you with this. If you felt a bit better you would feel like interacting with other people. I have been in a similar situation before and instead of talking to someone I ended up in the hospital and after that I felt even more different and alone, but I did finally find a social worker that I could talk to and I have a voice.Try to express what is going on with you. There are lots of people going through the same thing this exact moment.
Hi Lee, my name is Ann and i used to be a teenager lol... when i was your age i got involved with Age Concern and it gave me a wonderful sense of self worth. Have you ever thought of doing some voluntary work, it can be very rewarding... You really must do something and real quick coz on Wednesday i had my 52nd birthday and believe me it only feels like yesterday that i too was 18. All the best from Ann.
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